- Lauren LaRusso, 38, from Connecticut, is an expert on infidelity
- She went viral after sharing her list of ‘things to do instead of having an affair’
- Critics believed her therapist’s advice would only lead to a divorce
A therapist has revealed how to avoid being unfaithful when tempted to cheat and save your marriage.
Lauren LaRusso, 38, of Connecticut, is an infidelity specialist who offers “solution-focused counseling” to individuals and couples struggling with infidelity in their relationships.
LaRusso went viral after sharing her list of ‘three things to do instead of having an affair’ – and many found the advice surprising.
Connecticut therapist Lauren LaRusso, 38, went viral after sharing her list of ‘three things to do instead of having an affair’
Known as “The Affair Consultant,” the infidelity specialist offers “solution-focused consultations” for individuals and couples struggling with infidelity in their relationships.
“Being attracted to other people, even when you’re married or in a serious relationship, is normal. After all, we’re not dead yet,” she began.
THREE THINGS TO DO INSTEAD OF CHEATING
- Treat temptation as a red flag and talk to your partner about your feelings.
- Ask your partner to see a couples counselor so that you have a neutral space to explore your issues.
- Look within and ask yourself what your unmet needs and wants are.
“But if you feel tempted to pull out of your marriage and have an affair or be unfaithful, consider that a serious warning sign for your marriage.”
Instead of acting impulsively, she suggested preventive measures to help you get to the root of your desire to cheat and strengthen your relationship.
“You can go to your spouse and use that as a red flag,” she explained. “Say something like, ‘I think our marriage is in danger. Let’s talk about how I feel.”‘
“Ask to speak openly and explore why you might be feeling this and what vulnerabilities are happening in your marriage,” she added in the caption.
The therapist also advised asking your spouse or partner to see a couple counselor, saying that a “third party” can provide a safe and neutral space to explore any issues, needs or desires.
“Ask yourself what you need and want and are driven to seek outside of marriage,” she said.
“Those three options are much healthier and certainly more productive and less destructive than having an affair,” she concluded.
LaRusso advised you to talk to your spouse or partner about your feelings and consider seeing a couples counselor.
“Ask yourself what you need and want and are driven to seek outside of marriage,” she concluded.
LaRusso’s video has been viewed more than 1.1 million times, but was met by critics who thought it was the “dumbest piece of advice ever”.
LaRusso’s video has been viewed more than 1.1 million times and received hundreds of comments, but not everyone was impressed with the advice.
“As soon as you say any of these three things in a relationship, it’s doomed,” one person insisted.
“You forgot number 4 which is to bury your feelings of being attracted to someone else with a shovel and then bury the shovel,” someone else replied.
“Or you can be an adult and control your urges. What’s wrong with people? another added.
A number of men also insisted their wives would be furious if they admitted they were considering cheating.
“Great advice, but how can husbands do 1 and 2 without their wives stabbing us in the face?” ” asked a man.
“My marriage wouldn’t have lasted a month if I had told my wife every time I wanted to sleep with a new girl at work,” someone else commented.
“All steps lead to the death of the husband,” said another.