A relationship expert has warned new couples to have the “big talk” about sex as soon as possible to avoid being stuck with “boring sex 10 years later”.
Sex and relationship expert Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn appeared on the 90s Baby Show podcast with South London hosts Fred Santana, Temi Alchemy and VP to emphasise the importance of communicating your sexual desires.
In a video shared to InstagramThe specialist, who recently sparked controversy when she said sexually inactive men could end up with a shrunken penis, said the “big talk” was crucial as it helped her partner learn about her favourite “sex toys and kinks”.
For those who feared offending their other half with the flashy topic, she suggested ways to approach the conversation subtly.
Breaking it down into two main concepts, she explained: ‘Macrosexual communication and microsexual communication; macrosexual communication has to do with your sex life.
Sex and relationship expert Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (pictured) has warned new couples to have the “big talk” about sex as soon as possible to avoid “having boring sex 10 years later”.
‘For example, if you’re interested in trying new things, exploring new kinks, new toys, that’s a conversation you have outside of the bedroom, outside of your home in a relaxed environment.’
The expert, who is also an associate professor at California State University, instructed couples to try saying, “Hey babe, let’s talk about sex,” or “What do we want to try this year? What’s something new that maybe we’ve been thinking about that we want to share with each other?”
She stressed that “every couple needs to have this conversation” and if not, “they would end up getting bored 10 years after having boring sex.”
“You’ll notice that it’s very difficult to mention sex now because I don’t want to offend my partner,” she continued.
“It’s necessary to have this conversation early in a relationship, but it’s never too late. Even if you’ve been together for 10 years, you can still do it.”
She reiterated the importance of “preparing” for that conversation and jokingly encouraged viewers to tell their partners that they heard about the “big talk” on the 90s Baby Show.
She concluded: “If you have open conversations about sex more regularly, you will have a happier sex life in a long-term relationship.”
In an interview with the Podcast Making It In 2022, he explained that microcommunication addresses “everyday” issues such as “sexual initiation, aftercare.”
She appeared on the 90s Baby Show podcast with South London presenters Fred Santana (bottom left), Temi Alchemy (bottom right) and VP (top left) to emphasise the importance of communicating your sexual desires.
Tara said the “big talk” was crucial because it helped your partner learn about your favorite “kinks and sex toys.” She also broke the conversation down into two concepts: micro-level sexual communication and macro-level sexual communication.
“It’s dirty talk. It’s sexting,” she continued. “The little things you do in a day to… oh, God, I hate the word ‘spice up the sex.’ It’s really to keep, let’s say, it’s to keep the passion going.”
Meanwhile, according to an intimacy coach, scheduling moments of pleasure into your diary could be the key to mind-blowing sex.
To have the best sex, people over 40 should schedule it into their diary and discuss what will happen in the bedroom to ensure mutual satisfaction, Ruth Ramsay explained.
To avoid misunderstandings, it’s much safer to ask someone if you can kiss them first, revealed the expert, who helps couples improve their sex life.
She said people need to let go of the idea that scheduled sex isn’t romantic and start planning it and discussing what it will entail.
Ruth told the Mail: ‘We’re married to this idea of passionate, spontaneous, wordless sex, but in middle age, in long-established relationships, planning sex and knowing it’s going to happen can produce more desire.
‘We shouldn’t treat sex as something we do spontaneously if we have time, after everything else in life, from work to housework to life management to childcare, is done.
‘This is how people go weeks or months without having sex at all.
“It’s better to treat it like a hobby, where you dedicate an hour to it, because it’s important to you and you want to make sure it comes to fruition.”
