A woman has become a TikTok sensation after revealing what day-to-day life is like as a funeral director, while winning over fans with her remarkably relaxed attitude towards death.
Inez Capps, 32, a funeral director who runs Kinton and Daughter with her parents in Long Eaton, Nottingham, has recently amassed thousands of followers for her understanding but sensible attitude towards the end of life.
The popular TikTok star, who now has more than 100,000 followers on the social media platform, recently appeared on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour, where she spoke candidly with presenter, Nuala McGovern, about her unusual profession and the taboos around it. They surround her.
Discussing why she started making videos on TikTok, Inez told the Radio 4 presenter: “I just wanted to show people that behind this name, of a funeral director and drivers, there was a human being behind it and that human being can be very accessible.”
She also revealed everything she’s done to make funeral services special for families, including some extravagant requests.
Inez previously dressed as Wonder Woman and sported a ‘full Star Trek outfit’ for a family who were particularly fans of the sci-fi show.
She also danced at the funeral of a person with a passion for line dancing.
Even though Inez was able to see the brighter side of death, she talked to Nuala about why she thinks some people find it so uncomfortable to think and talk about.
A woman has become a TikTok sensation after revealing the secret life of a funeral director – and fans are falling in love with her realistic approach to death.
Inez Capps, 32, (pictured), a funeral director who runs Kinton and Daughter with her parents in Long Eaton, Nottingham, has recently amassed thousands of followers for her understanding but no-nonsense attitude to death.
She said: “People used to think ‘no, I don’t want to talk about it’ because they thought if they talked about it, maybe it would happen.” That’s very, very generational.
“But the problem that happens is that if you don’t talk about it, your family doesn’t know what to do.”
‘But simply inform your families if you wish to be cremated or if you wish to have a burial or natural burial. Just let them know what you want but also what you don’t want.’
Reflecting on how she feels about her job, Inez said: “When I take care of that person, when I do their makeup and everything, I give them back their identity because sometimes they take it away when they’re in a nursing home or in the hospital, they can become your illness.
“But when they’re gone, what I can do is bring them back themselves.”
When answering what her own plans were for the funeral, Inez responded that her plans were “whatever my family wants to do.”
‘If they want to cremate me and scatter my ashes, then they can do it. If they want a place where they can go to remember me and bury me, then that’s absolutely fine.
“I only have one request and that is that you have a shiny black coffin.”
Inez has been in the profession since she was just 19 years old, after first seeing her father, a carriage master, taking a call at a nursing home.
Since then, she’s amassed a loyal following by documenting her work on TikTok, where she takes viewers on tours of morgues, explains funeral procedures, and answers people’s burning questions about the final journey we’ll all take one day.
Inez has been in the profession since she was just 19 years old, after first seeing her father, a carriage master, taking a call at a nursing home.
Her content includes videos of mortuary tours, explanations of funeral procedures, and she enthusiastically answers questions any of her followers may have.
In a recent video, he revealed to his followers what cremated ashes look like, showing them a spreader tube containing the remains and how the tube is labeled.
In another clip, Inez revealed that family members are even allowed to sit next to the coffin cart when attending the funeral.
‘If you would like to accompany your loved one on their final journey, we can facilitate this in the hearse. You can sit with them, we have done it on many occasions.
“We’ve done this for couples, for sons and daughters who just want to be closer to their person.”
In a video, she described how she and her family, who run funeral homes with her, offer families the opportunity to see their loved ones in a bed rather than in caskets, which she describes as “barriers.”
“We feel like being able to be closer to your loved one, it’s not as hard as being in the casket, which is very final.”
The popular TikTok star, who now has more than 100,000 followers on the platform, recently appeared on Woman’s Hour, where she spoke candidly with host Nuala McGovern about her taboo profession.
Despite her resistance, Inez has admitted that she is not immune to the emotional aspect of funerals.
Speaking in an interview with The timesShe admitted that she cries at most services and sometimes finds the experience exhausting.
She told the publication that she had previously struggled with her mental health.
“I got to a point where I think I was taking on too many people’s pain,” he said. “I went home and didn’t disconnect.”
But now he takes pride in his work and regularly engages with his followers on TikTok.
While many funeral directors offer additional services for excess costs, Inez and her family do not charge extra, except to cover costs, to ensure the families’ wishes are met and respected.
He even admitted that he can’t remember the last time he participated in a “traditional” funeral.
She told the publication that she now has a healthier outlook on life and doesn’t take anything for granted.