I’m A Dating Coach: Here’s What It Means When A Guy Gets Hot And Cold And What You Should Do About It.
A dating coach has shared advice on what to do if you’re interested in a man who’s ‘blowing hot and cold’.
Benjamin Daly is a UK-based trainer and content creator who has more than 1.2 million followers on TikTok.
She often shares videos on dating topics and has created content on topics including how to deal with breakups and what to do if you think too much when it comes to relationships.
In a recent shortenBenjamin discussed dating situations where one of the partners blows ‘hot and cold’.
By this he means that he shows different levels of interest, sometimes being very engaged and interested, and other times showing no interest at all.
Benjamin Daly (pictured) is a dating coach and content creator who makes TikTok videos about relationship issues.
During the video, the dating coach shared his point of view on why people do this and what you can do in response.
He says, ‘This is why that guy is being hot and cold because he’s not sure about you or the relationship.
‘Listen, don’t waste your time trying to convince someone of your worth.
‘Your goal is not to persuade someone, but to find someone who doesn’t need to be persuaded.’
His video, which garnered more than 140,000 views, seemed to strike a chord with many who viewed it.
Hundreds of people took to the comments section to share her experiences trying to date someone who’s gone crazy.
Many revealed that they had struggled with such a situation and found it stressful and painful.
One commenter shared how he had misunderstood that an ex-partner was freaking out and the relationship eventually ended.
According to the creator, when the people you are dating get angry, they are likely not sure about the relationship.
They wrote: “I never realized this with my ex, he eventually married someone else, but I never convinced him of anything.”
Another described how they had found themselves dating someone following the same pattern of committing and then breaking up.
They said: ‘So upset he went from totally relaxed, hanging out to FLIP INCOMPLETE and now nothing. Stinks.
Meanwhile, a third commented that while the person they’re dating seems interested when they’re together, it’s not the same when they’re trying to get through on the phone.
For many commenters, the experience of dating someone who gets hot and cold has been frustrating.
They explained, “When she’s with me, she feels so good, but when she’s on text messages, she’s being so different.” I feel like I’m trying too hard.
For another commenter, the dating games seemed to have become exhausting and they admitted that they were no longer actively looking for a partner.
They wrote: ‘I’ve given up on finding someone who doesn’t need persuading. For a change, someone can find me.
And another commenter who also seemed somewhat jaded about the dating world added his own thoughts on people blowing hot and cold.
They wrote: ‘Some are just selfish and want you for their own needs… actions speak louder than words.’