Unfaithful men and women around the world have revealed the secrets of why they cheated on their partners.
The confessional broke out on Reddit when a woman revealed that her “true love” and her boyfriend of five years had an affair even though their relationship was the safest it had ever been.
Her boyfriend “constantly showered her with love and affection,” but all the time he was involved in a secret affair behind her back.
The woman asked others to share why they had chosen to deviate, with reasons ranging from ego boosting and attracting the attention of someone attractive, to a “dead” bedroom.
Others shared that they cheated as an act of revenge to ‘get back’ at a cheating partner.
Unfaithful people around the world have revealed the secrets behind their transgressions
“This is my first night alone in my house,” she shared. ‘I’ve been with this man for five years. He is my first true love. Today he was talking to a woman we both know and describing the night we spent yesterday.
‘How this guy constantly leaves me breathless. How he had never felt so safe. I told him I came home with lit candles, the place for my usual back massages, chocolate-dipped strawberries, and that I had a movie schedule for the night.
‘I woke up today and cried because I was so in love. I couldn’t believe that for five years this boy had shown me this love.’
But her happiness soon faded when she discovered that her boyfriend was cheating on her.
Some people shared the reasons for their adultery.
“It was ego,” one man said. ‘I was wondering what the grass was like in the other yard, but it ruined my grass. We tried to overcome it, but then it didn’t fit the same.’
“I cheated on my boyfriend with someone I had a strong emotional connection with and although I felt guilty for not telling him, the act itself didn’t seem bad to me,” one said.
A third wrote: “I wanted to know what else was out there.” I wasn’t in love and I don’t regret it that much. And besides, she cheated on me first, so she was getting back at me.
Others blamed his poor mental health.
‘I cheated on the love of my life. He was depressed and drank a lot and my mental health was at rock bottom. I thought something different would make me happier and I didn’t want to hurt him because he’s the best man I know,” one woman admitted.
‘My ex and I were having problems and I cheated on him one night and broke up with him the next day. “It’s not an excuse but I cheated because he knew he couldn’t stay and lie so he finally made me walk away,” said another.
A man shared the heartbreaking reason he turned to escorts.
‘My wife’s libido dropped and we didn’t have the communication to get her back. I told her I wasn’t willing to have a sexless relationship and then after watching her force herself to have sex with me, I felt so bad I stopped asking.
“She was a great person and we had a fantastic long life, but because her sexual desires stopped abruptly and with little hope of her returning, I started going to a brothel several times a month.
“Maybe it’s a way to cope, but I didn’t feel comfortable going six months without sex, nor did I feel comfortable watching my wife try to fake it, nor did I feel comfortable having an affair or entering into secret romantic relationships.”
Many shared that they cheated as an act of revenge to ‘get back’ at a cheating partner.
A woman shared the other side of the story and revealed the reasons why some ex-partners were unfaithful to her.
‘I’ve had several exes cheat on me and I actually said there was nothing I could have done to stop it. They also wanted to stay in the relationship and said they were in love with me despite cheating. Here are his explanations:
‘The first one said he wanted to marry me one day but we were still too young and he wanted to ‘have his cake and eat it too.’
‘The second He told me it was insecurity. I was prettier and I hated it when men looked at me in public, she said she wanted to feel attractive to other women.
“The third one told me that we weren’t ‘officially’ together, but I met his entire family, went to events with him, held his hand everywhere we went, and he talked about having a future with me.
“We were 24 at the time, so we didn’t think we had to do the whole ‘Are we official yet?’ thing. We talked about having deep feelings for each other. He cheated on me on a holiday and when he came back he said, ‘We weren’t official, but now that I’m back and I’ve gotten it out of my system, will you be my girlfriend?’