A woman has revealed the devastating last words her husband said to her before he left and why her 25-year marriage went up in flames after he was diagnosed with cancer.
Helena was diagnosed with multiple myeloma two years ago and shared that her husband was “wonderful” at first and took care of the house and their pets.
The first round of treatment was “horrible” for Helena: she suffered every possible side effect and was left with a large tumor in her chest and a hunched back.
“I’m not sure when it started, but my husband stopped coming to bed and sleeping on the couch,” she said on Reddit. ‘He wouldn’t go to doctor’s appointments unless I specifically asked him to. He didn’t hug me or, if he did, they were half-hearted.’
It all came to a head on New Year’s Eve, when her husband shouted, ‘Congratulations, your worst nightmare is going to come true.’ You’re going to die alone.
A woman has revealed the devastating last words her husband said to her before leaving
Helena explained the reason for their heated conversation.
‘Before, it seemed that the more I explained to him that I needed his love, affection and support, the more he insisted on denying me.
‘Finally, I confronted him just before Christmas. But it just closed. The more I pressured him to talk to me, the more unpleasant he became. She told me that she was going to die alone while she begged him to tell me what was happening.
‘It’s wrong? What had he done? He yelled at me that he no longer wanted to be married to me. That was New Year’s Eve.
Helena’s husband left that night and refused to speak to her.
He comes to your house to pick up his tools or anything he needs for work, but he has completely walked away financially.
‘He stopped paying my car payment and they repossessed it. He has not made the mortgage payment. Fortunately, the power is still on and it hasn’t turned off my phone. I am disabled because of my previous employment, but it is not enough.
‘We have two dogs and five cats that I have to take care of. I am not physically capable of doing most household chores, although I do my best. He still hasn’t told me what the problems are in our relationship. All this has taken me by surprise.’
Helena shared that while she knew the problem was cancer, she didn’t think there was anything wrong with their relationship.
‘Until he left, he would call and chat to me several times a day and still tell me he loved me. But almost subversively punishing me too.
Helena revealed that she has been “crying” for months and doesn’t know how to move on.
‘How does someone who has loved you for more than half of our lives suddenly become so cruel and indifferent?’ He was a sweet, loving and protective husband until he wasn’t. I can not understand it. How does he mentally justify it?
Helena was diagnosed with multiple myeloma two years ago (file image)
Many were shocked by the husband’s behavior.
‘This is my nightmare. Being abandoned by the person you love most in your time of greatest need,” said one.
But some shared similar horror stories.
‘I was diagnosed with a serious illness after being with my wife for 14 years. A switch was flipped in my wife and she became nasty and resentful, saying that she would never have married me if she had known this would happen.
“He told me he wished it was her because he would rather die than lose the rest of his life to me,” one man said.
Another wrote: ‘I didn’t realize how unusual it was for my father to remain a loving husband after my mother went from being the main breadwinner to becoming permanently disabled. For most men, wedding vows seem to mean “for the better until you can serve me.”