A mother has sparked controversy after calling her husband “boring” and admitting he “bores her to tears”.
Women moved to the UK parenting forum, mumsentto explain that she is “sick” of her husband and marriage because he is boring and would rather read the news or work than spend quality time with his family.
She admits that she married him because of his calm and mature nature, believing a “dull, dependable” guy to be the right kind of person to start a family with, rather than the bad boys she previously dated.
She now feels like she’s the one who always has to bring ‘magic’ and positivity to the relationship, while he’s always grumpy and serious.
Commentators were divided, with some advising her to leave and prioritize her happiness, while others said they felt sorry for her husband and that there was a lot to be said for a loyal person who would provide security.
The woman took to British parenting forum Mumsnet to explain the problems she was having with her husband (Stock Image)
She wrote: “I am tired of my dear husband and my marriage. No, I don’t want to shoot him.
He’s not a bad person, and he didn’t do anything horrible to me. It’s not offensive. He didn’t cheat, nor am I afraid he will.
I wouldn’t say he’s a good dad, but I probably wouldn’t say he’s a bad dad either, I guess. He is a very simple father.
The mother went on to say that when she first met him, he was cool, calm, and collected, and admitted that she used to date sexy, dangerous, fun guys who were also ******** and he treated me like a s***.
She then went on to say that they are ‘opposites’ and that she feels like she contributes a lot to his life, but he doesn’t contribute much to her life or the lives of their children.
The anonymous woman wrote: “I could. What I’m saying is… I find life with him excruciatingly boring. He’s angry 100% of the time. always grouchy. never fun. Don’t kidding us. Don’t play with children. He didn’t seem to really enjoy it.
He loved soccer and lego as a kid, we have two boys and they love to play soccer with him in the park but he always has an excuse. He never wants to build Lego with them. He’d rather just sit down to read the news or work. He loves his work.
The British mother took to Mumsnet to explain the issues she was having with her husband and asked users if she was behaving unreasonably
She then asked on the forum if this was normal and if “all men are like this”, before asking if she had “unrealistic expectations”.
Others took to the comments to discuss the mother’s behavior and feelings, with some sympathizing and disagreeing with her decision.
“You married him because he made life comfortable for you,” one user wrote. Now you don’t want to be with him because those qualities as a father and life partner make him boring.
What you look for in the father of your children and in a life partner has changed. he did not do. If you are happy, leave.
Another commented, “You don’t seem compatible. He hasn’t changed during this relationship, he’s positively doing the same thing you once saw him do. You can’t make him turn into someone he wasn’t and never was.”
A third person wrote: ‘I don’t think it’s fair to say it doesn’t add anything to your life. Brings stability, loyalty and security. It may be boring but having a protective parent is something that not all children possess.
A fourth said, “I was in a relationship with someone like that, who sucked the joy out of everything.”
But others thought the woman was unreasonable and accused her of using her husband.
‘I feel so sorry for it,’ one user wrote, ‘I knew what it was, had enough, and to be honest it looks like you used it.
“Now you’re tired of it, you want more.”
Another penned: ‘Oh, I’ll make personal history here and say: Poor man!
But others disagreed with the anonymous mother and said they felt sorry for her husband because she “used him”.
It looks pretty to me, but also “boring” by your standards (not being rude but you don’t look like what I’d call “fun”).
“Maybe let him go, until he can find someone to love and cherish—a lot of women would.”
A third said: I feel a little sorry for him. You married him but now you resent him for his normal personality. You don’t marry someone who you expect them to change, you choose a suitable person from the start.
A fourth commented: ‘Neither of you seem to like each other very much. I’m not sure anything will come back to be honest.
