A woman has blasted her sister-in-law for demanding her guests stand in knee-deep water to watch her wedding ceremony.
Earlier this month, the anonymous wedding guest shared her dilemma on Reddit’s Am I the A****** forum.
In a now deleted post, the woman, thought to be from the US, explained how her husband’s sister decided that their wedding ceremony should take place in a river.
She wrote: ‘The minister, bride and groom stood on a little strip of land so they were not wet, but all attendants were expected to stand in knee-deep rushing water for the whole ceremony.’
Although the woman recognised that the unconventional set-up would make for ‘great photos’, she added: ‘I personally really dislike mud, germs, insects and whatever diseases are found in that stream.’
The woman refused to stand in knee-deep water for her sister-in-law’s ceremony and delayed proceedings by 30 minutes. Stock photo
However, the couple did make some allowances for children and older guests – who were placed in ankle-depth water.
As her husband had failed to tell her about this arrangement ahead of time, the woman kicked up a fuss about ruining her outfit.
She continued: ‘When I refused to remove my shoes, socks and pull up my dress pants, my husband offered that I stay with the kids.’
At this point, the woman decided she would not be getting in the water at all.
‘I refuse to walk into that water, even if it’s “just” ankle-deep,’ she wrote. ‘Apparently, most people there knew about the water thing but I didn’t. My husband knew but claims he “forgot to tell me”.’
Instead, the guest suggested that the couple adjust the position of the ceremony so that guests weren’t standing in such deep water.
She wrote: ‘The ceremony could have easily moved forward with me standing on the shore, just a few feet away from the kids – but nooooOOOoo.
‘The bride and groom apparently refused to start until every person was in the water.’
The post was shared on Reddit’s Am I the A****** forum earlier this month before then being posed on Twitter
While this argument was raging on, the woman’s husband had to ‘keep wading back and forth’ in the water between her and his sister to ‘mediate’.
She added: ‘My husband was becoming visibly angry at me the longer it went on and kept acting like I was in the wrong.’
Eventually, the woman says the couple ‘relented’ to her suggestion.
She said: ‘The ceremony went on, delayed by maybe 30 mins. In the after-party, I felt that I was being avoided by everyone else, including my husband.’
Earlier this week, a screenshot of the post was shared on Twitter – where it sparked lively discussion among readers and has been viewed by over 3.5m people.
Inviting others to weigh in on the dilemma, Twitter user Jessica Ellis wrote: ‘Wedding culture has gotten insane and should be studied as a symptom of societal collapse.’
The post sparked lively discussion among Twitter users and has been viewed by over 3.5m people
Taking the guest’s side in the matter, one replied: ‘People are not props. Repeat with me, people are not props.’
Another added: ‘The weddings are distractions from the marriages.’
‘I had planned over a hundred weddings all of which led me to throw a surprise wedding at our home instead,’ a third wrote. ‘Weddings are and have become too much, losing the meaning of what they actually are.’
However, not everyone was on board with how the guest had reacted to the river ceremony.
One critic said: ‘Imagine having so much of an ego you won’t stand in the wedding river during the service.’
Another said: ‘It’s ankle deep. Talk about being shallow.’
‘Literally no skin in the game,’ a third agreed. ‘Get in that f***ing river.’