- Ed Turner said he would swipe right on all the women and talk to 10 at a time.
- He was addicted and felt validated when he got matches but didn’t want to date.
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The first thing Ed Turner thought about when he woke up was swiping at every woman that appeared on his screen.
Although she deleted Tinder and her catalog of other dating apps during her first long-term relationship in 2021, which lasted a year, all she could think about was how high a match brought her.
Turner, a quality maker, first downloaded the app in 2015, when he was 18, even though he had no intention of dating or finding a girlfriend. At his worst, he was talking to 10 women at once.
Instead, his goal was to make couples feel validated and know that women found him attractive.
Addicted to dating apps, Turner found himself in therapy for his addiction.
Ed Turner, pictured, said he got “high” every time he got a match, but this soon became an addiction.
His problems with dating apps started almost immediately after downloading them.
If Mr. Turner didn’t get a response or if a woman didn’t message him first, he would feel crushed.
“I used to get excited when I got a lot of matches with people I found attractive, but it was always followed by a crash because it’s not sustainable,” she said. The I.
Turner has since discovered that he suffers from borderline personality disorder and depression, and that not getting answers from women exaggerated his fear of abandonment and exacerbated his depressed moods.
At the peak of his use, he had Tinder, Bumble and Hinge downloaded on his phone, talked to 10 women at once, and went on a date once a week.
Although he would invite women to dinner after they had been talking for a while, he rarely enjoyed it and admitted it was to make sure they kept talking to him.
Turner said the apps were like “window shopping”: He would swipe at every woman he saw and then decide if he liked them once they liked him too.
More than 55 per cent of UK users think they spend too much time on dating apps, with the average person spending around 55 minutes a day browsing them, according to dating site eHarmony.
But Turner confessed that he spent up to three hours a day swiping and even paid for monthly subscriptions that allowed him to perform unlimited swipes.
Ed Turner’s problems with dating apps began almost immediately after downloading them. If he didn’t get a response or if a woman didn’t message him first, he would feel crushed.
Ed Turner first downloaded Tinder in 2015 when he was 18, even though he had no intention of dating or finding a girlfriend.
At the height of his incorporation, he spent around £354 on dating apps in the space of 18 months.
He finally quit the apps after six years, when he entered into his first year-long relationship in 2021. But he still thought about swiping daily, which made him feel like a “bad” partner.
It was her therapist who suggested that it was these dating apps that were causing her problems and told her that she should stop using them.
But every time I tried to quit, I would last a month before giving in and downloading them again.
The more he used the apps, the more he lost the ability to socialize and fell into bouts of depression for months, leaving him feeling helpless because he didn’t know how to talk to the women he had matched with. He said validation from others was the only thing that kept him going.
At the time, many of their friends were also using the apps and did not perceive their use as a problem. He only admitted to his friends that he was struggling 18 months ago.
Even after a year of therapy, he says he still has a hard time quitting the apps. Turner spent £60 on a three-month subscription to Bumble just a few months ago.
However, he has now stopped hitting all the women he sees.
Turner said he feels “objectified” when using the apps, and from his own research and seeking help on forums like Reddit, he knows other people are also affected by this addiction.