A woman has revealed she banned her husband from sleeping in the guest room because he refused to clean up his own vomit after a drunken barbecue.
US-based Alison Logann took to popular Reddit subthread Am I The A**hole to reveal details of the domestic dispute.
She said she cleaned the house before her husband had friends over for a midweek get-together – but it seems things quickly got out of hand.
Alison desperately asked, “AITA for making my husband sleep in the guest room after he refused to clean up his own vomit??
US-based Alison Logann took to popular Reddit subthread Am I The A**hole to reveal details of the domestic dispute.
She said she cleaned the house before her husband hosted friends for a midweek get-together – but it appears things got out of hand (stock image)
In the post, which has since been deleted, Alison wrote: “Last night my husband had some work friends over for a barbecue and drinks.
“I worked today and did all the prep work, cooking and cleaning so he and his friends could enjoy their time together.
“He ended up getting pretty drunk and threw up in our bathroom sink, left it and refused to clean it up when I asked him to.”
She explained that her refusals included: “I don’t know what to do to clean it” and “I don’t have time to clean it because I have to work early.”
Adding context to the situation, she clarified: “Little information on our situation, he works full time (he pays 60 percent of the bills) and I work part time (40 percent of the bills). Therefore, I take care of all the domestic chores around the house.
“Don’t get me wrong, I love my role in our house and I’m really happy to do it. However, this just seems like a lack of respect.
“I was very upset after he gave me an excuse as to why he couldn’t clean up his own vomit, he smelled horribly of alcohol and started raising his voice when he explained he couldn’t clean it because he” had to go to work to pay for everything we want.
Alison continued: “To be clear, we have our own individual bank accounts and he does not pay any of my personal bills or recreational purchases.
Other users were quick to flood the post with comments – and they didn’t hold back as the majority agreed she was “not the asshole”.
“After he explained why not clean up, I did not initiate or continue the argument because when you are sober there is no reasoning with a drunk person, so I asked him to sleep in the guest room.”
Turning to other chatroom users for advice, she wrote: “Now I feel guilty so tell me honestly, am I the asshole in the situation?”
Elsewhere, Alison clarified that her husband works 70 hours a week while she works 24 hours a week as a nurse.
Despite her shorter hours, she finds that “these six-hour shifts are intense and emotionally taxing,” but she continues to do household chores during her workdays so she can take full advantage of her four days off.
Replying to Reddit comments, Alison wrote that her husband “makes almost double” her “monthly salary in a week.”
But, regardless, other users were quick to flood the post with comments – and they didn’t hold back as the majority agreed that she was “not the asshole.”
One person wrote: “Bruh, even in a fraternity people have to clean up their own vomit. Your husband treats you with less respect than I treat my promises.
‘NTA. His vomiting, his cleaning. What he is doing is psychological violence. It’s that simple,” another commented.
A third chimed in: “I don’t know how to clean him…” “Bulls**t, it’s weaponized incompetence if he continues to be sober.” Anything short of cleaning it up while apologizing profusely once he’s sober is a big deal. NTA.’
Other Reddit users told Alison that her husband was using “weaponized incompetence” to try to get out of the situation of cleaning up his vomit after himself.
Following the support, Alison claimed she had an epiphany about her excess household chores thanks to Reddit users.
She responded, “A lot of those comments were really constructive about splitting up bill paying and that’s something I really considered today that’s going to change.”
After the argument, the couple said they were “communicating via text” while Alison was at work.
She asked to discuss the night before, to which he responded, “I don’t remember what I said but I can tell you’re angry about something.”
Alison did not respond to her husband’s text message but explained that she was “happy” when she “came home from work and the sink was clean.”
