A young man detailed his dating woes after a TikTok influencer apparently cheated on him and swerved at the last minute, but some believe he doesn’t know how to take a hint.
The couple had to reschedule their first date three times before finally deciding on the time and location, and on their second date they spent a healthy afternoon at a dog park.
‘When we were leaving, we decided to make a movie and drink wine afterwards. “I texted him to ask for some details and this is what I got,” the man wrote on Reddit, along with screenshots of the text messages from him.
The conversation shows him repeatedly trying to get a solid plan out of his date, but she kept making excuses to delay him.
Instead, she spent the night cooking on TikTok live, getting high, and taking a relaxing bath.
A young man detailed his dating problems after a TikTok influencer apparently cheated on him and broke down at the last minute.
The man sent his first messages at 6 p.m. to confirm his plans.
—So red or white wine?
‘And when does it work for you?
“I’m not trying to blow up your phone, I was going to cook here but I could also order delivery if you’re up for it, just let me know,” he said in three separate messages.
“Hey, sorry, I’m cooking dinner on TikTok live right now,” he responded.
The man pressed him again about what type of wine he preferred, but his date didn’t respond for another 90 minutes after he triple-texted her.
“Sometimes cooking is therapeutic for me,” he said. ‘Sorry, I just got high and I’m taking a shower. I made Chicken Bryan and it was on fire.’
The conversation shows him repeatedly trying to get a solid plan out of his date, but she kept making excuses to delay him.
The young man said, “I hope there are leftovers, but you’ll probably eat them because you’re high.”
‘Do you still want me to go? Or is the bathroom taking over you?
The woman responded: ‘Hahaha the bathroom is winning right now.’
Determined to make the most of his night, the man replied: ‘Don’t a movie and wine after a bath sound like the perfect way to end the night?’
“It’s not easy to force yourself to stick to your plans.”
After 20 minutes he said: ‘Okay, I’m officially giving up, I’m all for doing whatever you want, but don’t say yes if you’re just going to ignore me.’ I had other plans tonight that I canceled to hang out with you.
An hour and a half passed and then the woman responded: ‘I didn’t respond to you earlier for exactly 20 minutes because I was busy.’ I asked you at the dog park if you had plans and you said no. I didn’t ignore you, but now I do because you’re causing me additional anxiety and stress.’
The man gave up trying to meet five hours later than planned.
He responded angrily, ‘I mean, from when you said yes at the dog park to when you told me you were taking a bath, ignore wasn’t the right word: flake fits better.’
“It’s not that hard to just say you’ve changed your mind or you’re tired, but don’t leave anyone wondering.”
Some in the comments chastised the man for continuing to pursue her when she wasn’t interested.
‘I would have stopped texting at ‘so when does it work for you?’ If I didn’t get anything more than a time for a response. Stop doing this to yourself,’ said one.
Another warned: “Don’t plan your entire night with someone who isn’t willing to make solid plans.” Even if they are his only perspective. Even if you think he’s “your person,” “soulmate,” or whatever. He looks desperate and sad.”
Some others blamed the woman for not being clear.
‘Yes, these things drive me crazy. “People who do this somehow don’t realize that other people might have had to adjust their plans to make this work, they don’t care, or they are outright manipulative and enjoy taking people’s time hostage,” said one man.
‘I would get very stressed about that. “You were making it clear that you were planning on hanging out so I think you’re fine here and she changed her mind but she didn’t mean to say it,” wrote another.
Some women interpreted the tone of his text messages as obvious.
‘From a girl’s perspective: she doesn’t like you. I can tell by how short her messages are and how much you’re compensating. She keeps her answers brief and doesn’t ask him questions. If she was more interested, she would move on,” one said.
“I saw three ‘no’s’ in there, and each time the guy tried to say, ‘Well, I can go AFTER’ what she was doing, which obviously didn’t include him. To me, ‘bathroom wins’ was pretty clear.” , repeated another.