A wife was left ‘devastated’ after finding old messages on her husband’s phone from when they first met, where he told a friend he thought she was ugly.
Jane Lewis, 40, of New Jersey, went through her husband’s phone with his permission last month.
But she was heartbroken when she found a series of messages from the beginning of their relationship, bragging to her friend about “an ugly girl who wants me so bad.”
The 35-year-old told his friend that he hadn’t “fucked” her yet even though she would “do anything” for him.
Jane Lewis, 40, of New Jersey, went through her husband’s phone with his permission last month and found old text messages.
He went on to describe how he just had to ‘make out with her a little bit’ to keep Jane happy.
The sprinkler technician sent the vile messages six years ago, but the couple got married in 2021, yet Jane only found the messages last month.
Jane’s husband described how he met “this ugly girl” at the grocery store where she worked at the time, saying that she would “fuck literally do anything” for him.
He told his friend that he moved in with Jane, but said he didn’t find her attractive like the ‘hot girls he sees all the time’.
Jack then went on to say that he thought he could get any girl, but most ‘hot girls are stuck up anyway’.
Jane said she immediately confronted her husband, who was mortified and made the excuse that he was trying to feel better at the time.
The mother-of-three said her trust has been shattered and if she had found the messages sooner, she would have left it.
Jack, whose real name is being withheld, described how he met ‘this ugly girl’ at the supermarket where Jane worked at the time and said that she would ‘literally do anything’ for him.
Jane says that her trust has been shattered and that when her husband calls her ‘beautiful’, she no longer believes it.
Jane said: ‘I checked your messages to see who you were talking to. He and his friend don’t text that often, so I only had to go back about ten messages.
“I got to one from when we first got together saying he was using me for my money, how ugly I am and he doesn’t want to have sex with me.
It was pretty bad. It was very shocking. I was devastated.
“He was mortified, he was quite upset and he apologized. He said that he felt bad about himself. [at the time] and wanted to feel better.
‘I don’t know how I’m going to get past that. I’m hurt by that. If he asks me a question, I say, “‘I’m not stupid, I’m just ugly.”
He calls me beautiful but I don’t believe him. She has beaten my confidence.
‘I have ugly duckling syndrome. I will always think that I am very bad looking.
I would have left it if I had found the messages at the beginning. I have to try to get over it, it’s been seven years and we’re married.
“If it was someone else who found the messages, I would tell him to go away because if he knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t be with him. I would not have kept so many things.
Other messages Jack sent describe Jane as a ‘nice girl’, but he claims that he ‘had a lot of other girls’ who look better than her.
The couple met when Jane worked at a grocery store where Jack was a regular customer.
She says they moved in together almost immediately and she thought the relationship was going well at the time Jack sent the messages.
Other messages Jack sent described Jane as a ‘nice girl’, but he claims he ‘had plenty of other girls’ prettier than her.
Jane described him as “kind, appreciative and flattering” at the beginning of the relationship.
Jane said: ‘I thought we had a good relationship. I do not understand anything. She was very nice to me and she appreciated everything I did.
He was very friendly in general. I had to do a double take when I found the messages.
‘It seemed that our relationship was based on a lie. He didn’t treat me like that. It was out of place.
“He wasn’t the person he was when we were together, he was sweet and flattering. He is clearly a different person to me than he is to his friends and that is wrong.
Marriage means a lot to him and he said he would never get married unless it was someone really special, but I don’t believe anything he tells me now.
‘He could be telling me one thing and other people another.’
Jack did not wish to comment.
