A woman was left disturbed after discovering her boyfriend kept a “creepy” note on her phone recording how often they had sex.
The anonymous bride has been with her partner for a year and describes their sex life as “healthy” apart from one occasion when they weren’t intimate for five days.
“We had a situation where a new lubricant we tried didn’t sit well with me, so we had to stop using it, and I just found out that he keeps a log,” she said.
Her partner let slip the secret tally after they were both commenting on “how good last night was,” prompting him to say it had been five days, as he keeps track on his phone.
The disturbed woman thought it was “strange” to record the exact number of intimate encounters, so she decided to ask more questions and the answers were disturbing.
“His explanation was that he’s keeping score to make sure we don’t have any problems in our relationship… and that he’s doing enough to satisfy me,” she said.
‘He… keeps a mental record of everything, like whether he’s done the dishes enough and whether he’s bought me flowers lately… but sex is the only thing he keeps a written record of.
“He then said that he’d done it with all of his exes and none of them had a problem with it and I was the only one who had. I find that weird.”
The boyfriend claims to have kept track of the number of sexual encounters with each of his previous girlfriends.
Things went from bad to worse when the suspicious girlfriend asked if she could see the note on the phone, when her boyfriend claimed he had deleted it.
“I’m feeling something weirder and weirder in my stomach. Does that make you feel weird? Or am I being overly dramatic?” she asked.
Most women agreed that this “big red flag” man’s behavior was “creepy,” secretive and controlling, and something they wouldn’t tolerate.
“This is super weird and he’s 100 percent lying when he said all of his exes were okay with this, no they weren’t,” one woman said.
“This is super immature and disgusting,” another agreed.
“Yeah, no, I’d leave,” said a third.
Some people told the woman to run away, especially since her gut told her something was wrong, even though her boyfriend claimed that his exes thought she was fine.
“Using their exes as a reason why they should be okay with it isn’t… logical, it only takes one person in a relationship having a problem with something for it to become a problem,” one woman said.
‘Listen to your gut. If you feel uncomfortable about it and he wants to work it out, it needs to be open so you both feel comfortable moving forward.’
Several people thought my boyfriend’s compulsive list-making habit might actually be a sign of an undiagnosed neurological disorder, such as autism.
“I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought this. A lot of people jump to negative conclusions, when it could be as simple as being on the higher end of the spectrum,” one woman said.
Others suggested that sex tracking may be completely normal in certain circumstances.
“Some women track their sex for period or fertility reasons, but it’s not a control method,” one said.
“Is he trying to get you pregnant without you knowing?” asked another.
But regardless of whether it was okay to keep track or not, most people agreed that lying and deleting things weren’t good signs.
One Sex and The City fan said the person who posted the original poster should ask themselves what Carrie Bradshaw would do.
“And Carrie would be walking,” he said.