A stay-at-home mum revealed she divorced her husband after he installed a hidden camera to spy on her and prove she is “lazy and useless”.
The woman, who is from the US, took to Reddit to explain that she felt her privacy had been violated, so she kicked her husband out of the house.
However, people were quick to point the finger at the woman, saying that she was actually the problem.
The mother of three explained that the argument began when her high-earning husband claimed that her organizational skills were not up to par with his expectations after their daughter missed an outing.
A week after the outing incident, her husband criticized her for not mailing checks to her employees and admitted to setting up a hidden camera where he saw her lying down and watching television despite claiming she was busy.
A stay-at-home mother from the US revealed on Reddit that she divorced her husband after he installed a hidden camera to spy on her and prove that she is “lazy and useless” (file image)
The post read: “It’s been about a month since I found out my husband had put a hidden camera in our living room to ‘prove'” that I’m lazy and useless.
‘It was a small disguised camera hidden inside what looked like a cargo block.
‘He placed one in a living room outlet. We have three kids who have a lot of chargers and stuff, so I didn’t suspect it.
“The point my husband was trying to make was that my management skills are not up to the super-housewife standards that he, as a high-income person, deserves.”
The woman went on to explain how it all started with her daughter’s permission for a school trip.
She continued: ‘I admit things happened and we missed the filing deadline. I had made a note to fill out the forms on another day, as it was a task I needed to focus 100 percent on.
‘But it became the start of a new month, and that’s when I do most of the shopping and keeping track of household bills/subscriptions.
‘I do daily cleaning but we used a deep cleaning/landscaping service which I had to supervise.
‘Long story short, my 16-year-old daughter calls my husband after picking up her sister and tells him she was crying because she can’t go on the trip.
‘My husband drives to the school to beg them to let him fill out the forms at the office. Fortunately they left it since it was the same day. I apologized profusely.
He stated that his partner told him about his communication and accounting skills.
The woman explained that she felt her privacy had been violated so she kicked her husband out of the house.
She added: “I yelled at him because his work is focused while my work at home has a lot of moving parts and emotional labor too and I do it all behind the scenes. He insists that I wasn’t that busy and needed to do things better “easy”.
‘A week later, he gets into a fight because I’m not going to send checks to his employees that day when I could have done so the next day.
‘ he admits on camera and starts citing ‘evidence’ of times I was on my phone and that automatically equates to wasting time.
‘I was on the phone researching meals that would suit my daughter’s dietary restrictions while keeping her healthy as a ballet dancer. She was looking for subscriptions for frozen but healthy meals that she and the rest of us could eat on the go or at home.
‘The fact that he was offended that I occasionally went to bed when I was doing research, or that I had taken a break to watch TV before making dinner, did it for me. I knew my days are crazy during the first few days of the month, which is when the furlough debacle happened. I kicked him out of the house.
‘It’s been a month and my friends have been saying that I’m missing the fact that there are other people who wouldn’t ignore the things I do to make a high income possible. I ended up seeing a lawyer and filed for divorce because I feel violated and devalued. AITA? [Am I the A******?].
Many critics thought the mother should take responsibility for her actions, as they said her tasks were low maintenance.
Many critics thought that the mother should take responsibility for her actions, as they said her tasks were low maintenance.
One person wrote: ‘The deal breaker for me is that your 16 year old daughter called her dad instead of you to help her out of a problem you created.
‘I’m not convinced you’re as trustworthy as you think. Divorce him if you want but YTA [you’re the a*****] in your priorities as a parent.’
Another said: “Describing filling out a permission slip as something to put off because it requires intense, uninterrupted concentration is just crazy.”
Someone else said: ‘Right? Do you need to concentrate 100 percent for an entire day to sign a child’s permission slips? Work on your time management.’
A fourth said: ‘His 16-year-old son also picks up the younger kids from school! From this, I imagine that the oldest also makes the morning deliveries.
‘I can completely feel the coworker’s frustration. If you can’t trust your spouse to do everything possible, you will be nervous all the time. What else is escaping? You almost missed the deadline to send paychecks to employees!
—That would make me sweat. It’s hard to recover from losing trust in your spouse.’