A transgender woman has revealed that she doesn’t tell men the truth about her gender identity before meeting her because people are “too judgmental,” saying she likes to wait until she’s sure she wants to take things further.
Adia Daniel, 22, from Canada, always felt something was “missing” when she was growing up and at 16, after watching a YouTube video, realized she was transgender.
Regarding the video discussion about being in the ‘wrong body’, Adia told her mother and she was soon put on a waiting list for hormones. She eventually undergoes gender confirmation surgery in 2021, during which the penis is removed and converted into a vagina.
However, despite now feeling comfortable in her own skin, Adeya says she often chooses not to reveal the fact that she is transgender to men before meeting them, which is often met with backlash.
She explained: (People tell me) I’m lying to them or I’m deceiving them.
Adia Danielle believes that people judge them so harshly that they don’t know that she’s a trans woman before she met them often holding them back.
When Adiya was still a child, she said that she used to wear her mother’s clothes and wanted to play with her sister’s toys. She believes her family knew she was “different.”
The artist and influencer previously made headlines for speaking out about a Brazilian butt lift, which she said made her feel like she was burning from the inside.
There are a lot of judgments about the trans label, and if a guy knew I was trans before, he would have a complete idea of how I am and how I should act.
“It’s my past and you’re not going to meet someone and tell them everything that happened in your past.”
I want him to get to know me and also, I will not be rejected by a man that I can reject. So I only tell them when I am interested and when I want to take things further.
Guys often comment (online) “Oh you lie to men”, but then how can they say I’m lying if I present myself as a woman?
“They basically say I’m a man.”
The influencer and aspiring artist, who has more than 138,000 followers on Instagram, is now using social media to share her journey and help others who are going through a similar situation.
Growing up, Adya remembers wearing her mother’s clothes, liking to play with her sister’s toys, and believes her family knows she is “different”.
While her mom was very accepting, her dad wasn’t on board at first — but he’s now her biggest supporter.
She believes not much is known about transgender people outside of society, saying there is a perception that people ‘get up’ and decide their gender – when in reality it is not a choice.
Adia also claims that studies have shown that her brain does not identify with being male and looks similar to that of a woman, since hormone therapy has been shown to provide a feeling of “true happiness”.
She said: ‘Once you start the transition process, it’s been proven that the brain lights up and that’s when you feel real joy.
You can’t really be proud or feel good about the way people look at you (before), you know that when people look at you, it’s not who you really are.
“It’s like nobody really loves you.”
Adia was 16 when she realized she was in the wrong body and told her mother, who helped treat her so she could begin the transition.
Ms. Danielle is finally feeling comfortable in her own body and has been sharing her journey to help others who are going through the same thing
In addition to plastic surgery, Adea has also undergone gender confirmation surgery, in which the penis is removed and converted into a vagina
Adia has undergone many operations during her journey to womanhood including a buttock augmentation that left her feeling like she was on fire.
Previously, Adea made headlines after revealing complications she suffered after undergoing a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) procedure.
She claims the pain made her feel like she was “burning alive”.
Adea also undergoes gender confirmation surgery, in which the penis is removed and converted into a vagina.
While she was happy that the procedure was a success, there was a long road to recovery, and it wasn’t easy.
Talking about the painful surgery, Adiya said, ‘It was very intense and I was screaming before I fainted.
The first night, they had to put gauze between the stitches and the next day, they couldn’t get it out because I bled.
I developed blood clots where I couldn’t pee anymore and so they had to leave it in.
A year ago I had to go back because his job (wasn’t right) and it looked so bad.
It was a really tough time for me, because I went from having something between my legs that I hate, to this.
I would never touch it and cut off contact with that area (of my body). ‘
Adea feels it is important to share her story and has gained tremendous support online.
She said: ‘I get a lot of comments saying I saved (people’s) lives because I gave them the courage to move on and that alone is all I need.
When I first started converting, one of my biggest fears was the judgment that I would enter society.
Filmed in her younger years, Adya says that when she first told her family she was in the wrong body, her father struggled to deal with it but is now her biggest supporter.
Adia wants to own an art gallery when she grows up and make a living selling her work. She said that her ability to draw helped her express her feelings when she was first dealing with being trans
The 22-year-old loves to share her journey on social media to help others go through the same thing that she is going through
Adea often talks about things that aren’t usually discussed on social media about gender confirmation surgeries, including how painful they are and what happens afterward.
Adia is finally comfortable with her skin, but says there’s still a long way to go before people outside of society learn.
“I don’t know why there’s such a big stigma that when you move, you have to do it or get it.”
Adia claims that after becoming transgender, she lost over 50,000 followers on social media – and while this was painful at first, she is now focused on her future and happiness.
She added, “When I saw that video and learned I was trans, it pretty much saved my life, because I was in a horrible place.”
You can’t care less what anyone else says and shut everyone down.
Focus on yourself and focus on who you were in the past (compared to now) and not where other people are.
As I got older, before I moved, I expressed myself through art and drew a lot of feminine energy and faces.
“I really want to make a living from my art when I’m older and have a gallery — I want my name to be known.”
Adya says she often gets backlash from men because she didn’t reveal to them before she met them that she was born male, but says she didn’t because of this judgment.
The social media influencer wants to raise awareness of other young people struggling with their identities
Earlier this year Ollie London, from Hertford, revealed that he was ‘dismissing the transition’ from trans woman to man who had attacked ‘wake-up’ culture – which he claims encourages often vulnerable teens to question their identity unnecessarily.
The social media personality, who previously underwent surgery to look like male Korean idols, has criticized celebrities like Harry Styles and Timothee Chalamet, and shows like Ru Paul’s Drag Race, which he claims promote gender fluidity – saying they are dangerous for teens who They are encouraged to question their identity.
Ollie, who spent six months living as a woman, underwent female facial surgery to smooth out his features before realizing, he says now, that he was actually happier living as a man.
He said: ‘Now there are a lot of teens moving on. It’s something seen as trendy and cool for Gen Z and fueling the awakened people.
I think celebrities like Harry Styles and Timothée Chalamet, perhaps due to their PR, are enamored because they are made to look gay or girly in order to be cool and trendy. It’s a slippery slope.