A woman has been labeled “selfish” after she turned down a celebratory dinner with her family because she doesn’t like steak.
The anonymous woman went to the American Social Forum Reddit to explain that her husband had been working “really hard” over the past few years to get a promotion at his company.
She stated that she was “really proud” of him, but couldn’t possibly attend a meal at his favorite restaurant because she wasn’t “fond” of steak, and their portions of chicken and fish left a lot to be desired.
Since the mother refused to budge, her husband instead attended dinner with his parents and children – all of whom returned home shortly after with a takeaway box so she wouldn’t look “bad.”
Posted on the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum, many berated the woman for being ‘selfish’, to which she later apologized and insisted on taking him back to the restaurant to make amends.
An anonymous woman has been branded “selfish” on Reddit for turning down a celebratory dinner with her husband because she didn’t like the food (Stock Image)
She explained, “My husband has been working very hard over the past two years to progress in his business and he has finally gotten the promotion he has been looking for.
‘I’m really, really proud of him. His parents are also and wanted to take us all out to dinner to celebrate.
My husband absolutely loves prime rib and there’s only one restaurant in our area that serves it, so he chose that restaurant.
“The thing is, I’m not fond of steak. I will eat it, but very rarely. I prefer chicken or fish.’
The woman went on to explain that she did her best to accommodate her husband’s preference and even researched the menu.
She said the eatery had “only one fish entree and two chicken entrees” and didn’t tickle her taste buds.
It was at this point that the joyful occasion began to unravel.
She wrote, “I suggested he choose somewhere else so everyone can eat.
The mother suggested her husband “choose something else” and eventually made him celebrate his job promotion without her
He declined, citing the fact that we rarely go to this place but regularly go to other places in our area, which is true.
‘But those places have a lot of variety so that everyone can eat.
“He suggested I ask if they could cook the fish or chicken without the marinades or sauces, but I didn’t want to bother the kitchen staff.”
The mother, however, had no qualms about being “a nuisance” as her own husband, who suggested she come over for dessert alone.
She continued, “His next suggestion was that I order dessert while everyone else was eating entrees.
“When we were done, he took me where I wanted so I could eat while he and the kids had dessert.
“So I just chose not to go because I didn’t want to sit there without eating and having fun while everyone else was.”
She added that her husband persisted and specially requested her presence at the party.
Posted on the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum, many criticized the woman for being ‘selfish’, for which she later apologized
However, she once again rejected him and advised him to hurry to make his dinner reservation on time.
“He did go, but came back a little over an hour later with the kids and they all had to box,” she said.
“He didn’t know what to tell the kids about why I didn’t go, as they kept asking without lying or making me sound bad.
“So he just got an order to let the kids spend some time talking to their grandparents in the parking lot.
“I told him he should have stayed, but he said I put him in a bad place with the kids.
“He said I knew he wanted everyone there and that I should have gotten over my picky eating habits for one night.
“I maintain that if he really wanted us all to eat as a family, he should have chosen a restaurant with a more accommodating menu.”
One person labeled her as a “selfish and poor partner.” They added, “Don’t lie. It wasn’t that you couldn’t eat anything.
‘There was nothing you wanted. You were also too afraid to ask the staff for a replacement. It’s one dinner.
“You won’t starve if you don’t eat everything on your plate, and it won’t poison you either.”
“Your husband doesn’t often go to this restaurant he loves because he usually fulfills your wishes, but you can’t handle it for him once.
“You basically said to your family, ‘My food preferences are more important than your feelings or your support.’
“Then you left your husband in the awkward place of trying to lie for you.
‘Cause if he told everyone the real reason why you missed dinner, they’d call you an asshole, as this whole thread is.
The person decided by instructing the poster to apologize and learn from her mistake.
Another person wrote, “Don’t want to make a fuss by asking the restaurant to change their meal, but will you feast on your husband’s entire party night?”
“It’s one meal sister, have a regular salad, have some bread and water, relax.”
Meanwhile, one person said the act was grounds for divorce: “I didn’t even marry you and I like to fantasize about divorcing you. You’re the bastard,’ they said.
In an updated post, she said that while the comments were “harsh,” they were also a kick in the right direction.
She wrote, “Some of these comments were pretty harsh, but a kick in the pants.
“I apologized to my husband and I am going to take him to that restaurant this weekend.
“I’ll buy him some camping gear he’s been looking for as a start to making amends and changing course.”