Choosing a name for your child is an exciting but complicated task for parents-to-be, and many admit that they would have preferred a different choice years after their little one was born.
Baby name regret (also known as baby name remorse) affects between 10 and 20 percent of new parents, according to Name of the berrybut perceived stigma prevents many from sharing their feelings.
However, one mother has not held back from detailing her concerns to the online community, after admitting she “doesn’t like” the hastily chosen name for her daughter.
On May 18, the anonymous mum took to Mumsnet to ask other parents for advice on whether she had made the right choice, after being told repeatedly that the name sounded “daring”.
The British mum, known only as @meandmylounge on the forum, captioned her post “I really don’t like my son’s name” and began by admitting she had chosen the name “in a hurry”.
Between 10 and 20 percent of new parents regret naming their baby, but perceived stigma prevents many from sharing their feelings of shame (file image)
A British mother has not held back from detailing her baby name regrets to the online community, after admitting she “doesn’t like” the name she hastily chose for her daughter.
She said: ‘It was hastily chosen when she was born wrong. My husband loved it and kept calling her that, nothing serious, and I just used it when in the NICU they asked me ‘does she have a name yet that we can write?’
“Anyway, she was registered as such and she’s not far from starting school, so obviously it can’t be changed fairly.”
The mom admitted she’s not a big fan of her choice as it’s “not really an adult name,” but thinks it’s “pretty enough” and “not horrible.”
However, she revealed that several people have commented to her that the name sounds “daring.”
The mother expressed regret that she did not choose a “timeless and classic” name that would be appropriate for her daughter’s future as a professional and shared that she hoped her daughter would become a lawyer.
Then he concluded his thoughts by revealing the name of his little girl: Lola.
However, dozens of parents were quick to reassure the mother that the name is “respectable” and socially recognised, while others suggested ways Lola could become a more traditional moniker.
One person wrote: “I think it’s okay. There’s a Lola in my son’s class. He’s not going to stand out and there will be lawyers named Lola when he’s older,” while another said: “I was expecting Chardonnay or something. Lola is okay.”
Dozens of parents were quick to reassure the mother that the name is “respectable” and socially recognized, while others suggested ways Lola could become a more traditional moniker.
A third wrote: “Lola is a nice name in my opinion and not at all ‘risqué’. I hope the comments here change your mind as your last comment about not being able to imagine a professional, respectable woman called Lola is ridiculous.”
Suggesting ways to merge the name into a more “classic” sounding moniker, one person wrote: “I think Lola is pretty nice, but if you don’t want to change it to a new name, I’d go with Elora, Lorraine, Elowen, or Leonora.”
Another said: “If she had a name called Lulu, Fifi or Tricia they would sound like poodles, but Lola is adorable. I associate her with the glamorous Italian actresses of the 50s and 60s.”
However, one of the parents agreed with the mother and even shared that the name could be associated with an exotic dancer.
They wrote: “I’m afraid I have to agree with you. Lola sounds like a poodle, or it also sounds like “Lolita” and is perhaps more appropriate for a party girl/stripper than a woman to be taken seriously.”
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