A pregnant woman has admitted she is “panicking” about having another child, when in fact she would like a girl this time.
In an interview with British parenting platform Mumsnet, the mother of one, who is also seven weeks pregnant, explained that she was worried about gender disappointment.
She explained that she was “caught up in panic, worrying” about having another child as it was her last chance to have a baby and she was hoping for a girl.
Many took to the comments to give the woman advice, while others said she was being “unreasonable and sexist.”
The post Lea: I am a mother to a little boy, who is lovely and wonderful and the light of my life. I am seven weeks pregnant with another baby.
‘It’s a first world problem, I know, but I’m so panicked that I’m worried about having another child.
A pregnant woman has admitted she is “panicking” about having another boy – when she would actually like to have a girl this time (file image)
‘This will be our last baby/pregnancy, so it will be my last chance to have a girl. I always saw myself as a girl mom, who buys pretty clothes and has the closeness of a mother/daughter bond that I have with my own mother.
“There is nothing more special than the female bond between a mother, sisters, aunts and friends. It would break my heart not to have that with my own little girl.
‘Please give me some advice on how to handle this and come to an agreement if we find out we’re having another child.
She added: “Also, I love little girls when they are around 6 or 7 years old. They are very communicative, articulate and diligent. In my experience, little boys are not like that.”
Some people said she was being “unreasonable” and shouldn’t have planned to get pregnant unless she was happy with either sex for the baby.
One person said: “What if your daughter doesn’t want to bond with you as much or wear ‘cute’ clothes? You’re being very irrational and sexist. Girls aren’t dolls.”
Another said: ‘I’m sorry but I don’t think you should plan a pregnancy unless you’re happy with either sex for the baby, it’s not like you can choose.
“And I say this as someone who just had her third child, a girl after two boys. I would have loved to have had another boy. My children are wonderful. It’s also possible that two people of the same sex are more likely to be good friends.
On British parenting platform Mumsnet, a mother of one, who is also seven weeks pregnant, explained she was worried about gender disappointment.
“My husband talks to his mother almost every day. My mother-in-law is great. I think it’s a shame that people continue to spread these stereotypes.”
Someone else said: ‘I’m much closer to my dad than my mom. In my opinion, the father/daughter relationship and the mother/son relationship are the closest.
‘Plus, little boys have the cutest clothes: little dinosaurs, boats, trains, stripes or stuffed animals.’
However, others were more sympathetic to the mother-to-be, with some saying her feelings were valid.
One person said: ‘Please ignore those posting nasty comments. You deserve your children and your feelings are valid, but don’t worry, any feelings of disappointment or self-doubt will go away when your new baby is born, whether it’s a girl or a boy.
Many took to the comments to give the woman advice, while others said she was being “unreasonable and sexist.”
‘Regardless of gender, you will find yourself ‘closest’ to the child who most aligns with your personality – this has certainly been the case for me as we share a hobby and have other similar interests.
‘I have a different relationship with my other two children, but I still consider us to be very close. Also, my daughter (the one I consider myself closest to) decided to stop wearing what she calls ‘girly’ clothes when she was about 5, hates the color pink, and wanted to have short hair (a little longer than a bob) when she was 6.’
Another said: Maybe it would be better not to find out in advance. Wait until the birth, expect a boy knowing that you will be happy if by surprise it turns out to be a girl.
‘Once you have the baby in front of you, it will be much harder to be disappointed than to discover it through an impersonal ultrasound.’
Someone else said: “I had surgery so I’m sorry. I had another boy… And he is the absolute love of my life along with his older brother. He is the most calm, smiling, loving soul and the thought of me being disappointed when I find out he’s a boy breaks my heart.”
‘What I’m trying to say is that it doesn’t matter what gender it is because you will love your baby and you won’t want it to be any other way.’
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