A man has revealed that his wife’s boyfriend ended their ten-year friendship after telling her she would be “ always single. ”
Anonymous posting on Reddit, the man, presumably from Canada, explained that his wife’s 30-year-old boyfriend “Breanna” broke up with a man she’d seen for four months after inviting her to his home after a date.
He said Breanna voiced his wife about the situation when he criticized her response and told her that she will always be single because of her attitude towards men.
Many comments to the post reassured the man that he was right to view Breanna’s behavior towards her date as unreasonable, but others argued that it was not for him to comment on the situation.
A man sparked a heated debate after revealing that his comments ended his ten-year-old wife’s friendship (image file)
When he posted on Reddit, the man explained that he had told his wife’s boyfriend that she will always be single after she broke up with a man who wanted to go to his house to get his wallet.
The man explained that Breanna is not religious but has never been in a relationship or had physical intimacy – despite confiding in his wife that it is something she wants to do.
He said Breanna hasn’t experienced trauma and grew up in a conservative household, but has an “ unrealistic ” expectation of dating.
He added that Breanna is concerned that men only want to have sex and revealed that the faith ruined her most recent dating attempt, saying, ‘It took him a few months to invite her into his apartment. And it wasn’t planned either.
They were apparently on a picnic appointment when he asked if they could come over so he could pick up his wallet before heading to the marina. That was it. She broke up with him immediately.
Or rather, she said yes, refused to go in and covered him up and broke up via text when he was in, before blocking him everywhere.
When she raged on us, I rolled my eyes and sighed. When she asked what my problem was, I just decided to be blunt with her.
A flood of comments on the wire destroyed the husband, arguing that it was not his place to harshly criticize Breanna
‘I told her that there isn’t a cisgender, alllosexual man on the planet who doesn’t think about sex when he goes out with a woman, otherwise expect it to get to the point where things come to an end with a man who even alludes on sex unknowingly unrealistic.
That even if he’d been hoping for something after four months of dating, it’s not necessarily an unreasonable expectation. Then I told her that if she believes that any man who approaches her wants to violate her, she will always be single. ‘
The man said that Breanna was leaving and told his wife that she should not have married him, which later led to an argument. He admitted he didn’t mean to end his wife’s friendship, but felt Breanna needed to hear his perspective.
A flood of responses argued that the husband should not have become involved in his wife’s friendship, blaming him for sharing his views.
One person wrote: ‘He has little or no relationship with this woman, and it is not his place to give her such harsh advice / criticism of her love life. If someone I barely know is calling me on for something, it will sound insulting to me because it’s not from a friend or someone who really cares about me and wants to see me improve. Plus, after dumping this on her, he cost his wife a friend. ‘
Another said, ‘If you don’t want to hear it, leave or ask them not to talk about dating in front of you. It is not for you to judge. She didn’t ask or want your advice. You complain about her limits, but you must have some good ones here too. ‘
Others argued that Breanna’s behavior seems unusual and admitted that they would find it difficult not to comment on the situation
A third added, ‘While I can fully understand your frustration to hear her talk utter nonsense and act ridiculous, I’m scared. She was your wife’s girlfriend, not yours, so it wasn’t your place to join. Mind you, it doesn’t sound like your wife will miss much. Such people can suck all the joy out of a room in an instant! ‘
However, others argued that the man had done nothing wrong, claiming that most people would at least expect a kiss within four months of dating.
She needs some help. Most people are sexually active, especially if they are in their 30s and single, but there are also asexual people. She might be one of them, but she needs a therapist or doctor to find out, ‘one wrote.
Even after four months of dating, a man who asks to stop very quickly to run to his house to grab his wallet after a picnic is usually not an invitation to make love or have intercourse. It just means he wants to run upstairs to get his wallet to pay for going out.
She ruined it by ghosting him, because after a month, most men her age would stop hanging out and have no physical affection, let alone a kiss. After four months, he was still walking at her pace. ‘
Another said, ‘Yeah, I can’t imagine dating someone for FOUR MONTHS and not even kissed. That is way past the time when most people in that age bracket start having sex. If I’m on date five and we haven’t kissed yet, it would be a big red flag I would imagine. I’m not sure because it never happened ‘