A professional “infidelity coach” has shared how women can avoid being cheated on — even if they stay with their partner.
Annabelle Taylor, 33, of Portland, Oregon, “coaches” women whose partners have been unfaithful — allowing them to stay with their partner if they “choose to.”
She offers tailored advice and online sessions depending on the support her clients need, and has a free online community forum where women can share their experiences.
Annabelle Taylor, 33, of Portland, Oregon, is a professional ‘infidelity coach’ and she has shared how women can avoid being cheated on – even if they stay with their partner
Annabelle started her business after her husband admitted to having an affair in 2019, following a string of other betrayals, but is still with him.
Annabelle chose to stay with her husband for two years – whom she won’t name by name – and began coaching others once she felt more “comfortable in healing.”
If her clients choose to remain in their partnership, Annabelle encourages them to follow a few steps to ensure they are healing properly – including listening to their bodies, taking space when they need it, being open with each other on a daily basis. talk to their partner about the infidelity and give them space to explore why they may have been betrayed.
Annabelle said, “When I was cheated on with my husband three years ago, it changed my whole life.
Annabelle started her business after her husband admitted he was having an affair in 2019, following a string of other betrayals, but is still with him
“I just want to talk more and more about my experience now that I’m more comfortable with my healing and my life.
“I wanted to be able to reach and help people and I felt I had no outlet for that, so I started TikTok in April.
‘Back then I wanted to be able to help people more individually, so I obtained a coaching certificate in August and now take on clients from all over the world.
“There is a lot of shame in people who stay with their partners after they have been cheated on.
“They will have to resolve their own confusion, on top of what society imposes on them.
“I have room for people navigating the aftermath of a life event, whether they’ve left, are undecided, or have chosen to stay with their partner.”
Annabelle also runs an online business on Etsy selling clay, concrete, and hand-painted goods, in addition to her infidelity coaching
Annabelle also runs an online business on Etsy selling clay, concrete, and hand-painted goods, in addition to her infidelity coaching.
She also regularly shares advice through social media channels, with some of her videos being viewed more than 40,000 times.
From speaking openly about the infidelity to not being pressured by society’s expectations, how to heal a relationship after infidelity
1) Listen to what physical signals your body is telling you about how you are feeling
2) Take physical space away from your partner when you need it
3) Understand what’s best for you, instead of being pressured by societal expectations
3) Create an ‘open culture’ in your relationship, where you speak openly about the infidelity
4) Work together as a couple through triggers
5) Set your own limits
6) Allow the person who has been betrayed to feel pain
7) Allow the person who cheated to do a ‘deep dive’ into themselves to see why they were unfaithful
8) See a mental health professional
After seven months of reflection, she decided to stay with her own partner – with whom she now has a 15-month-old son.
The moment Annabelle learned that her husband was unfaithful, both her parents were battling cancer and undergoing chemotherapy.
The couple “was in a limbo room for seven months,” but when Annabelle’s mother died in November 2019, she decided to stay with her husband after “he was there to prop me up and get me through that time in every way possible.” piloting’.
She stands by her decision to stay with her partner and encourages other women to do the same if they think it’s the right choice for them.
Annabelle said, “The reasons people stay are very complicated. It could be financial reasons, or they just aren’t ready to leave.
“For me personally, it was because we had both done a lot of work individually and that work paid off, so we came together in the healthy way we’d always wanted.
“For many women, there’s a lot of confusion about figuring out what’s really best for them and separating that from what society is pushing you to think what’s best for you.
“There will be a lot of things imposed on you that you don’t do to yourself because there’s a weird social stereotype of weakness and naivety, which isn’t necessarily true.
“I help women understand that even if they’re going to face shame, only you know how to live your life, so whatever you do, knowing it’s going to help.
“I’m not a mental health professional and I encourage anyone going through this to seek one, but I empower people to make their own decisions.”
Each of Annabelle’s sessions is tailored to each client and their individual needs.
Hourly sessions — which cost $40 — range from leading clients through guided meditations, general conversations, sharing her own story, or simply helping people understand that they will “survive” their experience.
If her clients choose to remain in their partnership, Annabelle urges them to follow some steps to ensure they heal properly.
She said, “It’s definitely a conscious decision to create a culture in your relationship after infidelity to let it be an open book.
“You have to have a culture where it’s not a taboo subject, you have to talk about it every day, work through triggers together and be a team to understand why it happened.
“You have to make room for the pain and the betrayal. Make room for the betrayed to feel pain and for the betrayer to delve deep into themselves and why they did what they did.
“A lot of women say they can’t stop thinking about the event, and that’s completely normal.
‘Your brain, body and mind are constantly working to serve you and help you. It shows you that you have been through a lot, it is not a small thing, it is a major damage from which you heal.
“I would never tell anyone to stay or leave. My job is to help someone feel empowered in their decisions, but understand the risks or realities of certain behaviors and choices.”