In what is sure to be a Hollywood movement in the making, Karen B. Kaplan (above) shared her stranger than fiction love story with the Modern Love section of the New York Times on Friday.
The incredible true story of two dear ones who agreed to go their own way after their studies and come together five years later when they were both ready to settle down, became viral viral after the first time.
In what is certain to be a Hollywood movement in the making, Karen B. Kaplan shared her stranger-than-fiction love story with the Modern Love section of the New York Times on Friday.
Her story begins at the age of 18, when she was just a freshman at Cornell University in 1984. Kaplan has had a relationship with 21-year-old Howard since the beginning of her term.
Although they fell in love hard and fast, their tender ages – and the fact that they lived on opposite coasts of the country, with Kaplan from New Jersey and Howard living in San Francisco – the couple decided to re-evaluate their relationship and concluded that no of both were still ready for lifelong love.
"I think finding The One is a matter of person, place and time. What if we are both the right person, but this is the wrong place and time? We will miss our opportunity and regret it, & Kaplan remembers Howard at the time in her dormitory.
She added that she didn't want to marry the first man she felt serious about, but she wanted to give her and Howard a second chance.
"Let's meet in five years. I will be 23 and you will be 26. We will see if we want to meet again. & # 39;
Howard agreed, and the couple arranged to meet at the New York Public Library, near the uptown lion, at 4:00 p.m. on the first Sunday of May, exactly five years later.
Kaplan and Howard wrote their promise on a dollar bill, tore it in two, and each kept a piece of the cut note.
The location was chosen as a public environment to prevent unwanted intimacy if either – or both – felt uncomfortable. It also had sentimental value because both Kaplan and Howard were English majors and spent nearly their entire time in Cornell surrounded by books.
The designated time meant that they could start with a drink and, if all went well, go to dinner to see where the night was taking them.
Although they agreed to go their own way, the couple did not break apart immediately. They continued dating for the rest of the summer and the following school year.
Their relationship eventually ended a semester later when Howard left to do an internship in Manhattan. Meanwhile, Kaplan started dating someone else.
Her story begins at the age of 18, when she was just a freshman at Cornell University (above). Kaplan had 21-year-old Howard since the start of the term
Three and a half years would pass before the couple would see each other again.
During those 38 months, Kaplan went out and even shared relationships with others, always considering whether the man for her & # 39; the one & # 39; but the answer was never yes. Because none of the men were Howard, Kaplan would realize later.
When the five years were approaching, Kaplan had moved to Minneapolis and became embroiled in what she noted as a dead-end relationship that goes nowhere fast.
She hadn't spoken to Howard since they last broke up and lived before social media or cell phones, but she didn't know much about his whereabouts in California, but didn't know anything about his personal life.
"You try to live your life like a movie. Real life doesn't work like that, & Kaplan remembers her sister when she revealed the real reason why she had flown from Minneapolis to New Jersey in the first month of May. "He won't even remember, much less than 3000 km. You prepare yourself for great disappointment.
But Kaplan did not agree. Despite the lapse of nearly 60 months, she was convinced that Howard would show and remained optimistic that he would not settle with another woman.
"Let's meet in five years. I will be 23 and you will be 26. We will see if we want to get back together & # 39 ;, Kaplan told Howard. Howard agreed, and the couple arranged to meet at the New York Public Library, near the uptown lion, at 4:00 p.m. on the first Sunday of May, exactly five years later. Kaplan and Howard wrote their promise on a dollar bill, tore it in two, and each kept a piece of the cut note.
Sure enough, standing outside the library, in front of the lion, while the clock struck at 4:00 PM, Kaplan saw Howard approaching her among a busy crowd on the west side of Manhattan.
Kaplan and Howard met for two days in the city, but it wasn't immediately a happy-ever-after.
Kaplan had to end her relationship in Minneapolis, and they also had to figure out how they would live together and in which city.
In the fall, Kaplan moved to the Bay Area for a few months for a work assignment. A few months later, Howard moved to her in Minneapolis, where they stayed for two years before returning to New York.
Shortly after arriving in the east, the couple tied the knot.
In her New York Times article, Kaplan commented how the almost serendipitic nature of how their relationship came about helped them to navigate through the most difficult times.
"With such a story we naturally had to stay together," said Kaplan. & # 39; We have discovered that a romantic past can help you stay in your place until you find a balance. & # 39;
Kaplan maintains that the story is not about romance with starry skies, rather being smart in love.
& # 39; For years I ended the story with: & # 39; I thought I was just practical to give us a second chance. It turned out to be a good plan, "she said, but her perspective has recently changed.
"Well, the plan might have been practical," a friend of mine recently told her. "But the fact that you both showed up: there is romance."
Kaplan and Howard remain 35 years later today. The torn dollar bill that they both signed is framed on his dresser.
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