How a $ 1 million football player overcame the sadness of two miscarriages to become a loving father
Tortured rugby league star Ash Taylor has revealed the devastating family tragedies that almost drove him to quit the game and give up his $ 1 million contract.
The Gold Coast Titans player, 24, said his family had two miscarriages and was then ruthlessly abused by cruel online trolls.
He admitted the abuse that came after his partner Montana Stenner’s miscarriages almost pushed him to stop forever.
“I was quite satisfied with leaving the NRL and just went back to playing the park,” he admitted.
“I was under so much pressure, not from someone else, but from myself.
Montana Stenner (photo, left) and her partner, NRL star Ash Taylor (right), were ruthlessly abused by cruel online trolls
Ash Taylor (photo, with baby Oscar) almost permanently left the rugby league after suffering from mental health
“There seem to be many personal attacks and that is not necessary. Criticize us for the game, but do not become personal and attack our families. It is not the right thing to do. ”
But he is now a happy and healthy father of nine-week-old Oscar, after he has taken “very important” free time to seek help with his mental well-being.
He called on men to speak out about their mental health problems and seek help when they need it, after suffering from the pressure of the game.
“The biggest thing about men is that we don’t want to talk about our feelings,” he said.
“But it’s so important that we do that because people are too scared to stand up and really talk about their feelings.
“It’s okay not to be okay. I have said that to many people since I have had time – if you don’t feel well, have some time off. Talk to someone, talk to a partner, to a loved one. ”
The young couple had hoped to start a family early, but Mrs. Stenner suffered a miscarriage.
She then discovered that she had polycystic ovaries before she suffered another miscarriage during a second pregnancy.
Montana Stenner (photo, left) and Ash Taylor (right) had hoped to start a young family, but suffered two miscarriages before Oscar was born nine weeks ago
Meanwhile, the footy star received a flood of abuse from sports fans online, some of which were aimed at his partner.
Since then they have welcomed their first child, Oscar.
“People think (soccer players) are not people,” his partner told Mrs. Stenner Gold Coast Bulletin.
“They can say what they want, do what they want and it is as if they are just a robot.”
Speaking of his struggle with mental health, almost knocking him out, Taylor said it had been “a tough roller coaster over the past six months.”
Ash Taylor (photo, left) has been playing with the Gold Coast Titans since 2016, previously signed at the Brisbane Broncos
“But I am enjoying myself again, my mind has been refreshed,” he said NRL.com.
‘My partner and my family and my manager were worried about me.
“They thought something was really wrong, and only then did they actually ask me that I knew something was wrong.
“I really had to take a step back and really judge what was going on in my life.”
He stepped back from playing for a few months to seek help and spend time with his family, something he said was “very important” in his recovery.
“I probably wouldn’t be in the Rugby League community if I hadn’t taken that step.
Montana Stenner (photo, left) and Ash Taylor (right) have since welcomed their first child, Oscar, after having had two miscarriages before
“It was better for me to take some time off trying to find myself and find my love for footy again.”
The Halfback plays since 2016 for the Gold Coast Titans, previously signed at the Brisbane Broncos.
In June last year, the Titans announced that Taylor was taking an unlimited break from the game.
“Gold Coast Titans halfback Ashley Taylor takes a time out of the game to address personal issues,” the club said in a statement.
“In consultation with the club, Taylor, 24, was given leave today until further notice of his training and game obligations.”
He has since returned to the team.