When people face death, they often experience a variety of emotions and gain a new perspective on their life.
While everyone’s final moments are different, palliative care nurse Julie McFadden, known as Hospice Nurse Julie on social media, has revealed the three most common regrets patients share on their deathbed.
Speaking to NHS surgeon Dr Karan Rajan on his podcast, he said these final discussions tend to focus on what they have taken for granted.
The most common thing, he said, is to regret not appreciating the years they spent in good health.
“The first thing I hear all the time is that they regret not appreciating their health while they had it,” said Ms. McFadden, who has more than 15 years of experience caring for the dying and is of Los Angeles.
“That’s the first thing people tell me, I wish I had understood how wonderful it is to have a body that works,” he added.
The second regret you often hear is from people who admit they “worked too much” and wish they hadn’t wasted their life working.
Finally, he revealed in the clip shared with I.instagramthat many dying patients regret their relationships.
While everyone’s final moments are different, palliative care nurse Julie McFadden (pictured) of Los Angeles, known as Hospice Nurse Julie on social media, has revealed the three most common regrets that patients They share on their deathbeds.
The nurse explained that people wish they had maintained certain relationships and friendships or regret holding grudges.
Many patients also reveal that they “worried too much” about what others thought.
Dr. Rajan responded to Ms. McFadden’s idea with the story of a young patient who made him realize that we are not “immortal” and that we should not take our lives “for granted.”
In the clip shared with her 1.5 million followers, she said: “A few years ago, when I saw a young woman in her 20s arrive with pancreatitis, within three hours this young woman was in the intensive care unit, she was intubated, They ventilated and the next day, she had died.
“That made me think: Wow, I’m 30 and 34 now, life can happen in an instant.”
“So yeah, don’t really take it for granted, sometimes we have this tendency to walk around like we’re immortal.”
McFadden has previously said in a YouTube video that “death can be complicated and maybe not so pretty.”
He explained that people may experience pain, difficulty breathing, terminal agitation, confusion and “general chaos.”
Ms. McFadden offered two strategies for avoiding such “chaos” in the period before death, whether the person dying is a loved one or you.
His number one recommendation, simply, is education and “knowing what to expect, knowing what is normal and what is not normal.”
Afterwards, it is a matter of ‘having an open dialogue with yourself, with your doctors, with your nurses, with your family, about what you feel, what you need, how they can help you,’ he explained.
It is important to “understand” that your loved one will “change a lot” as they approach the end of their life.
Likewise, if it is the end of your life, it is essential to be prepared for your final days to be very different than what you are used to.
‘You won’t be able to do all the things you used to do. You will not be able to live super independently. That’s hard, that’s hard to accept.
“But learning these things now will help prepare you so you don’t feel so chaotic when it happens,” in addition to the “chaotic nature of what can happen to the body at the end of life,” he added.