A leading dating expert has revealed how to improve your profile to increase your chances of finding love, and what to add to stand out from the crowd.
Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science Logan Ury, from California, appeared on Jana Hocking’s podcast Kind of dating, and she shared exactly what you should and shouldn’t include.
“I’m not surprised that people struggle with their profiles because dating is a skill and the only way to get better at it is to practice and get good advice,” Logan said in the podcast.
Logan revealed the biggest turn-offs and the exact photos that need to be added to get a match.
A leading dating expert (Logan Ury pictured) has revealed how to improve your dating profile to increase your chances of finding love, and what to include to stand out from the crowd
What are the biggest turn-offs in a dating profile?
What do you need to include to stand out for the right reasons?
1. VARIETY: Each photo should show a different element of your personality.
2. SPECIFICITY: Instead of saying something generic like “I love to cook,” be specific, as people are more likely to get involved.
3. A CLEAR HEADSHOT: Each profile should contain one clear headshot with no filters or sunglasses, because people want to see your face.
The first thing you want to avoid if you want to create a successful dating profile is a fish photo if you’re a man, or a photo with some type of fish you’ve caught.
“People don’t like this style of shooting because it’s become a cliché,” explains Logan.
“You see it over and over all over the world. Once a lot of people have this photo, it won’t give any new information and it’s just something you flip through at best, or at worst think it’s just like everyone else.”
The second biggest turn-off for the dating expert is a snapshot where you’ve either filtered too much or you’re wearing sunglasses.
The reason these don’t work is because people want to see what you look like, and both of these things make it harder to see your face.
“I’d also avoid the Where’s Wally photo,” Logan said.
“It’s a group photo, there are tons of people, and they all look vaguely like you. It doesn’t convey any information, it just confuses me.’
Finally, you should avoid selfies — and especially gym selfies — because people “just don’t like them.”
Logan (pictured) recommends always including at least one clear headshot, as well as one full-body picture
What do you need to add to stand out?
When it comes to the other end of the spectrum, if you want to stand out from the crowd for all the right reasons, Logan said you need to make sure your dating profile has variety.
Which photos should you add?
* The first photo must be a good, clear headshot with no filters or sunglasses.
* Elsewhere, you must record at least one full-body shot.
* Try adding a photo of you doing an activity you love with friends or family.
* The remaining photos should add variety and show your personality.
“Your profile is your chance to tell your story, and that means showing different parts of who you are,” Logan said.
Maybe you want to show at once how crazy you are with a picture of you in your Halloween costume, but also that you are serious and serious, so you could answer one question by saying how much you love your grandparents.”
Variety in the activities you choose for photos is also good, the expert said.
Logan recommends that the first photo be a good clear headshot of your face, without filters or sunglasses.
The remaining photos should include at least one full-body photo and one doing an activity you enjoy with friends or family.
Finally, add a few more photos that add variety and show your personality.
“Be specific in everything you write on your dating profile,” Logan added.
“Sometimes people say things that are a bit generic, like I like to cook, travel and go out with my family. Who not?’
She recommends sharing your dream vacation or exactly what you like to cook.
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Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of How To Not Die Alone. For more information about her, click here.