Heartbreak parents of ‘catfish’ victims speak of their fear of hearing evidence during an investigation
The ruined parents of a 20-year-old catfish victim spoke of their sadness at hearing evidence during the investigation of her suicide.
Teresa and Mark Marsden spoke about their struggle to find out about the circumstances surrounding the death of their daughter Renae Marsden in eastern Sydney in 2013.
The grieving couple spoke Weekend sunrise and described the research as “the most poignant week of our lives.”
Teresa and Mark Marsden (photo) spoke about their grief at hearing evidence this week in the Sydney investigation into the death of their 20-year-old daughter Renae who was ‘catfished’ by a friend
Mrs. Marsden said: “I have to say that I think it is actually much worse for us now to know about it.
“We had no idea. The truth has now all come to the fore and it has actually been worse, “she said.
The coronal investigation into Renae’s death revealed that her best friend and former lover, Camila Zeidan, had allegedly misled Renae by believing that she had a boyfriend named “Brayden Spiteri” for 18 months.
Evidence in the investigation rattled the entire family, and Mrs. Marsden described the impact on Renae’s brothers and sisters: “Now they are at an age when they can understand and not believe that someone who has actually come to our house can do such a thing.”
This is the heartbreaking latest text message that Renae Marsden sent her mother, Teresa, after allegedly being cheated on for years by ‘catfish’ Camila Zeidan
Just before Renae took her own life, she sent her mother a heartbreaking text.
“I’m sorry for everything and the pain I will give you now,” said Renae.
“If you need to talk to me, just call my name and I’ll be there.”
It was August 5, 2013 and the typical “bubbles” and “happy” receptionist was in The Gap, in the east of Sydney, considering ending her life.
She was confused with her fake internet friend Brayden Spiteri.
Brayden was apparently a prisoner in the Goulburn prison. He supposedly was behind bars because of a motorcycle accident in which his best friend had died and had exchanged his visiting rights for a softer punishment.
Renae Marsden, 20 (left) died of suicide in The Gap in eastern Sydney on August 5, 2013 after her best friend Camila Zeidan (right) allegedly ‘catnapped’ her
These are pictures of the man that Renae thought was Brayden. But they show another person = who had no idea how his photos were used
Tragically: Renae Marsden is pictured on the right with her mother Teresa on the left – who received a heartbreaking end text
Renae and Brayden continuously reported to each other. She got a tattoo of his last name on her body, the court heard.
She dreamed of marrying him on his release, which she was promised would happen before her 21st birthday.
But Brayden was all a brew from Camila, Coroner Elaine Truscott was told this week.
And the “false reality” that Renae lived believed that she was in a relationship with a fictional person, and eventually led to Renae’s terrible death, the investigation said Friday.
“Pick out your daughter, threatening suicide”: how Brayden reportedly brought Renae to her death
At 2.59 p.m., the day Renae died, her mother Teresa received a blunt text message from Brayden’s phone, according to counsel who assisted with the version of the investigation of the interrogation.
“Pick out your daughter and threaten suicide,” the text said.
Brayden – really, his puppeteer, Camila – had reason to worry.
Renae was destroyed by a message she had received that day from Brayden, counselor who assisted the investigation that Sasha Harding said in her closing speech.
The message to Renae, van Brayden, was like: “I think I need a break and so do you,” the court heard.
Renae had not heard from Brayden for about a month when she received the text.
Renae was told that Brayden took part in a court case and could only speak at the beginning of August. (Camila was on vacation in the United States at the time).
Her colleague Joseph Abbatte had lunch that day at around 1 p.m. with the visibly upset StarTrack receptionist.
Renae cried, Abbatte said in a sworn statement to the court.
She used a napkin to wipe away her tears and waved the text in his face before she went home.
Teresa Marsden handed the text messages exchanges to the court with ‘Brayden’ (in white, Teresa’s texts are green ‘)
Teresa Marsden was incredible when she received the text from Brayden, unaware of the true nature of their relationship.
“Would you please explain why a young woman would like to commit suicide?” she wrote back.
She confronted Renae at home but was reassured that she was doing well.
Hours later, after she told her mother she was going to eat with work friends, Renae drove 50 minutes from her home in Glenhaven to The Gap, the court heard.
She exchanged different texts with ‘Brayden’ and Camila, but the police were unable to obtain their contents.
Renae threw her phone over the cliff before she died, and the messages from Camila and Brayden that day could not be recovered by the police.
She was last seen alive on CCTV images in The Gap, 13 minutes after cell phone tower data showed she had received an SMS from Brayden.
Camila told the court this week that she had deleted Renae’s last message “by accident.”
She claimed that Renae’s last message to her was something like: “You will always be my best friend, I will always love you.”
A break, ‘obsession’ and possessiveness: the alleged control of Camila over Renae
Camila Zeidan avoids the cameras this week
Camila went to the witness stand this week to testify – provided she was granted immunity from prosecution for any evidence she had provided with the investigation.
She admitted that she was “Brayden” on the other end of the phone and that he had never existed.
But she claimed that Brayden was a “character” that she and Renae, her ex-girlfriend, had created together so that they could be together despite the disapproval of others.
“We both agreed that we would never be accepted in a relationship, as if we would never be accepted together,” Camila said Tuesday.
“So we created the character so that no one would find out.”
(Mrs. Harding claimed that there was no evidence of this in the years of reports that the police managed to get, and that Camila’s justification “makes no sense”).
Renae’s latest possessions, as found in her car, including a collage by Brayden (right) with the title “I love you, baby!”
This is the collage of Brayden Spiteri that Renae Marsden carried with him
The court heard that Camila and Renae had a relationship at school, at Mount St Benedict College in northwest Sydney, when they were in year 10 in 2008.
Camila denied that her relationship with Renae was “obsessive.” But Mrs. Harding pointed to emails that Camila sent to Renae that year to claim the opposite.
In an e-mail it said: “I swear, kid, you go nowhere, you understand, you abuse me, I will laugh, you kill me, I will be your spirit, you hate me, I will still love you , run away, chase; you hide, I will chase you … Only I will possess you … I am too in love with you and obsessed with you and crazy about your baby. ”
The relationship between Renae and Camila fell apart after school. But the investigation heard evidence from Renae’s mother of Camila who behaved like “stalking” of Renae in the following years.
“I had 54 phone calls last night, Camila. That’s damned. I’m sorry, but that’s possessive. If you can’t see that, then something is terribly wrong with you ‘.
Renae Marsden in a Facebook message to Camila Zeidan in September 2011
Teresa Marsden claimed in a statement that Camila was lurking in the driveway in her car (Camila denies that) and would follow her (whatever she denies).
One evening Camila bombed Renae with 54 missed calls one evening, the investigation heard.
In a Facebook message, Renae told Camila: “I had 54 calls last night, Camila. That’s damned. I’m sorry, but that’s possessive.
“If you can’t see that, then something is terribly wrong with you.”
Camila told the investigation: “I probably tried to talk to her … I don’t know what was going on at the time … It works both ways.”
Mrs. Harding claimed that Camila had used “Brayden” as a tool to take apart Renae and her boyfriend after Camila, Angus Young. (Camila denies this.)
“Camila as the” Brayden identity claimed mental control over Renae … Brayden wanted to limit and sour Renae’s social life, “Harding said in her closing speech.
“(Meanwhile) (Renae) devoted her mental and emotional life to Brayden for almost two years.”
“(Renae’s) life was on hold, lived on her cell phone and received and sent relentless messages to a fictional person.”
Catfishing is not a crime, but it can become one
Renae Marsden’s destroyed 14-year-old sister Monique during a press conference this week
It is not clear whether Renae herself heard that she was allegedly ‘catfished’ before her death.
Police investigators reported that the investigation that Renae had called Goulburn prison that afternoon at 2.44 pm 90 seconds at 2.44 pm.
An operator would have told Renae that no one by that name was in prison, senior police officer Brent Bell told court.
Catfishing – as the practice of creating fictional online love personalas has become – is not illegal in New South Wales, as Renae’s ruined family discovered.
Mark Marsden, the father of Renae, told Daily Mail Australia out of court this week that it “awakens the belief that there was no” right “indictment for the police to go against Camila.
And Mrs. Harding described how her family thought about it in her closing remarks.
“That the deliberate and continuous deceitful actions of Camila … were not enough for the police to take action to arrest and accuse Camila of a crime, is really inexplicable for the family,” she said Friday.
“That there is no clear criminal sanction … is really the deepest insult to the family and undoubtedly the community.” She called for the ‘apparent error’ in the law to be corrected.
The family of Renae Marsden was out of self of emotion after listening to the testimony of Camila Zeidan on Wednesday. Above father Mark (right), brother Luke, sister Monique and mother, Teresa
WHY CAMILA GOT IMMUNITY OF PROSECUTION
Coroner Elaine Truscott has issued a certificate to Camila Zeidan under section 61 of the coroner’s Act – in other words, immunity from persecution.
Camila’s lawyer had objected to her position because it could accuse her of a crime.
The coroner told Camila that the certificate means “the evidence you provide in these proceedings cannot be used against you in other proceedings in an NSW court.”
In allowing the fact that Camila’s immunity was published, Truscott said on Thursday that Camila’s evidence in fact did not defile her.
The Marsden family was out of themselves with emotion after the first full witness day of Camila on Wednesday.
Renae’s mother shouted “I’ve waited seven years for this” after the hearing ended. Camila had constantly said that she no longer knew important events.
There were few dry eyes among the family when they spoke to reporters afterwards.
Marsden said: “I think today’s procedures are worse than losing Renae.
“We are very disappointed because we wanted some closure today,”
Renae’s little brother, Luke, said: “I look around and see my family in tears.
“I would not wish for my worst nightmare. No family deserves to be broken like this. ”
The coroner will report her findings later.
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