Greg Wise Says Dead Sister Clare Comes To Him In His Dreams
Strictly Come Dancing star Greg Wise claimed his late sister still visits him in his dreams as he marked the launch of National Grief Awareness week by urging the British public to be more open with their feelings.
The husband of Oscar-winning actress Dame Emma Thompson made publicity for the fundraising initiative — which helps 800 support services across the UK — during a performance on Thursday’s Lorraine.
And Greg, 55, admitted the country was hampered by a widespread reluctance to express raw emotions with others after the loss of a loved one.
Emotional: Strictly Come Dancing star Greg Wise claimed his late sister still visits him in his dreams as he marked the launch of National Grief Awareness week on Thursday
He said: ‘We’re terrible in this country when we talk about grief and about being able to go through friends grieving and helping them, and really all we need is a little warmth, a little support, a little love. and what this week is all about is spreading some heat.’
The actor spoke from experience after watching his beloved older sister Clare, a director of the film industry, lose her battle with cancer in 2016 at the age of 51.
Greg eventually turned the candid blog she wrote about her battle with breast and bone cancer into a book, titled Not That Kind of Love.
Devastating: The actor saw his beloved older sister Clare, a director of the film industry, lose her battle with cancer in 2016 at the age of 51
The actor later paid a moving tribute to Clare on Strictly Come Dancing in October by dedicating his last dance to her memory.
He said: ‘ [Grief] affects everyone in different ways – it takes a different amount of time. I’m just telling everyone that the sadness you feel is equal to the love you felt. It’s so obvious, because the universe is in equilibrium.
“So the wonderful joy and love must be made up for by the great pain and space ripped out of you by this person dying.”
Charity: The husband of Oscar-winning actress Dame Emma Thompson expressed grief over coping mechanisms during a performance on Thursday’s Lorraine
He added: “My sister passed away five years ago. I will always carry that with me. The hole left by her death has gotten a little less jagged over time, that’s all, but it’s all still there.
‘We are the expressions of the life we live. Look at all my fingers, they’ve all been broken over the years, my heart has been broken over the years, the shape we have is due to love and loss and we must be able to explore and share that. ‘
When dedicating his Strictly Dance to Clare – a disco boogie on If You Could Read My Mind by Ultra Naté, Amber and Jocelyn Enrique – he explained: ‘She was the big disco diva, she was cremated in a coffin of glitter balls at old discos. 80’s music so I had to do this for her.
“When people have died and left us, they still come back every now and then. They still appear and that’s what the dance was about, this person showed up, is this real? Let’s celebrate because we know this time will be short.
“People who have died always come back. My sister visits me constantly in dreams and what’s great about the fact that with the passage of time comes a little bit more health is that the last few years she was so very sick she was so sick but now she visits me like a healthy person, like the old crazy funny sister – which is just great.’
Dedication: Greg paid a moving tribute to Clare on Strictly Come Dancing in October by dedicating his last dance to her memory
Family: His late sister Clare was a fan of disco music (pictured with Greg and his wife Dame Emma Thompson)
After his Strictly performance, Greg looked visibly overcome with emotion when he told Claudia Winkleman, “People who have left us have never left us, they come back, they visit us, we can dance with them and they leave again. That’s what it was about.’
Greg recalled how Clare was first diagnosed with breast cancer and given ‘brutal’ chemotherapy treatment, but was later discovered she also had bone cancer.
He said: ‘Family is incredibly important to me. I feel very lucky that we, Emma and I, have formed a family over the years and an extremely important part of the family was my sister Claire.’
He added: “It’s one of the hardest things to be with someone you love, to witness their pain and their fear and figure out what you can do to ease it.
“I think my sister will be very happy that I’m doing this because of her. I hope she laughs like crazy.’
Always present: “When people have died and left us, they still come back from time to time,” Greg told Lorraine, saying his sister still visits him “in his dreams.”