A bride-to-be has sparked a family row after asking her sister to remove her one-year-old son from the wedding ceremony if the child starts to become a “distraction”.
The woman said she wants her niece to be part of her special day, but she is still very young and often “chats, screams and babbles” loudly.
She asked her sister if she or her brother-in-law could take her son outside if he started making noise during the ceremony to keep attention on the bride and groom.
However, the bride’s sister thought she was being unreasonable, accused her of wanting to “exclude” her niece, and threatened not to take the girl to the destination wedding.
‘To be honest, it’s pissing us off so much that we’d be fine if the three of you didn’t come right now!’ the woman said in a Reddit thread.
A bride fell out with her sister after asking her if she would remove her one-year-old daughter from the wedding ceremony if she started babbling loudly (file image)
‘I don’t think I’m asking for anything unreasonable. “All I want is a peaceful, relaxed ceremony where we can all focus on what’s going on without a little kid babbling.”
The bride said she and her fiancé are having a small destination wedding in two weeks and her sister is bringing her one-year-old daughter.
“The girl is more than welcome: she is part of the family and we want her there as part of the day,” he explained.
“However, since she is still very young (and sometimes very loud), I asked that someone take her out during the ceremony if she became distracted and screamed or babbled loudly.”
The woman said her niece will probably interrupt the ceremony because she is “constantly chatting” and “never stays quiet.”
‘It’s only for half an hour and she can make all the noise she wants for the rest of the day. I just want everyone to be able to focus on the ceremony and I don’t want any distractions,” she said.
‘My partner and I have planned some spiritual moments and we want everyone to be able to enjoy them. Also, to be honest (again a little boring perhaps), we want the guests’ attention to be focused on us at this moment.
The sister thought this request was unreasonable and called the bride an ‘imbecile’ for ‘excluding’ her daughter from the celebration and therefore her husband, who will be the one to take the girl outside.
“She says I’m asking him and the one-year-old to go there just for dinner since they will miss the ceremony and the one-year-old will most likely miss too since it will be after go to bed,” he said.
The bride tried to assure her sister that there would be many relaxed parts of the day, such as during the photos and the cake cutting, where the girl could be as loud as she wanted, but the mother disagreed.
‘She is still very angry with me. “She now says that she should have said it was a child-free event from the beginning and that they would have planned to leave her behind,” she said.
The bride’s sister thought she was being unreasonable, accused her of wanting to ‘exclude’ her niece, and threatened not to take the girl to the destination wedding.
“I would never have asked a new mother to go away for a weekend on a plane without her child, especially since this was organized a while ago, when the child was still very young and dependent.”
The sister threatens to come without her daughter and her husband. The girlfriend “called Herb Bluff” and said she would be fine.
‘To be honest, even if this was an unreasonable question, surely since it’s my wedding day, it’s up to me?’ Isn’t this the only day in my life where I can literally do whatever I want? she asked.
The woman’s dilemma attracted hundreds of responses, and while most sided with the bride, others felt sympathy for the mother.
‘I agree with her. If you didn’t want kids, you should have said no kids. “If you say it’s okay for the niece to be there, then you have to take the good and the bad into account,” said one user.
“Isn’t this the only day in my life where I can literally do whatever I want?” No. No, it’s not. “This mindset is toxic and you shouldn’t act like it is,” a second responded.
‘People who think everyone should stop during the ‘special day’ are just horrible. Perpetuating this ‘It’s MY DAY to do everything I want and everyone should bow down’ thing is a very childish attitude and really needs to stop,’ complained a third.
‘It’s actually okay that you don’t want kids at the wedding, just admit it. “You should have designated the wedding without kids so your sister could plan it properly,” a fourth added.
But dozens of people took the bride’s side, defended her position and criticized the sister for being “selfish” and “ridiculous.”
‘Weddings cost a lot of money, so it’s only valid that you want the attention to be on both of you on your special day. “You’re really not asking for much, I think your sister is overreacting,” one woman said.
“To be honest, I thought taking a rowdy kid outside was basic etiquette so I’m a little baffled for the sister,” wrote a second.
“Honestly, no one should even tell someone to remove their rowdy child from a wedding service; that’s just common courtesy,” one user agreed.