Two former addicts reveal that they were suicidal before going to the withdrawal clinic. They met, fell in love, and had two children.
Medical Biller, Melissa Kreutz, 30 from California, was only 15 years old when she ended up in an alcohol addiction due to a lack of self-esteem, feeling that the world would be better without her.
She had been abusing alcohol for years, leading to self-destructive behavior that caused a break between her and her family, and Melissa eventually left the family's house.
Inspirational: Melissa and Cody Kreutz, both former addicts, revealed that they were suicidal before going to the withdrawal clinic where they met and fell in love
Problem: Melissa Kreutz (30), pictured as a teenager, was 15 when she became addicted to alcohol. She had been abusing alcohol for years, leading to destructive behavior
Devastating: Melissa's behavior as a result of the addiction caused a break between herself and her family, which led to Melissa (pictured when she was in the detox clinic) leaving her home
Melisa's family told her that she could only come home if she went to the rehab clinic, so she went to her doctor, who was surprised at her excessive drinking habits. Likewise, he told her that he had never seen anyone as young as she who had drunk so much alcohol.
Prescription manager, Cody, 38, was raised with Mormon, but he had developed an addiction to opioid pills that made him lie, stole, and hate himself. His guilt mixed with self-hatred resulted in trying suicide twice in a 24-hour period before he realized he needed help.
Help: Depicted at the rehab clinic, Melissa & # 39; s family said she could only welcome her if she received help
Both Melissa and Cody checked in the withdrawal clinic in 2013, both with low expectations, but in the end they remained moderate for months before meeting each other when Cody immediately fell in love with Melissa.
Despite completing his treatments and the 12-step program in October 2013, Cody couldn't get her out of his mind and asked his friend, who was still at the withdrawal clinic, to give her her number and they officially started dating in January 2014, by which time she also left the withdrawal clinic.
The two entered a whirling romance that resulted in Melissa becoming pregnant with their first child, just five months later. Four years later they are now proud parents of two sons, Watson, four, and Emerson, 18 months, married and five years sober.
Melissa said: & # 39; Family has always been the most important thing in my life, unfortunately I let alcohol take them away from me.
& # 39; I have struggled and watched my whole life with self-love and abandonment problems and men to help me heal – which resulted in years of self-destructive behavior.
& # 39; Before I found austerity, I had such a deep self-hatred; I believed that I would never achieve anything and that I was a selfish person who had to die the death of an alcoholic.
& # 39; At the end of active addiction, I was physically sick and mentally broken. I hated myself and pushed everyone away and was completely alone.
Fight: Cody, 38, as seen around the time he was in the withdrawal clinic, checked in rehab after he developed an addiction to opioid pills. He said: & # 39; I really thought my destination was death & # 39;
Love: After meeting in rehab, Cody (pictured with Melissa when they were dating) said it was love at first sight. After his rehabilitation ended, Cody said he couldn't get Melissa out of his head
& # 39; Leaving the house or talking to others gave me a debilitating fear, I woke up every morning with the feeling that the world was crushing me.
& # 39; Due to my physical alcohol addiction, I could no longer keep a job; I was twenty-five and had nowhere to go – no college education, no job, no car, no driver's license and basically nowhere to live. I was alone and waiting to die.
Fate: Cody wanted to get to know Melissa, and asked a friend who was still in the withdrawal clinic to give her his phone number. She agreed to go out with Cody when he called
& # 39; I found myself in detox; my parents would allow me to return home if I went to rehab. I had no intention of staying sober; I really thought my destiny was death.
& # 39; I met a doctor who said: & # 39; Melissa, I've never seen anyone drink as young as you do, I don't know why, but you try to kill yourself, and you'll succeed if you don't get help ".
& # 39; I went to the rehab clinic and thought I might as well try. When I started to change, my life started to change. There was a chance to get sober and somehow I jumped through it, & she added.
Cody explained his turning point that took him to the rehab clinic and said his addiction robbed him of his & # 39; true self & # 39 ;.
He explained: “I used to like alcohol, a way to enjoy the company of others, a way to celebrate, a way to have fun. However, it was my addiction to pills that robbed me of my true self.
& # 39; I would say that the last two years of my alcohol and drug addiction were terrible and my life caused emotional and physical havoc.
& # 39; In active addiction, I started lying, stealing and hurting others, I became a man I didn't recognize, a man I hated. The debt brought me to a very dark place.
& # 39; Although I still had friends and loved ones, I caused a lot of damage and pain during my addiction. I was mentally broken, in the middle of a divorce and a job at work that I hated. In the end I wanted nothing more than to be clean.
Support: The couple, as seen when Cody proposed to Melissa, asked certain limits regarding each other's recovery in the relationship, and supported each other continuously
Happy: As seen on their wedding day, Cody said that he and Melissa have a very honest relationship and that they & # 39; have a lot of respect & # 39; for each other's recovery
Exciting: the couple's family started when Melissa became pregnant in their relationship for about four months. The couple now have two children – Watson, 4 and Emerson, 18 months
& # 39; I believed I was a piece of sh ** and I was consumed by guilt. I was devastated and surrendered to my illness, so I was ready to do anything to get clean.
& # 39; I had two unsuccessful suicide attempts and finally admitted to seeking help and doing everything the team of doctors suggested.
& # 39; Literally, everything has changed since finding austerity. I was able to become the man I had always been; kind, responsible, empathetic, selfless.
Changes: Cody admitted that he and Melissa & # 39; scared & # 39; were to have a baby, but he added that having a family both of them & # 39; dramatically & # 39; has helped
& # 39; I have worked incredibly hard over the past four years to get higher in my company, last year I became head of my department. & # 39;
Cody describes the moment he saw Melissa in the rehab clinic and how their relationship helped them overcome many challenges.
& # 39; I saw Melissa in the rehab clinic and fell in love on the spot, but she had no idea who I was. My rehab ended and I couldn't get her out of my mind, & he said.
& # 39; I had a girlfriend who was still busy while she was, and I asked him if she would give her number for him. Somehow she agreed and I called her the next night and asked her.
& # 39; She agreed on what a blind date was for her; the date was unreal and we have actually been hanging around every day since then.
& # 39; Melissa and I both knew that recovery was the most important thing in our lives, so we set limits very early on knowing each other.
& # 39; Number one: don't try to run each other's programs, number two: restore a central part of our relationship from the beginning (ie dates go to twelve-step meetings instead of other things).
& # 39; Number three: Promise each other that if one of us falls back in early recovery, we would leave the person falling back because we had clearly made a mistake by being in a relationship too early.
& # 39; Melissa and I can both be brutally honest with each other and we also have tremendous respect for how we each perform our own recovery.
Power: as seen with their oldest son Watson, Melissa and Cody have resumed their recovery, as Cody said: & we know how bad it will be when we go back & # 39;
Difficult: Melissa, now five years sober, said that a mother has taught her about responsibility and responsibility – which she believes is necessary in austerity
Positive: & # 39; Never give up. Life can be beautiful when you start to fight. "It's not easy, but it's amazing," Cody said
Cody said he and Melissa surprised & # 39; s family & # 39; s & # 39; when Melissa became pregnant in their relationship for four months.
He said: & # 39; It was a real test for us and asked us very serious questions, but we both quickly decided that this was falling in love.
& # 39; No joke, a kid has scared the sh ** out of us, but we both knew that if this happened soon, we would be with the person we wanted to have children with, so we just dived.
& # 39; Having a family helped us both enormously. However, I think it is important to point out that Melissa and I have continued our recovery because we know how bad it will be when we go back.
& # 39; This decision must come from us. Our children naturally help us to make that decision every day, but they don't keep us sober / clean. & # 39;
Melissa explained what it was like to be a mother in recovery and said that she had learned her responsibility.
& # 39; I can't add my sobriety to my children while they give me so many reasons to stay sober, they also give me so many reasons to drink / use (especially stress and exhaustion), she said.
& # 39; Being a mother, however, has taught me the responsibility and responsibility that I did not have before – and those two things are needed in sobriety.
& # 39; People are always supportive. We have had people come to us for help and I think this is the greatest gift. Never give up. Life can be beautiful when you start to fight. It's not easy, but it's great. & # 39;