A jealous Bumble stalker launched a vengeful smear campaign against a man she had a one-night stand with by telling her bosses he was a drug addict.
Vengeful single mum Irina-Alexandra Resteanu called Joseph Collins’ bosses and lied to them, claiming he was abusing drugs after he told the 22-year-old he couldn’t see her for three weeks due to ‘work commitments’ .
‘Obsessive’ Resteanu, who only went on two dates with Mr. Collins, launched her hate campaign earlier this summer, bombarding him with 150 abusive messages on Snapchat in just four days.
He called the police, hoping officers would alert her, but she contacted his colleagues at an electrical contracting company to falsely tell them he took drugs before coming to work and threatened to contact his former employers for to repeat the trouble.
In a statement to police, Mr Collins, of Mobberley, near Knutsford, Cheshire, said he had been traumatized by her vindictive abuse.
He said: ‘During the incident I didn’t know how bad it was going to be. I very quickly sank into a depression and a huge drop in mood which was noticed by others.
Vindictive: Irina-Alexandra Resteanu called Joseph Collins’ bosses and lied to them, claiming he was abusing drugs after he told the 22-year-old single mother he couldn’t see her for three weeks. Resteanu is pictured arriving at Warrington Magistrates’ Court
‘I wasn’t my normal self. I struggled with the loss of conversation and was worried about how bad it would get.
‘I struggled with focus on work and with everyday tasks. I found myself losing my sense of humor and confidence.
‘I found that was all I could think about. The worst part was that the bad headspace became more intense as the harassment and stalking progressed.
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‘I quickly felt trapped and powerless. I did not know what to do. At one point I felt that if I contacted the police she would get worse.’
Collins said that having only met Resteanu on a few occasions, he was concerned about what she was capable of and feared she would try to ruin his vacation or target his family.
“I don’t know what’s going through her head or how far she’s going to take it.” he added. ‘My confidence has been really knocked by this and I have trust issues.
‘I’m going to struggle to connect romantically with anyone at least for some time until I really get to know them.’
At Warrington Magistrates’ Court, Resteanu – who claims to have studied at the University of Cambridge and lives in Orford, Warrington – pleaded guilty to stalking and was given an 18-month community order with 80 hours of unpaid work.
Natatsha McAdam, prosecuting, said the pair met on Bumble and went on a date on July 2 before spending a night together in a hotel a week later.
But when Mr Collins told Resteanu he could not see her until July 30 because of work, Miss McAdam said the stalking mother launched a furious four-day campaign, bombarding him ‘about 150 times’ between the 15 .and July 18.
‘He reported it to the police,’ the prosecutor told the court. “The complainant did not want to file a complaint at that time but wanted them to warn the defendant.”
But relentless Resteanu ignored a police warning on July 20, Miss McAdam said, and called Mr Collins that night ‘several times’.
Resteanu pleaded guilty to stalking and was given an 18-month community order with 80 hours of unpaid work. Pictured is Warrington Magistrates’ Court
Her hate campaign escalated the next day when the spiteful single mother called Mr Collins’ work to tell them he was a drug user.
“He was shocked because he hadn’t told her where he worked,” added Miss McAdam.
“That same day she told him that if he contacted the police she would tell his former employers about his drug use.
‘As a result of the defendant’s conduct, he deleted the Snapchat and Bumble apps and considered changing his phone number.
‘He was concerned that the defendant would find out where he lived from Snapchat maps and visit his property.’
Miss McAdam asked the judges for compensation and also an injunction. Because Collins did not want Resteanu to know where he lives, she asked that the restraining order simply prohibit her from going to the village of Mobberly, where she knows he lives.
“It would make him feel safer,” the prosecutor said.
Lawyer Philip Green, representing Resteanu, said she was remorseful and asked that she be given credit for entering a prompt guilty plea at the first hearing.
Bumble is a dating app that empowers women to make the first move. This is where Resteanu and Mr Collins first met
“There are no previous convictions on record against her,” said Mr. Green. – The incident took place over a relatively short period of time. Miss Resteanu is remorseful for her behavior.
‘She is a single mother looking after a child alone. There has clearly been a situation where the parties met on a dating website and it is clear that both parties wanted something different from the relationship.
‘It appears that the victim in this case wanted a short term relationship and Miss Resteanu was clearly looking for something more permanent.’
Resteanu was also ordered to complete 25 days of rehabilitation activity and pay £236 in costs and a victim surcharge. She was also banned from contacting Mr Collins for two years under a restraining order.
District Judge Jack McGarva told her: ‘Your behavior was quite obsessive and had a major impact on the victim in this case. There will be no compensation as that would add insult to injury. It would mean that you had continued contact with the complainant, which is not what he wanted.’