Parents dread the moment their child bursts into tears, kicking and screaming in a fit of rage — but experts reveal that tantrums are good for your little one’s development.
Meltdowns are a physiological response linked to the brain’s natural threat detection system that results from a child’s inability to manage emerging emotions.
Their release helps the young to release emotions that can get in the way of their normal, cooperative lives.
“Just like you and me, when kids of any age feel emotionally overwhelmed, they can respond by melting down,” Rachel Fitzd, children’s and parenting expert, told DailyMail.com.
“Your child will deal with his fatigue more easily in the future if you give him the space to go through the experience safely and with his self-esteem intact, with tenderness and respect from you.”
Terrible tantrums help your little one’s development. Meltdowns are a physiological response linked to the brain’s natural threat detection system that results from a child’s inability to manage emerging emotions
Temper tantrums usually start around 18 months of age and are very common in young children. And it tends to get worse around age two and three – hence the saying “terrible two”.
Researchers found that tantrums occur in 87% from 18 to 24 months, 91% from 30 to 36 months, and 59% from 42 to 48 months.
said FitzD, who is also an expert speaker baby show.
Breakdowns begin in early childhood – from around the first birthday – as the child develops a deeper and more complex emotional life.
`We see the good side of this as they adorably throw themselves at us in kisses and hugs, and enchant us with their joy in life’s smallest pleasures. But just as they cannot easily regulate their joyful excitement, they are not yet able to manage the dark side of their newly emerging feelings.
Until his shell is developed, the only way for a child to tell you what is bothering him is by expressing his feelings.
According to paper Published by Laura Sisterhen and Paulette Ann W. Wy with the University of Arkansas.
Parents tend to be baffled as to what caused the explosion, but Fitzd says hunger is one of the main culprits.
Toddlers and young children have a lot of energy and a rapidly growing body and brain and therefore need a constant flow of food. “But their stomachs are so small—only the size of their closed fists,” she said.
“Just like you and me, when kids of any age feel emotionally overwhelmed, they can respond by melting down,” Rachel Fitzd, children’s and parenting expert, told DailyMail.com.
Parents tend to be baffled as to why they break out, but FitzD reveals different reasons, one being hunger and the other being tiredness and frustration.
The reason youngsters forgo broccoli in favor of brown bread and butter is not because of bad parenting but because broccoli is simply filling but provides minimal calories.
“Without a steady stream of healthy carbs, fats, and fruit sugars, the word ‘barn’ begins, and the brain can’t think straight, and the slightest thing will push them over the edge.”
The other two are fatigue and frustration, which tend to be easily spotted.
“Toddlers seem to have boundless energy, but every parent of a toddler knows that if they skip a nap or ‘quiet time,’ their little sweetie is going to turn nasty,” said FitzD.
While they may be able to tolerate that you wrestle them in their coat if they’re well-rested, try the same motion when they’re sleep-deprived, and you’ll likely be cooped up in a miserable mess for the next hour.
“Kids can handle a little bit of hunger or tiredness, but throw frustration into the mix and your child will simply be driven into a state of exhaustion.”
And while you might give up hope when you see your little one start clenching their little fists, there are ways to minimize the inevitable outburst.
It’s always a good idea to try to crash down the aisle by ensuring your child gets plenty of healthy snacks to ward off “hunger” bouts.
(Also make sure you give them) regular opportunities for down time outside the zone and that you allow your children, children and teens a lot of independence and independence.
Sure, there will be times when it’s simply not appropriate to let your child do things for himself, but really try to reduce those times – you’ll also save yourself a lot of work!
If you see collapsing bubbles, use your cunning to distract and redirect the younger ones, and with the older ones, gently point out that you can see their frustration and ask them what can help – putting finding the solution in their own hands helps. Learn to self-regulate and discover their coping strategies.
