Father who feared he would crush his wife during sex gives birth 40th since having stomach surgery

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A father who feared he would crush his wife while tilting the scales at 58th has revealed that they “ can’t keep their hands apart ” since he had stomach surgery to throw the 40th.

Paul Tuthill, 44, who lives in Inverness, with his wife Pauline Tuthill, 43, business solutions consultant, got so big that doctors couldn’t find scales to weigh it.

The father of three hurt his back in February 2010 after slipping on a flight of stairs and he was unable to walk as the injury and his mobility steadily worsened.

Gotta give up work, Paul who had been a fitness enthusiast and weighed in at a healthy 16.5th, won over 42nd while housebound.

Paul Tuthill, 44, from Inverness, Scotland, who once gave scales at 58th, has restored his sex life after shedding 40th. Pictured: Paul and his wife Pauline

Having previously weighed a healthy 16.5th, Paul's weight escalated when he injured his back and was housebound in 2010.  Pictured: Paul previously

Having previously weighed in at a healthy 16.5th, Paul’s weight escalated when he injured his back and was housebound in 2010. Pictured: Paul previously

He became depressed and made several suicide attempts in late 2017.

After Paul offered the money for stomach surgery by his concerned sister, Paul’s life turned around and he managed to lose more than 24th to the surgery.

He is now a healthy 15th and works as a tour guide in the Scottish Highlands.

Paul said, “I got so big that I slept in the living room with a changing table because I couldn’t use the toilet.

‘My sex life with my wife was non-existent.

‘I couldn’t go on vacation or days out with my family.

‘At my biggest I’m not even sure what weight I was because the scales only went up to 54th, but I think it was about 58th.

‘My legs were swollen up to a meter in circumference, I could literally feel myself dying.

Paul said that due to his large size, he had to sleep in the living room and was unable to use the toilet.  Pictured: Paul after weight loss

Paul said that due to his large size, he had to sleep in the living room and was unable to use the toilet. Pictured: Paul after weight loss

Paul diet for …

Breakfast – Four toasts with full butter, peanut butter and jelly

Lunch – Much of the leftover takeaway from the night before

Supper – Takeaway, pizza, kebab and chips

Snacks – Chips and chocolate

Drinks – Coffee and Coke

… Paul diet

Breakfast – Scrambled eggs and mushrooms

Lunch – Homemade soup or tuna sandwich

Supper – Chicken bread and vegetables

Snacks – No

Drinks – Water

‘I was a broken person. The surgery and some great people who helped me saved my life.

“I have to pinch myself these days when I think about how far I’ve come.”

Pauline said, “It is my life that my husband is back and he can walk and climb hills with me.

‘I walk a lot, so it’s great that he comes with me.

‘It just feels like I’ve got my husband back.

‘Our relationship is now definitely on track and back to where it was.

‘There is now much less stress and tension.’

Paul had to rely on caregivers for his daily needs, such as washing, eating and using the toilet, after he stopped working because of chronic pain.  Pictured: Paul for weight loss

Paul had to rely on caregivers for his daily needs, such as washing, eating and using the toilet, after he stopped working because of chronic pain. Pictured: Paul for weight loss

Paul quickly gained weight until he was unable to move and became housebound after he retired from work due to chronic back pain in February 2010.

Because his busy family was no longer able to provide for him, Paul was forced to rely on caregivers to provide for his daily needs, such as washing, eating and using the toilet.

The NHS provided him with a special wheelchair for obese people to be brought in from Denmark.

“Since then, I’ve found that the strong painkillers I was taking made it nearly impossible for me to control my appetite,” said Paul.

It wasn’t that I ate that badly, I just couldn’t control portion sizes.

‘I was so big I couldn’t take a shower or wash myself, I couldn’t wipe my own butt.

“My wife became my caretaker, worked, and took care of our children.

Paul, who had to use a special wheelchair, admits that every night he wished he were dead because he felt like he was holding back his family.  Pictured: Paul after weight loss

Paul, who had to use a special wheelchair, admits that every night he wished he were dead because he felt like he was holding back his family. Pictured: Paul after weight loss

But I couldn’t see a way out of the mess I was in, my back was still in excruciating pain every day, and my sanity was in tatters.

‘It got to the point where every night I wished I was dead, I felt like I was holding back my family, I wanted it all over.

‘It got so bad that I made several attempts to take my own life.

“I even threw myself on the floor of my room so they couldn’t get me up when they found me.”

But Paul survived and was assisted by his sister to pay for a £ 15,000 stomach operation that the NHS had denied him.

When he decided to try to lose weight for his first appointment in November 2017, he stuck to a limited intake of 1,800 calories per day.

Paul said, ‘I decided to drink as much water as possible and started counting calories, and the weight just lost me.

Paul was on a low-calorie diet to lose weight, prior to a £ 15,000 stomach surgery paid for by his sister.  Pictured: Paul with his wife Pauline

Paul was on a low-calorie diet to lose weight, prior to a £ 15,000 stomach surgery paid for by his sister. Pictured: Paul with his wife Pauline

‘I went from 58th to 46th in just a few months, but I was told I was still not light enough to have the surgery. I was told that I would absolutely not survive the operation.

“ I left the appointment feeling extremely demoralized, but I didn’t want to give up so I continued counting calories and managed to hit 34th by April 2018. ”

After reaching his goal, Paul was booked for mini gastric bypass surgery on May 8, 2018.

The five-hour surgery was a success, and Paul lost a stone a month after sticking to his healthy calorie diet.

Despite this, Paul – who returned to college in December 2018 – was still unable to walk properly.

He said, “I contacted physical therapists, I did research online, I set myself small goals, and gradually I started to see improvements.

Paul said it took him three months to transition from a wheelchair, to the zimmer frame, to crutches, and to walking with a cane to walk independently.  Pictured: Paul after weight loss

Paul said it took three months for him to transition from a wheelchair, to the zimmer frame, to crutches, and to walking with a cane to walk independently. Pictured: Paul after weight loss

‘I just wanted my life back.

‘I went from wheelchair, to zimmer frame, to crutches, to one crutch, to a walking stick, to no walking stick in three months.

‘It felt great to be able to walk around independently again.

‘People clapped me as I waddled across the university campus, some even walked with me.

‘When I got to the 25th I decided to start cycling again, it was just great.’

In the past two years, the devoted dad has lost another 10 – an accomplishment that he says has “ changed his whole life. ”

“Before we just couldn’t function as a family,” he said.

The children lived with a man who would clearly be dead soon.

Paul (pictured) underwent nine-hour surgery to remove excess skin and can now sleep in the same bed as his wife

Paul (pictured) underwent nine-hour surgery to remove excess skin and can now sleep in the same bed as his wife

“I can now take family walks and go out with my wife.

‘We couldn’t even sleep in the same bed for years and now we can get our sex life back on track, which is great.’

The devoted husband underwent nine-hour surgery to remove excess skin on December 1, 2020, during which surgeons removed more than 11 pounds of loose flesh.

‘While I still need to remove more skin, I feel great on my arms and legs,’ he said.

‘There was so much skin that it was actually really hard for me to use the toilet because it would hang over my genitals and get in the way.

“I’m really proud of how far I’ve come, it’s small goals and little stepping stones that changed everything.”

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