A father has revealed that he is struggling with whether or not to tell her future fiance that she is a sociopath who feels no love or empathy.
Reddit Pause96 asked the question on the & # 39; AmItheA ** hole & # 39; subreddit last week, explaining that he is very sorry for his 25-year-old daughter & # 39; but finds that her unsuspecting boyfriend & # 39; deserves all facts & # 39 ;.
& # 39; I have had a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there is one thing about her that would stop many people – she is a diagnosed sociopath, he wrote.
Difficult phone call: Reddit users could not decide what a father should do after he asked if she should tell her or not that her daughter's future fiancé is a diagnosed sociopath (Stock Image)
& # 39; She showed strange behavior at a young age and after a serious incident of abuse against her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. & # 39;
The father remembered how his daughter would get into trouble because of lies, atrocities and general misconduct when she was in elementary school. With proper therapy and support, however, her & # 39; bad behavior was minimized as she grew older & # 39 ;.
At the age of 18, she was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), a mental disorder characterized by ignoring other people.
The father noted that she is keeping to the law, has a decent job, good education and & # 39; many good friendships and admirers & # 39; – especially male admirers.
& # 39; She is very, very charming and adept at attracting boys and retaining their interest, & # 39; he explained. & # 39; She uses that old dating guide & # 39; The Rules & # 39; as a bible. & # 39;
The user of Reddit said the boyfriend of his daughter of eighteen months is & # 39; crazy about her & # 39; and that he has built a close relationship with him since he started dating.
& # 39; He is a great guy, very friendly, funny and intelligent, & # 39; he said. & # 39; But I doubt she loves him. Since her diagnosis we have had very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health and she has been open with me that she feels no love or empathy towards anyone, even family. & # 39;
He remembered how his daughter broke at her friend's funeral, only to confess later & # 39; it was all a problem & # 39; because they are & # 39; fairly neutral & # 39; felt about the loss.
Antisocial personality disorder symptoms:
Ignore good and evil
Persistent lying or cheating to abuse others
It is harsh, cynical and disrespectful to others
Using charm or humor to manipulate others for personal gain or pleasure
Arrogance, a sense of superiority and being exceptionally obstinate
Regular problems with the law, including criminal behavior
Repeatedly violate the rights of others through intimidation and dishonesty
Impulsiveness or failure to plan ahead
Hostility, significant irritability, agitation, aggression or violence
Lack of empathy for others and lack of regret about harming others
Take unnecessary risk or dangerous behavior without taking into account the safety of themselves or others
Bad or offensive relationships
Failure to consider the negative consequences of behavior or to learn from them
Be consistently irresponsible and repeatedly failing to meet work or financial obligations
Source: Mayo Clinic
& # 39; She has also said she has never felt guilty about everything she has ever done, and does not know how guilt feels, & # 39; he added. & # 39; Although she likes being with her boyfriend and feeling sexually attracted to him, I highly doubt that she feels very fond of him. & # 39;
The father believes that his daughter's boyfriend may soon be introducing, which worries him because he & # 39; has no idea of her diagnosis & # 39 ;.
She has said beforehand that she has no intention of telling him that she has been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder because she thinks it will deter him.
Although he warned her to tell him the truth before she gets married or wants him, she always says she knows he wouldn't dare & # 39 ;.
& # 39; I would, & # 39; he admitted. & # 39; I really like this young man and respect him, and would hate to have this & # 39; to keep secret & # 39; hidden from him and allow him to marry without this piece of knowledge.
& # 39; I am not trying to sabotage my daughter's future, & # 39; he added. Misschien Maybe her boyfriend's love for her personality and other aspects is enough to not end the relationship.
& # 39; It's his decision to make, but he deserves all the facts. One day he will be sure she is a bit "out"; it cannot be kept secret forever. & # 39;
Reddit users struggled with the difficult decision, many of whom agreed that he should let things play naturally.
& # 39; Wow. That is the most difficult AITA I have read in a long time, & one person noted. & # 39; In both cases you are ethically affected. It is probably best that you stay out. & # 39;
& # 39; It's hard because she could unleash a world of pain for him & # 39 ;, another Reddit user said, & # 39; but on the other hand maybe not … remember that finding this woman that you hold so high actually is not so love you …. & # 39;
& # 39; Maybe discuss what you should do with her doctors? & # 39; someone else suggested. & # 39; This is really damned if you are damned if you don't. & # 39;
One person said the & # 39; major problem & # 39; is whether they are planning to have children together.
& # 39; I think a sociopath is at a very high risk of being a bad parent & # 39 ;, said the Reddit user. & # 39; I say it softly. & # 39;
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