An estimated 750,000 children in the UK accidentally wet their beds at night.
The problem persists with 15 percent of five-year-olds who & # 39; most nights & # 39; pee in their bed, and with 3 percent of 15-year-olds who still wet the bed.
Alicia Eaton, an expert who has been working with children wetting the bed since 2004, published her first book on the subject in 2009.
Eaton is a clinical hypnotherapist and advanced practitioner of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), with methods that were previously overlooked and that are considered & # 39; alternative & # 39; were designated.
But the evidence is in the pudding and Eaton has helped countless families with bedwetting and has published ten books.
The newest is the tenth anniversary edition of & # 39; Stop Bedwetting In Seven Days & # 39 ;, its simple step-by-step guide to help children overcome problems with bedwetting.
In it, the expert shares her 19 golden rules to tackle the problem and shows how to stop using her proven methods in seven days.
The problem persists for 15% of five-year-olds who have their bed & # 39; most nights & # 39; make it wet and, surprisingly, 3% of 15-year-olds stay in bed
Before you begin, it is advisable to read the book in its entirety and to become familiar with the process.
All you need are a few A4 sheets of paper, felt-tip pens, party balloons, a notebook for recording success and the downloadable audio version of Dry Beds Now by Alicia Eaton & # 39; s website.
1. Choose your moment
Is your child ready to tackle this problem? Do they recognize that this is something that can be tackled? Do they have a desire to change?
Do not choose a particularly busy week to start, such as a school exam. You know which week suits you best, but plan ahead.
2. Start by keeping a journal
Record your child's behavioral patterns. The type of information that is useful to know is:
- How often did your child get wet last night?
- What day had it been?
- Was it a busy day at school or perhaps a little less regimented due to school holidays?
- Had your child had extra sport and had he dried out?
- Was there a lot of homework or anxiety caused by school tests the next morning?
- Was it a late evening after a friend's birthday party?
- What did your child eat?
- And what about drinks?
This is the information-gathering phase – it's time to act like a detective. Understand the habit and it is easier to solve it.
3. Erase your clutter
Much of this issue revolves around trust. Moreover, a child will often run to the toilet in the middle of the night, so keep his route free of toys and other debris, a journey can further affect confidence.
A messy, disorganized room reflects the messy, disorganized mind of your child and this will not help.
Ask them to clear the room in a positive way, tell them what you are do want instead of what you do not.
4. Assess the lighting
Some children who have been to Alicia have said they would go to the toilet at night if it wasn't that dark, could this apply to your child?
Illuminate the route to the bathroom well, but keep in mind that they must be able to sleep in their own room, so have the light accordingly.
A handy & # 39; halfway through & # 39; measure can be a cot if the child is really too scared to go to the toilet alone.
Make sure the bathroom is as child-friendly as possible, try to place things at child level. This helps the child to feel that the space belongs to them as much as you do.
6. Empty the bladder
This means that you have to go to the toilet twice before you go to sleep. The point is to completely empty the bladder before a child settles.
7. Deep sleepers
Alicia says that although some parents say their children are so deep sleepers that they didn't know they were in a wet bed, they have admitted otherwise to her.
So she says to some parents: & # 39; Beware of the self-fulfilling prophecy. & # 39; By hearing this over and over again, the child can think that it is really sleeping through the humidification.
If they can program their brains to wake up early at Christmas, they can do that if they wet the bed.
Alicia Eaton is an expert who has worked with children in bed since 2004 and published her first book on the subject in 2009
8. In the genes
Perhaps there is a connection for some, but Alicia says she discovers that she has found many more bedwetting children in her experience without a family history than children with.
She warns that self-fulfilling prophecy can play a role here. The self-image of the child will be influenced if all these bedwetting family members present themselves.
It is irrelevant. The only person who is important now is your child. Of course, let them know that they are not alone and that their family is struggling, but watch out for your language.
9. Change drinking habits
It is no wonder that parents can feel confused with all the conflicting messages about how much a child should drink.
Alicia says she is not in favor of limiting fluids in young children.
Summer makes things more complicated, the children drink more and so they have to. They have made it a habit to swallow too much, so make sure they remind them that they are sipping & not swallowing like they did on the hot day.
Some children also notice that they become more wet after drinking sugary, carbonated drinks. Stay with normal water wherever possible, but don't make much of it.
10. Change eating habits
Eating certain foods can have an effect on the bladder. Consider how you smell pee when, for example, you eat asparagus.
Water-based fruits and vegetables, such as strawberries and melons, have a moisture-wicking effect on the body, which means that they encourage you to expel water. Be wary of these as snacks.
Too much wheat can also ignite the bladder and cause you to urinate more often, so it is worth experimenting with your child's diet for a week or two.
Milk and artificial sweeteners can also have a diuretic effect.
It may be worth consulting a qualified nutritionist to view your child's diet to & # 39; trigger food & # 39; to deal with.
A full intestine rests against the bladder and encourages it to empty. Again, this may be related to a diet or the fact that a child may not want to admit his constipation. Discover it and work on it.
12. Digital detox
Experts agree that sleeping in an electromagnetic field does not lead to a restful sleep.
Similarly, it does not help to start with a screen before you go to sleep, to ensure that your children are turned off at a good time to increase the hormone melatonin that promotes sleep.
13. Stay positive
It is important to remain encouraging and enthusiastic throughout this process.
Praise your child regularly and be sympathetic when they have an accident. Take the initiative with the problem or it can last for years.
Trust your child's ability to solve this problem, they will encounter disappointments, but stick with it.
Eaton is a clinical hypnotherapist and advanced practitioner of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), methods that have been overlooked and that are known as & # 39; alternative & # 39; were designated
14. Discard the protective pants
These can block signals that travel from the bladder to the brain.
They have a mental effect that tells the child that they are a bed lawyer and that they cannot do anything about it.
Healthcare workers agree that it is time to dump them around the age of six. From that moment it is better for your child to feel the wetness and to deal with it.
However, do not do it overnight. Alicia recommends dumping them on day five of her program – forever.
15. Let them sleep
Waking your child from his sleep actually encourages him to pee when he is only half awake, this can have the opposite effect that you both want.
Provide sufficient extra sheets and bedding, as well as a protective cover for the mattress.
There are many products and items that can be used to ensure that the problem is resolved quickly to minimize sleep disturbance.
17. Don't reward
Punishment does not work, the child wants to solve the problem. But Alicia is also not in favor of rewards because children, when they expect rewards, can perform worse.
Encouraging your child to go to the end goal instead of a reward per control will increase his chances of getting there.
18. How to praise
Superlative words like & # 39; awesome & # 39; and & # 39; brilliant & # 39; can quickly lose their meaning, so make sure you praise the effort in the intention rather than the result, this will motivate the child and make them more willing to take on challenges.
Try sentences like:
& # 39; You have thought to … & # 39;
& # 39; I hear you … & # 39;
& # 39; I have noticed … & # 39;
19. Find a friend
Children can deviate from a mother's task and then gladly do it for a teacher. Consider finding a buddy to share the load of this program, someone with whom the child can stay in touch and talk about it. It can be a friend, family member or teacher.
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