Why your honesty has been turned off: A relationship expert warns of one critical date mistake you make
- Be honest, dating expert Luann Ward warns
- She says telling the whole truth on dates is a turn off
- Better to be silent than exaggerated
You shouldn’t be too blunt on a first date, according to relationship experts, who believe being overly blunt is a huge turn off for most singles.
Louanne Ward explained that people don’t need to know if you snore, talk to your mom, or what your “body number” is.
“When it comes to dating, we’ve all learned that honesty is the best policy, but there’s a difference between being honest and being overly involved,” she said.
“You must exercise your discretion.”
Louanne explained that each date is a screening exercise for both parties.
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Dating expert Louanne Ward says you shouldn’t be “too upfront” on a first date
“Every question you answer and every piece of information you provide is data collected by your history…to find your history and ability score,” she said.
She explained that information is evaluated through a list of subconscious pros and cons.
“The only way you’ll get a second date is by getting a high score on the date and you won’t get that by sharing useless information.”
Other facts you won’t share include the number of dates you’ve gone on.
“You want to know if people are saying no to you or if they are saying no to snoring for life or a possible family situation,” she said.
She said it’s important to stop and ask yourself why you’re talking and if there isn’t a good reason you should stop.
She said, “Keep your mouth shut and let the other person speak so you can gather information.”
Reveal private information on a need-to-know basis and not every date needs to know the ins and outs of your life.
And people were happy with the advice.
“As someone who has never been to the dating scene, I found this advice to be very helpful,” said one man.
Another woman agreed it was “very good advice” but did not disclose if she had received excessive sharing.