An expectant mother who desperately wants to call her son Gaylord to respect the family tradition claims that her in-laws told her it would be “abuse.”
The anonymous 23-year-old woman, believed to be from the US, told how she and her husband, 24, are expecting their first child in August.
The baby boy will be the first grandchild on her side of the family, and the expectant mother said genealogy is “very important” to her relatives.
However, she explained that what should be a “happy, exciting time” is now causing her grief as she and her husband disagree about the name of their upcoming arrival.
The anonymous 23-year-old woman, believed to be from the US, told how she and her husband, 24, are expecting their first child in August. Shown: Stock image
The expectant mother said her husband agreed that they would name him Gaylord a year ago, after her father and grandfather, but he is “getting back at his word now.”
Write on Reddit, she said she was “crushed” because “this is so important to my whole family.”
“In my family, our genealogy is extremely important,” she said. The firstborn son since the 1800s was given this name. I am well aware that today it is a stigmatized name, so I agreed to use a short form. The name is Gaylord.
“I get it, believe me, I know most people hate it. That is why I was able to discuss with my parents and grandparents that he visits Gail in daily life, so that he does not suffer from bullies.
She wrote on Reddit saying she was ‘crushed’ by the disagreement because ‘this is so important to my whole family’
“They really didn’t like the idea, but I worn them out and they agreed and don’t seem offended by this. They see the reaction to today’s name as a fad that will eventually disappear, and I agree that accepting every generation tends to become. When society is no longer so immature about it, he can start using the full name. ‘
When she told her husband her plan and asked if he agreed, she said he “chuckled a little” and said “sure.”
“I thought it was done,” she continued. But now he claims he never agreed and thought I was kidding. Why would he think that when he met my father and grandfather?
“He doesn’t even want to discuss it with me now and has since told his parents about my choice of name. I now have his entire family chasing me and overreacting, telling me it would be insulting even if we just called him Gail. My mom told me my MIL called her to yell at her over the phone. ‘
The woman claimed that her in-laws told her that Gail is not an acceptable boy name and that she should “go with the times” and “choose something more appropriate.”
Reddit generally took the side of the woman’s in-laws, which led the expectant mother to edit her post, admitting that she was surprised by the ‘hostility’ she received in response
She added that they gave her a list of approved names, which she found “incredibly offensive.”
“Not to mention they were trendy names that would never stand the test of time,” she continued. “They have no right to name my own baby for me. I don’t think my husband would have such a problem if his family didn’t stick their nose where it doesn’t belong, since he had no problem with it a year ago.
“What happened to respecting our elders and traditions? His family has no name traditions, so it should be up to my family who does. How could I expect to break an age-old family tradition? Are we really going to let immature homophobia dictate what we can and cannot do? I can’t get past this, and neither can my in-laws. ‘
But Reddit generally took the side of the woman’s in-laws, which prompted the expectant mother to edit her post, admitting that she was surprised by the “hostility” she received in response.
A Redditor wrote, “I work with elementary age children and this is a terrible idea. I’m sorry no. Don’t call your child Gaylord in any form. ‘
Another commented, “You both let family make a decision that really lies between you and your husband. I think you should discuss this with your husband and disregard both in-laws. You should both have an equal voice in naming your child and not reject each other. ‘
Some were less cruel and offered compromise ideas, such as turning Gail into Gale
And someone wrote, “Anyone who meets him will assume he is a girl of his name when he goes past Gail.”
Some were less cruel and offered compromise ideas, such as turning Gail into Gale.
The expectant mother reasoned, “I would just use the short form and his classmates should never have to know the full name, because that’s something you can discuss with the directors and teachers not to share.
“Gail is really a unisex name, but I see the spelling Gale is more masculine and could change to Gale without any problem.”