It’s quite easy to turn a man on. You either need a decent rack, a nice ass or hips to cling to (ideally all three!) and you have it wrapped around your little finger.
But us women? Oh, we’re wired a little differently.
Sure, a six-pack might get our attention, but if you have a toothless grin or the vocabulary of a toddler, we’ll disappear faster than you can mutter, “Would you like?”
You see, physical attraction is more complex for us. And this hit me like a ton of bricks recently when a friend and I started swooning over a guy who was – wait for it – holding the door open for an older lady.
Then I realized: it’s not always the obvious things that turn us on. No, forget everything you think you know about needing abs, a big dick, or an even bigger bank account. It’s those little, everyday things that men don’t even realize they’re doing that make us stop and think, “Hello, Dad.”
Take me for example. Nothing makes my heart beat faster than a man who drops his voice into a low, serious baritone in the middle of a conversation. Ooft, someone, get a mop.
Seriously, sometimes that’s all it takes.
Of course I had to investigate. So I surveyed my fabulous female followers to discover their unexpected excitement, and let me tell you, the responses were dazzling.
It’s not always the obvious things that worry us, writes Jana Hocking
It turns out that boys do the most normal, everyday things and we swoon over this as if it were a steamy novel. So gentlemen, listen up: these moves could just be your ticket to the bedroom.
A *somewhat* dominant presence
There’s something about the way a man behaves in everyday moments that is irresistibly attractive. One woman said her heart beats faster when a man “puts his hand behind my headrest when he’s backing up.”
That effortless blend of competence and control is subtly dominant and undeniably sexy. Another follower told me she loves it when a man “stands on the car side of the sidewalk to protect me.” It conveys a subtle sense of chivalry that makes us feel protected in the most primal way.
Another classic? The simple act of holding the door open. Of course, some will say this is the bare minimum, but the fact that it is so rare these days makes it all the more impressive.
Hands-on masculinity
There’s no denying it: women love a man who knows how to get his hands dirty. One respondent beamed as she watched her partner ‘twist the taps with a wrench… the masculinity is out of this world.’ Another confessed that she gets weak in the knees when her husband “precisely aligns a nail with his hammer before driving it into the wall.”
Cooking can also take on a rough, sexy touch. ‘Making Bread Dough with Strong Arms’ was another surprise favorite and proves that that little bit of extra effort in the kitchen can work wonders outside of it too.
It turns out that boys do the most normal, everyday things and we swoon over this as if it were a steamy novel
A few simple changes to your behavior outside the bedroom can dramatically improve your chances in it, reveals Jana (stock photo by models)
And who can resist a man who knows his way around tools? From ‘old-school shaving with a razor’ to ‘opening a bottle of wine with a corkscrew’, these simple, tactile actions exude confidence and competence.
A SNAG (sensitive New Age man)
There is an undeniable attraction to a man who can be strong and tender at the same time. Several women said they love it when a man “holds my hand in a big crowd.” It signals protection and connection. Another admitted that “holding my head gently as I approach him” was a big turn-on.
It’s also the little things. Take for example ‘books reach the top shelf – and they have to be books’. One woman said that this simple act showed that her husband was quietly strong, but also a thoughtful, intellectual type.
Oh, and a friend confessed that when her husband got family members’ names tattooed on his chest, she couldn’t keep her hands off him for days.
The fantasy of ‘rural charm’
Last, but certainly not least, some women shared their soft spot for the rugged, alien archetype.
One follower described her dream man as a ‘country boy who owns tractors and cranes’. While she acknowledged that these types of men tend to be thin where she lives in North East London, she did say that seeing a guy in a shirt with the sleeves rolled up always catches her attention because it gives off that sexy, rugged and sexy look. -ready atmosphere.
One of Jana’s followers described her dream man as a ‘country boy who owns tractors and cranes’. Although these types of men are skinny in nature, seeing a guy in a shirt with the sleeves rolled up gives off a sexy, rugged vibe (stock image)
Small actions, like grabbing the passenger’s headrest while reversing into a parking space, subtly convey dominance in a way that drives women wild (stock image)
And look, as someone who watched Clarkson’s Farm, I get it! It was strangely enticing to see Jeremy Clarkson playing with his tractors. There’s a reason he won Britain’s Hottest Man.
The verdict
The point is, guys: we sure love the abs and biceps, but so what Real Getting our engines revved are things you don’t even know you’re doing. It’s the effortless way you hold the door open, stand along the road to protect us, or casually throw your arm behind the headrest as you back up.
It’s the way you roll up your sleeves like you’re about to save the world (or just change a light bulb), the focus you show while lining up a nail with a hammer (can’t explain it, but it’s hot!), or how you confidently pop open a bottle of wine with a corkscrew, as if it doesn’t matter. Bonus points if you mix bread dough with those strong arms — because apparently carbs are sexy now, and I’m not mad about it.
But it’s not just the big, manly stuff. We’re just as weak for the tender moments: holding hands in a crowd, handing over your coat when it’s freezing, or even – shock horror – picking your clothes off the floor without asking. Swoon.
Ultimately, it’s the mix of strength, kindness and quiet confidence that makes us weak at our knees. So stay your tough, capable selves, guys. You guys are prettier than you think, and believe me, we noticed.