Ellen DeGeneres' mother has said she is sorry she did not believe her guest daughters in the talk show when she trusted her when she was 15 that she was sexually abused by her stepfather.
Ellen, 61, made the claims on Netflix & # 39; s My Next Guest Needs No Introduction with David Letterman, where she said her stepfather touched her breasts multiple times when she was a young teenager claiming she was looking for lumps .
Her mother Betty, who is a breast cancer survivor, initially did not believe her when she told her and stayed with him for eighteen years.
She did not mention her stepfather during the interview. In 1973, when Ellen was the age she was when she said the attack was taking place, her mother married the Texas salesman Roy Grussendorf. He died in 1997.
On Friday, Betty shared a statement urging other parents not to do what she did.
& # 39; I now know that one of the most difficult things to do is to speak after being sexually abused.
& # 39; I love my daughter and I wish I had the capacity to listen to her when she told me what had happened.
& # 39; I live with that regret and I wouldn't want that for another parent. If someone in your life has the courage to speak out, please believe them, & she said NBC.
Betty DeGeneres, shown with her daughter in 2015, said she lived with regret that she did not believe her and would not wish for another parent
Ellen, now 61, said the abuse happened when she was & # 39; 15 or 16 & # 39; She is shown above at that age
At the show, DeGeneres remembered how her stepfather pretended to check her breasts for lumps when the alleged abuse started.
& # 39; He told me when she was out of town that he had felt a lump in her chest and had to feel my breasts because he didn't want to upset her, but he had to feel mine.
& # 39; Again, because I didn't know about bodies, I don't know that breasts are all different and … Anyway, he convinced me to feel my breasts and then he tried to do it again, and then another time.
& # 39; He is trying to break open my door, and I kicked out the window and ran away because I knew it would go more to something … and I didn't want to tell my mother because I protected her and I knew that that would ruin her happiness, & she said.
She added that while her mother Betty & # 39; now excuses everything & # 39 ;, she did not believe her when she initially trusted her a few years after the incident.
Betty stayed with the man for 18 years. DeGeneres said in previous interviews that she eventually left him after his story had been changed several times and she realized that he had abused her daughter.
Ellen explained: & # 39; I'm mad at myself because, you know, I don't … I was too weak to stand up to … I was 15 or 16.
He tries to break open my door, and I kicked out the window and ran away because I knew it would go more to something … and I didn't want to tell my mother because I protected her and I knew it would destroy happiness
& # 39; It really is a terrible, terrible story and the only reason I am going to talk about it in detail is because I want other girls not, let's know, ever let anyone do that …
& # 39; I should never have protected her. I should have protected myself and I didn't tell her for a few years and then I told her.
& # 39; And then she didn't believe me and stayed with him for another 18 years. And he eventually left him because he had changed the story so many times. & # 39;
From her mother she said: & # 39; I have always cared for her all my life. So I kept taking care of her.
& # 39; I didn't really care. Until recently I went around: "I wish I would be better cared for. I wish she would have believed me."
& # 39; And she apologizes, but, you know … & # 39;
DeGeneres made the revelation during an interview with David Letterman on his Netflix show, My Next Guest Needs No Introduction
Ellen spoke earlier about sexual abuse when she was 15, while criticizing someone who Dr. Christine Blasey Ford and her allegations against Brett Kavanaugh, Supreme Court judge, did not believe.
This is the first time she has shared the details of the alleged attack.
She said she decided to speak out because & we [women] just don't feel that we are worth it, or that we are afraid of having a voice, and we are afraid of saying no say.
Although her mother has not believed her about the abuse for years, DeGeneres says they have a good relationship and she is & # 39; apologetic & # 39;
& # 39; That's the only reason I think it's important to talk about it because there are so many young girls and it doesn't matter how old you are.
& # 39; When I see people who speak out, especially now, it makes me angry when victims aren't believed because we just don't make things up. And I love men, but there are so many men who get away so much.
& # 39; It's time for us to have a voice. It is time for us to have strength. & # 39;
It is not the first time DeGeneres has mentioned the abuse.
In 2005, she told Allure that she was attacked by her stepfather & # 39; when she was 16 or 17 & # 39 ;.
She also made the same statements in 2007, in an interview with Barbara Walters.
& # 39; My mother had just had a breast amputation. She had breast cancer and he told me he felt another lump in her other breast and that he had to feel mine.
& # 39; Reluctantly I let him and then it escalated to more and more, I tried to do more, and then she was out of town and tried to break open the door one night when I was sleeping and I had to open the window kicking and going to sleep & night in a hospital.
& # 39; It's a small town, I couldn't tell people why I was there. He was a terrible, terrible man.
& # 39; She didn't believe me and then his story changed over the years and she realized he was lying, & # 39; she said.
Her interview is one of many in the second series of My Next Guest Needs No Introduction with David Letterman that will be launched on Netflix on Friday.
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