Do you have a hard time attracting love? Third generation psychic Deborah Graham can help.
The star of SiriusXM’s ‘Psychic Connection with Deborah Graham’ and TLC’s ‘The Psychic Matchmaker,’ shares her mystical secrets and practical methods to help thousands of individuals find their soul mate.
From using your third eye to wearing the right colour, Deborah reveals to the Daily Mail what it takes to create a real and lasting connection.
Do you have a hard time attracting love? Third generation psychic Deborah Graham can help
It’s what’s inside that really matters
‘When I make a match, I do it from the inside,’ says the gifted psychic, energy healer and practicing matchmaker for over 30 years.
‘I see beautiful love from within people – love and power and the essence of who they are – and I connect with that and feel their life.
‘By tapping into the solar plexus chakra (where an individual’s essence is contained), I can mate a person with a match that will last a lifetime.’
Deborah has an advantage over a traditional matchmaker because she can see your future.
‘I know if this is going to be a real connection or if it’s going to be a “Wham, Bam, Thank You Ma’ am!”
How to recognize the signs of a perfect match
When connecting with someone on a spiritual level, Deborah says to focus on the eyes, as they are the window to the soul.
“It will show you if that person is the right connection, if that person is a for now or forever person,” she explains
‘If you can’t see yourself in someone’s soul and energy, then it’s definitely not an energy match.
‘If that person is looking left or looking right and avoiding eye contact with you, chances are they are avoiding something energetic.
‘It means they’re not open, they’re not ready, or they have someone else and they’re just looking for someone for now.’
Star of SiriusXM’s ‘Psychic Connection with Deborah Graham’ and TLC’s ‘The Psychic Matchmaker,’ Deborah Graham shares her knowledge on her podcast and in her two books
Get out there and meet people IRL
“I always say get out as much as possible,” says the author of “Get You Head Out of Your App: A Psychic’s Guide to Attracting and Keeping True Love.”
‘Just show up. Dress up and show up, even if you don’t have a date, get out and go.’
To increase your chances of meeting someone, Deborah believes you need to get out of your comfort zone, go out alone and be open to talking to others.
‘It takes courage, but you don’t need a wingman, you just need to connect with yourself.’
The more you show up, the more the universe will reward you.
Wear bright, uplifting colors
Dark colors are often associated with sadness and negativity.
Barbara believes that by wearing dark shades you are actually blocking yourself from meeting someone and recommends incorporating vibrant hues or pops of color into your look.
‘Red is an ingrained color, so if you feel like you’re all over the place and you feel like your energy is out of alignment, I always tell people to wear the color red.
‘The heart chakra is the 4th chakra and it’s color is green. Green is a direct connection to God and your soul energy.
‘So there’s green and pink in the 4th chakra and that will help you activate as well as accelerate to get to where you want to be in relation to where you are.’
Stand tall, never lean
‘Keep your shoulders back and your head up. Never bend, it shows a lower vibration,’ explains Deborah.
‘When you walk into something, walk in like you own it. You own your energy. Your aura will radiate with color and people will be drawn to you.
‘It doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside, it’s who you are on the inside and that’s what people are attracted to when they find their perfect match.’
To allow your energy to shine, you have to be you.
“You don’t have to change for anyone,” says Barbara.
‘It’s like shopping for shoes. If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it. And never settle for second best. Always get what you want and never try to change your appearance.’
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The biggest first-date saboteur
Resist information overload.
‘You never want to talk too much about what your needs and wants are in a relationship because that person will be exactly that, even though they might not be any of those things.
The expert suggests saying, ‘I’m open and ready. I am here and present and I am looking for someone who is open and ready to connect.’
She believes that when someone is truly connected to you, you will know it.
Deborah recommends always asking them more questions.
‘Never talk about your ex or tell them how bad they are. If you have anger in you, you are not ready to be in a relationship.’
The rule of three
“Always go on at least three dates with the same person within three weeks, and always wait three months before consummating the relationship,” says Deborah.
According to the psychic matchmaker, dates don’t even have to be in person, they can be over Zoom or Face Time, just as long as there’s direct eye contact.
‘By the third date, you’ll know if it’s an energy connection.
‘If you feel energetically drained, that’s when I say run! It’s an energy vampire.’
In this day and age, being monogamous and abstaining from all sexual contact for three months can be difficult, but Deborah believes it is essential to finding a soul connection.
‘It’s about going out and connecting on a soul level versus a physical level. If they won’t wait, then they’re not that good for you.’
“Trust your third chakra, it’s your intuition, I call it your psychic portal,” says Deborah
Look at your chakras
There are seven main chakras in the body from the base of the spine to the crown of the head.
The third eye can help you make decisions based on your emotional and gut feelings. Aligning yourself with your third eye helps you see the unseen.
“Trust your third chakra, it’s your intuition, I call it your psychic portal,” says Deborah.
‘It is the window to your subconscious soul. By going to the window of your soul, you are able to access your vibration and energy at a higher frequency.
‘The third eye is the energy that connects you to God and spirit, it’s like the ambi-local cord that we all came into this earth with – it’s your true purpose.’
Keep the flow of positive energy moving
Finding true and eternal love begins with a commitment to energy work within—the removal of doubt and fear.
Deborah recommends a daily 5-10 minute meditation to connect.
“You have to pull the weeds out of your heart and soul and keep pulling,” she says.
‘If you can create positive, living energy within yourself, you will emit positive vibrations.
“But if you believe life stinks, it is will suck and you’ll never find what you’re looking for.’
Blockages or imbalances can lead to health problems and emotional disturbances.
According to Deborah, it is important to clear out the old both mentally and physically.
‘If your partner cheated on you and you’re having trouble meeting someone else, throw out that mattress, you’re still attracting old energy.
Learn your lessons
Deborah believes that 99% of people don’t attract what they want because they don’t learn their lesson or let go of past traumas and they bring negativity into their present.
If you don’t learn a lesson, it will keep repeating itself until you do.
‘Life is a filtering system, you have to let go and allow your spirit to finally be aware and awake. But most of all you need to stop transmitting negative energy, this is what we call a soul trap.
‘A soul trap is when we don’t let our thoughts, our soul, our mind and our energy let go of the old because we hold on to all the past pain.
To grow from a situation, Graham suggests looking at five things that you learned from an unhealthy relationship, the good and the bad.
‘I like to call myself the 30 second scan, all I need is 30 seconds to read your energy and I’m able to figure out where your energy needs to be in relation to where it is.’
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