A woman has shared the eight signs she says make someone a bad friend and encouraged people to “stop settling for friendships”.
Gia Aldisert, from the US, has racked up thousands of followers on TikTok for sharing her life advice and revealed eight friendship warning signs.
The model said that talking about others behind their backs, constantly canceling plans at the last minute, and prioritizing attention from men over partners are indicators that you may not be a good friend.
Other ways someone can be a bad friend is when they mask an insult as a joke, make you leave feeling worse about yourself, only make contact when it’s convenient for them, and try to compare themselves and compete with you.
Gia said people should “protect” themselves by not letting these toxic friends into their lives and excluding any partners they feel are not good for them.
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A woman shared eight signs you might be a bad friend, including talking about people behind their backs and choosing attention from men over your friends (stock image)
Their first sign of a bad friend is someone who insults their partner, even if it’s a joke.
“If they’re constantly taking digs at you and putting you down, it’s going to subconsciously register in your mind and before you know it, you’re going to start believing it about yourself because you’re surrounded by it,” Gia explained .
“You want your friends to respect you and also boost your self-confidence without bringing you down.”
Second, Gia advises you to be wary of those who always talk bad about their other friends, pointing out that there’s a difference between speaking out about a situation that “bothers” them and gossiping.
“If you’re very close to someone, it’s legitimate to bring up a situation that bothered you and you get their opinion on it,” she said.
“But some people are genuinely picking on their friends and that’s not right.”
Gia Aldisert, from the US, said another sign of a bad friend is when someone constantly cancels plans at the last minute saying they “don’t respect your time and energy” (image of stock).
She added that if someone always says mean things about their other friends, they will do the same to you.
A “major” sign of a friend to unfriend is someone who makes you feel worse about yourself after spending time together.
“No matter how much energy they brought, you left feeling even worse about yourself than when you arrived,” Gia said.
“Friends are supposed to be an addition to your life, they are supposed to make you happier and if they just bring bad negative energy, stop being friends with them.”
Gia recommended keeping track of when a friend you suspect is bad news contacts you to see if they only contact you when it’s “convenient for them.”
“Being busy is no excuse, if you want to save time you will,” she said.
Gia said a friend who “prioritizes attention from men” over her friends can be a red flag.
“It’s okay to like guys and want their attention, but don’t choose that over friends who have been there for you through thick and thin,” she said.
Sixth on Gia’s list is when someone excludes a person from group meetings.
“They’re allowed to hang out with other people and they should, that’s healthy, but if they choose to hang out with the whole team and not invite you, that’s screwed,” he said. she declared.
Another sign of a bad friend is when someone is “always” trying to compete and compare themselves to those around them.
“They think everything is a competition with you and really you’re just living your life,” Gia said.
Finally, she said that a friend who constantly cancels plans at the last minute means they “don’t respect your time or energy.”
“It’s obviously one thing if it’s a one-time thing, but if they’re constantly abandoning you at the last minute, they don’t really value your friendship,” Gia said.
“I’m talking to hot friends, don’t make a plan with someone if you’re not ready to commit, people are busy and they don’t have time for that shit.”
Gia’s wise advice has been viewed over 4.7 million times and people in the comments applauded the advice.
“You feel worse than before hanging out with them…ouch, too real,” one viewer replied.
“Best advice I’ve ever heard,” added a second.
“I thought my friend was bad and I didn’t really know, but she does everything you said. Thanks for this,” wrote a third.
Some added their own friendship red flags with a woman saying, “My dad once said ‘you can tell who a good friend is by how he treats your car (the possessions/space you have for worked hard) “and he did NOT fail”.
“Or always feeling like you can’t be yourself and feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around them – agree with all your points though!” commented another.
“ALSO if they take your struggles or your interests and speak for themselves. I had to eliminate someone like that,” someone said.