When Fidan Shevket started dating her boyfriend, she refused to let him leave a toothbrush in his apartment.
The divorce lawyer, from the affluent Sydney suburb of Neutral Bay, said she had her boyfriend pack a travel bag so that everything would go with him when he left.
The reason? He feared that he would use it as "evidence" of a de facto relationship, claiming part of his home if they ever separated.
But when their relationship became serious after two and a half years, the 39-year-old man decided to draft a Binding Financial Agreement (BFA), also known as prenuptial.
She included her designer shoes and bags, Superman and Star Wars souvenir items, bedding and towels – and even your Tupperware collection.
By appearing on SBS's Insight, the family's attorney revealed his detailed prenuptial agreement and why he is exceeding himself to protect his assets at all costs.
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Divorce lawyer Fidan Shevket (pictured) has drafted a prenuptial agreement for her and her boyfriend
The prenuptial agreement of Fidan Shevket includes:
- Shoes and designer bags
- Superman Collection
- Star Wars memorabilia
- Towels and sheets
- Betting and lottery clause
- House bills such as electricity, internet and Netflix
"There is a disparity between what I have and what I have and I want to protect my assets if the relationship does not work," Shevket told Insight's anchor, Jenny Brockie.
"I've always been very sincere with him since the beginning of the relationship that if we're ever going to move together, if we're ever going to get married, if we're ever going to do anything to make this relationship go to the next level, then I absolutely want a [prenuptial agreement]. & # 39;
As a family lawyer who has been practicing for 15 years, Fidan said she knows very well how ugly a breakup can be, especially when it comes to asset division.
"I feel that people who come in with a lot of money and a lot of assets, always jump at the end," he said.
"I have worked all my life, I have accumulated all these properties, I am a partner in my law firm, I have a good portfolio and there is no way I can allow anyone to make a claim about that, so if I have to choose between my relationship and wealth, I choose my wealth. "
What is a de facto relationship?
De facto relationships are determined in the same way as married couples.
The law requires that you and your former partner, who may be of the same or opposite sex, have a relationship as a couple living together on a genuine domestic basis.
In fact, you have two years from the breakdown of your relationship to file a claim on your assets if you can establish one of the following:
- Have lived together as a couple in a "real domestic base" for at least two years
- You have a child together
- They made significant contributions on their property and the failure to issue an order would result in a serious injustice
A prenuptial agreement is the only way to protect your assets in a breakdown of relationships
Source: Family Court
Ms. Shevket said she has been drafting her prenuptial agreement for one year.
"Is the best [prenup] Once drafted because every time I see a new clause, I add it there. This is unstoppable and if I ever tried it, it would cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to put this aside, "he said.
She explained that the prenuptial agreement was to give the couple an understanding of their assets in case their relationship ever ended.
"I do not do it so it's enforceable, I do it so that he and I understand and to avoid conflicts later that this is what we agreed on," he said.
& # 39; I will detail my things because it is important to me. I'm a collector, I collect memories of Superman. I have a room dedicated to the great man. My collection of designer shoes is very important. It's not that he takes off his shoes, but you never know.
You even have clauses in your prenuptial agreement to protect your household items, such as quality bedding, towels, cutlery and even your Tupperware collection.
"I have a full closet full of quality Tupperware, I do not want to take my Tupperware, so I have a clause on Tupperware," he said.
The couple bought a property together earlier this year, and Ms. Shevket updated her BFA with all the payment details.
"We have bought a property together and all things are not the same because I invest more money than he does, so I have invested 70 percent of the deposit, 70 percent of the stamp tax and I will pay 70 percent of the repayments of the mortgage, "he said.
"He has put 30 percent of the deposit, 30 percent of the stamp duty and will pay 30 percent of the mortgage deposits."
"And there are also these formulas clauses, and if we ever sell them, and if we ever separate, he can only get that 30 percent stake and I can get that 70 percent stake."
When the couple started dating, Ms. Shevket said that she encouraged her boyfriend to carry a travel bag so he would not forget his belongings.
"You go home, you take your bag, you will not leave your toothbrush or your things, you leave it in the trunk of your car, that's how it works," he said.
Even when she changed the eyeball or fixed her internet, Ms. Shevket said she would offer to pay for her handyman job.
"Because I do not want you to say you did something on my property and you made contributions," he said.
The 39-year-old lawyer also has a collection of designer footwear, which she included in the prenuptial agreement
She has a room "dedicated" to the memories of Superman because she is a collector
Ms. Shevket said that she also "plays" with gambling and often plays live tournaments at the casino, where payments can range from $ 50,000 to $ 500,000.
And because of this, he added a gambling clause to his prenuptial agreement, and his boyfriend plays the lottery, so he also included that in his agreement.
"So, if I ever win, I'll make sure the winnings come to me," he said.
Your prenuptial agreement focuses on the essentials of finances in the relationship, from family bills to who will pay Netflix.
Ms. Shevket said that her boyfriend was initially surprised by the prenuptial agreement.
"He was surprised by the amount of detail, the fact that" who was paying for it "is all there, but I have also explained that it prevents any conflict and misunderstanding," he said.
"He is very complacent and very calm and sees humor in things, he understands the family lawyer in me."
Regarding their relationship, Ms. Shevket said that she believed they were stronger than ever.
"We are very happy," he said.
For all the efforts of Mrs. Shevket, her boyfriend, who recently moved in with her, has not yet signed the prenuptial agreement.
"I have been very clear on this, if he does not sign it there is a big problem, which means that the relationship will probably come to an end, almost definitely, it will come to an end," he said.