Derby bullied schoolboy had him draw on the wall and said: & # 39; how can I make people like me & # 39;
A & # 39; bullied & # 39; schoolboy with special needs was forced to write down why he thought his classmates didn't like him – just to have it attached to the wall for a year.
Caein Powell, 11, told his parents Damian and Lindy that he was being bullied in school, so they told his teachers that they were worried about him.
But the couple, Derby, were shocked when he came home with a cartoon drawing of himself with the caption: & # 39; How can I make the other kids like me? & # 39 ;.
Around the photo were speech bubbles with suggestions that his fellow students had given him in a group discussion, including: & # 39; Stop annoying us & # 39 ;, & # 39; stop shouting & # 39; and & # 39; He doesn't have to shout at you. & # 39;
This happened just four months after Caien suffered the loss of his grandmother after a period in intensive care.
Commenting on how upset he was, one of the suggestions said: & # 39; Be happy, not sad & # 39 ;.
When Mr. Lightoller and Mrs. Powell complained to Allenton Community Primary School in Derby, the director defended the image as & # 39; restorative justice & # 39 ;.
Caein Powell, 11, told his parents Damian and Lindy that he was being bullied at school, but they had no idea that he was forced to make a picture of himself for the reasons his classmates don't like him & # 39; (pictured)
Caien has characteristics of autism due to a condition called oppositional defiant disorder, which his father claims to be "noisy & # 39; and can make it noisy for other people.
The couple, who have two other children, claim that the photo of their son, drawn by a teacher, has been on his classroom since November 2018.
They said: & # 39; I am upset and angry. I try to find out how I can best support Caien, but because he doesn't really understand how terrible this is, I don't want to increase his awareness of this too much either.
& # 39; I am disgusted by the school's behavior and I am deeply saddened by some things that have been written.
& # 39; The person who performed it is a behavioral mentor, so training must be very good in encouraging positive behavior and not in a negative sense.
& Caien said some children picked him up and said he was too loud and too noisy and never seemed happy.
& # 39; We were having a conversation with the school at the time and they said they would look at it, but I think this was the result of the school that unfortunately looked at it.
& # 39; He has had some fallouts with children and felt he was being picked up. He went to the teacher and said: & # 39; these children are tackling me & # 39 ;.
& # 39; They have left him with these children to find out what is going on.
Parents Lindy Powell and Damian Lightoller (photo) complained to Allenton Community Primary School in Derby, but the director defended the image as & # 39; restorative justice & # 39;
& # 39; The teacher has signed the picture and has the other children say what they do not like about him, so Caien should try to overcome it and not tell these children if he wants them to like him.
& # 39; It essentially says that someone has to change because he is being bullied.
& # 39; It had been on the school wall for a year and they had a clean up ready for the end of the school year.
& # 39; My son is leaving school at the end of next week and they asked Caien if he wanted to take him home. He doesn't quite realize how negative it is.
& # 39; I have a friend from a teacher who said that if a child is struggling, they do this and mention positive things about the child and then they try to talk to the child to work on those positive things.
& # 39; However, it seems the other way around happened to my son. & # 39;
Caien had seen his grandmother's disease worsen in an intensive care unit before she died, and his father was shocked when he was told that he should control his emotions & # 39 ;.
Mr. Lightoller, working in C-commerce, said: “It only happened four months after the death of his grandmother, so he also had a very difficult time in his life.
& # 39; His grandmother had been in intensive care for five weeks with multiple organ failure and Caien had visited her a few times, which is clearly not an easy thing for a 10-year-old.
Pictured: Caien with his father Damian Lightoller, from Derby
& # 39; We had decided with the hospital staff that it would be more beneficial if Caien would see her while she was alive, rather than just wondering where she had gone.
& # 39; He has the right to be sad when he is sad. A child should not be told to control his emotions.
& # 39; All reactions arouse different emotions than I do, but it is heartbreaking to tell him & # 39; to be happy, not sad & # 39 ;. Why should he stop being sad? The other things also hurt. & # 39;
The couple approached the school to complain about the drawing, but was shocked when Director John Fordham defended the drawing.
Mr. Lightoller said: & # 39; I spoke to the teacher and associate professor about this piece of work and they got pretty defensive about it, refused to accept that it was something negative and said it was done as a & # 39; restorative justice & # 39; piece.
& # 39; Of course we said that no matter what led to this, it was still a completely unacceptable thing.
& # 39; I tried to explain that I did not undo the good work they had done with Caien, but that is no excuse for this disgusting, negative work.
& # 39; Some of the things on it are things that he has raised as a concern in the last year and we never understood where it came from.
The photo is reportedly drawn by a teacher and has speech bubbles with his classmates who say why they don't like him and how Caien can change that
& # 39; We have clearly tried to give him positive praise, empowerment, and encouragement without knowing where these negative thoughts came from.
& # 39; Based on what he said, I think these things were said to him at school.
& # 39; We have always had a positive experience with the director and he has always been very responsive and helpful.
& # 39; We initially thought he had no idea about this. We were right, he didn't – but he didn't think it was negative at the same time.
& # 39; We expected him to be quite shocked. He was an advocate of the staff member who had performed it.
& # 39; If I had apologized and he said sorry, I would have thought they were taking responsibility.
& # 39; But if they don't and don't see it as something negative, what stops them from doing it the next time a child comes in and says: & # 39; I'm being bullied, I need help & # 39;? & # 39;
Allenton Community Primary School and Transform Trust, involved in running the school, have been approached for comment.
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