Dear Jane,
My girlfriend and I have lived together for a year and a few months ago we got a new roommate: her family dog. His parents bought him the dog as a college graduation gift (he’s now 26) and have been taking care of him for the last year as we settle into our new home.
It was always the plan for the dog to end up with us, and I was more than happy for that to happen!
I admit it was a little difficult when it first arrived… I didn’t grow up with dogs so I had no idea how much work was involved in caring for them and for the first few weeks I found it very difficult to get my Let’s think about how much our lives had to change in order to adapt to it.
But we finally discovered our rhythm.
Dear Jane, my girlfriend’s dog is destroying our sex life. I don’t think he can take much more of his behavior, but I don’t know how to tell him that.
This is in every aspect of our lives except one: sex.
The dog has been with us for three months now and during that time we have had sex twice. It’s not for lack of trying, I should point out! But every time we try to get there, the dog gets in our way.
If he is in the room, he will jump on the bed and start barking and jumping, thinking we are playing some kind of game. If we leave him outside the room, he howls until we relent and let him in. We tried putting him in his cage and the same thing happened. Not exactly the most romantic soundtrack…
The two times we managed to have sex were on the weekends when we put the dog in a kennel overnight, but that’s not something we want or can afford to do all the time just so we can have sex!
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Part of me thinks the easiest thing would be for the dog to go back to my girlfriend’s parents, but I’m hesitant to suggest that to my girlfriend because I know she would be very angry if I abandoned him.
Do you see another option?
Of,
puppy despair
Dear desperate dog,
Don’t despair: I absolutely see another option, and it’s one I advise you to consider, not least because I’ve always observed a correlation between misbehaving dogs and misbehaving children; What I’m about to suggest will make your life easier, largely by regaining control and teaching the dog (and possibly in the future the children) boundaries.
The dog runs the show, which is a disaster for everyone, as you’re finding out.
The quickest and easiest way to correct the power dynamic in this situation is to pay much more attention to cage training.
I can see that you already have a crate, but now the dog thinks he is being punished when he is put inside. He needs to learn that the cage is his safe place, where he should be calm and calm, and wait for his masters to let him out.
Crate training is like any form of housebreaking: there is a right way and a wrong way, and you’ll need to educate yourself on the steps to do it correctly, ensuring that the dog doesn’t howl and destroy the house.
You will find many videos online, but you have to set limits or you will face a few miserable years.
A misbehaving dog is everyone’s nightmare, but a dog cannot learn to behave well on its own.
I wish you luck!
Dear Jane,
For the last six months I have been making an incredible amount of money posing images of myself on Onlyfans. I don’t pose naked or anything, I just share pictures of myself in sexy lingerie and I charge guys extra for special one-off pictures where I do certain poses or videos where I tell them how sexy they are.
As far as X-rated content goes, it’s pretty innocent, and it’s also the only way I can afford to complete my master’s degree.
But a few days ago, one of my father’s employees found my account and ratted me out.
He took a screenshot of my photos and showed them to my dad, who is quite upset with my decision to share this content online.
I’ve tried to reason with him and explain my thinking behind all of this, but he just can’t see past the thought of his ‘little girl’ posing and then selling such provocative photos, particularly when those photos can later be found. for the people he works with. He even compared it to prostitution, which he found horrible.
I don’t want to make him miserable, I really don’t. But I also don’t want to give up this side job that has actually helped me get out of debt and is funding my entire future.
Do you think we can reach an agreement?
Of,
X-Rated Agony
Dear Agony X:
First of all, I don’t think you did anything wrong.
As you said yourself, the poses are pretty innocent, and the fact that your father has now discovered that his little girl is actually a sexual being, may be uncomfortable for him, but I applaud you for standing your ground and refusing to feel embarrassed or embarrassed. intimidated by his reaction.
Student debt can be overwhelming, and while this isn’t for everyone, posing in lingerie seems like a pretty smart way to finance your future.
I certainly don’t think you need to come to a compromise, other than asking your dad to make it clear to his employees that he doesn’t want to see what you’re doing on Only Fans.
You are an adult and your father can’t tell you what to do anymore.
There are always decisions our children make that we don’t agree with, but unconditional love is unconditional love, and while he may see this as a bad choice, this doesn’t have to affect his love for you, which is something that must be explained. him.
It may take some time for him to adjust, but you have already shown your maturity in the way you have spoken to him and now I think it gives him time to heal the wounds.