Dear Jane,
I recently joined a new, very expensive, shiny gym.
In the weight room and exercise studios, there are staff members constantly walking around cleaning the equipment.
They do it as a service that members pay for!, so I never clean the equipment myself.
But the other day, after I got up from a bench without cleaning it, an older woman stared at me like I was a pig.
I told her that if she wanted clean equipment she would do it herself or wait for a staff member. That started a big fight and she told everyone in the gym.
Dear Jane: I’m being judged at my gym for a “disgusting” habit, but I refuse to stop.
I have since heard that he came down with the flu and is struggling due to his advanced age, but should I feel bad?
If you’re that vulnerable, don’t work out in a gym, I tell you.
Am I wrong? Why do we all have to walk on eggshells for the weak among us?
Of,
gym rat

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Dear Gym Rat:
Being a decent human being means caring about how your behavior affects those around you.
While technically There may be people who get paid to clean, if the etiquette is to clean the bench after using it (as is the case at almost every gym I’ve been to), clean the damn bench.
If I’m honest: not only are you wrong, you’re being heartless and you have rights.
Do you think an old woman got the flu because she gave you a dirty look when you didn’t clean up after yourself? What an arrogant point of view.
The problem with narcissistic and entitled people is that they rarely look at their own behavior. Instead, they choose to mock those around them or blame others.
Victims are stuck feeling sorry for themselves forever because never Take responsibility for your own bad behavior.
I have no idea what your life is like, but if I had to guess, I would say that you may feel alone and insecure, which is why you are so self-centered and inconsiderate of others.
If you want happiness and friends and colleagues who enjoy being around you, I would think a lot about your behavior.
It’s not all about you. In life, we must all find a way to coexist peacefully. This means that we have to make sure (metaphorically and literally) that we keep our side of the street, or in your case, the bank, clean.