Single woman reveals devastating remark a man made to her after sex – and she was ‘hurt’ by his ‘cruel’ words
- One woman has revealed the most disturbing thing ever said to her after sex
- She had been single for over a year when she met a man in his mid-30s on Tinder
- They dated and slept together after three weeks of getting to know them
- She was thrilled and thought the sex was ‘great’ – but her beauty felt different
- He devastated her by saying they were not “sexually compatible.”
A single woman has revealed the most disturbing thing a man has ever said to her after sex.
The Australian woman, with whom she shared her experience anonymously 9 Honey, had been single for over a year when she met a charming man in his mid-thirties on Tinder.
Delighted to finally find someone she clicked with after her long-term relationship broke up, she said they enjoyed a ‘really good’ first date that ended with kissing, but nothing more.
“I finally thought it was a good thing my ex broke up,” she said.
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An Australian woman was delighted to have met a charming new man on Tinder, but things changed when they slept together after three weeks of dating (stock image)
Three weeks and a bouquet of Valentine’s Day flowers later sent to her office, the woman felt it was time for them to sleep together and invited her new boyfriend over for dinner.
‘I loved the sex. It even made me realize that my ex was very selfish in bed, but [her new lover] was loving and thoughtful and I was so happy, ”she recalls.
That was until she got out of the shower and heard him say, “Wow, we’re just not sexually compatible, right?”
The woman could not believe what she was hearing.
‘From my point of view we just had fantastic sex, so what was missing? I asked him what he was talking about – wasn’t it good for him too? she wondered.
He explained that he simply wasn’t sexually attracted to her and that he felt they would be better off as ‘good friends’.
Devastated, hurt and fighting back tears, the woman told him it was “very cruel” to say to someone he’d just been intimate with.
He agreed it might be insensitive, but he said he thought it was best to tell her in person rather than say it via text after he left.
The ill-fated couple broke up as ‘friends’ – but perhaps it’s no wonder they never saw each other again.
Navigating the modern dating field can be a minefield more nuanced than ever before thanks to social media and dating apps that indulge singles with choice (and a whole lot more).
Relationship coach Louanne Ward tries to help men and women by deciphering what each gender is really looking for in her popular Facebook group, She Said He Said.
In May, an online survey by the Perth dating expert found that women are most attracted to funny, loyal and confident men who are trustworthy and not afraid to laugh at themselves.
Men, on the other hand, are most attracted to honest, confident women with an appetite for fun, Ms. Ward found.
Ms. Ward says the core values that underlie human attraction are the same for both genders, which value honesty, intelligence and loyalty – but not in the same order
What men value most in women
1. Honesty 21.3 percent
2. Trust 20 per cent
3. Playfulness 18 percent
4. Kindness / gratitude 14 percent
5. Loyalty 12.6 percent
1. Eyes 41.6 percent
2. Smile 29.6 percent
3. Butt 12.2 percent
4. Breasts 9.2 percent
5. Legs 7.4 percent
Source: Louanne Ward via She Said He Said
What women value most in men
1. Humour 19.6 percent
2. Loyalty and charisma 18.3 percent
3. Honesty 17 percent
4. Intelligence 14.37 percent
5. Friendliness 12.4 percent
1. Eyes 27.3 percent
2. Smile 21 percent
3. G.ood teeth 18.75 percent
4. Height 18.75 percent
5. Their penis 14.1 percent
Source: Louanne Ward via She Said He Said
However, despite these differences, both sexes agree almost entirely on their most sought after traits.
“ They’re the same, except that men judge their attitudes to intelligence and vice versa, proving by all the differences that the fundamental core and foundation of a relationship isn’t as gender biased as people think, ” said Ms. Ward Daily Mail Australia.
“There are certainly differences in preferences for personality, lifestyle and life experiences, but people are people and our basic requirements are what they are.”