A woman who went on more than 200 first dates before finally finding the perfect man has revealed why many have failed to find love.
Anna Kai, a dating expert, always found it extremely difficult to fall in love and form meaningful relationships.
However, after going on hundreds of first dates in her twenties, she has finally revealed the top things that hold people back when it comes to finding a life partner.
She cited not putting yourself out there enough, waiting for the right person to come along, and wasting time on the wrong people as major reasons why people have failed dating lives.
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Anna Kai, a dating expert, always found it extremely difficult to fall in love and form meaningful relationships
1. You haven’t met enough people
“You’re not single because there aren’t any good men, but because you haven’t met enough men,” Anna explained.
“Some of us are lucky enough to find the right guy in the first few tries, but others like me have to go on about 200 first dates to find our guy.”
She never gave up because she knew that every wrong date brought her closer to “the one that mattered most.”
2. You prioritize everything but dating
“The movies have told you that the right man just falls into your lap, but he can’t find you if you never leave your house,” Anna said.
“Sure, timing is important, but you have to put yourself in the position to meet the right man at the right time.”
The dating expert considers the two most important decisions you will make in your life as what to do and who you decide to do it with.
“If your goal in life is to find a life partner, you need to start thinking of dating as another career and not second to your current one.”
She added, “The things we prioritize ultimately prioritize us.”
3. You waste time clinging to the past
Anna explained that too many people she knew had hopes for someone close to perfect but unwilling to commit.
“You think if you give him enough time to find himself, he’ll eventually find a way to commit to you because you’ve invested so much time and it would be a shame to let it go,” she said.
But that phenomenon is just the misconception about sunk costs at work, because the more time you sink into the wrong relationship, the less time you have to find the right one.
4. You fear rejection
Anna revealed that one of the main reasons most people are still single is that deep down they want a partner but don’t believe they deserve the partner they want.
“There’s nothing like the fear of being rejected by who and what you want that keeps you from chasing your dreams,” she said.
“It may feel safer to your ego not to get what you want because you convinced yourself you don’t want it than to be rejected by someone you fought for.”
The dating expert concluded: ‘But remember that the things worth fighting for in life are the things worth fighting for, so fight like your life depends on it — because, you know what, it does. ‘
A woman who went on more than 200 first dates before finally finding the perfect man has revealed why many have failed to find love
Thousands thanked Anna for opening their eyes and helping them date.
“I know all these reasons all too well and I hate it,” said one woman.
“This is refreshingly practical advice – thank you,” said another.
“I need to get out of the house more, even my grandma says I should go out and meet new people,” one woman wrote.
“I sink into introspection and wonder if my ego is the problem,” added another.
