A father has been furiously criticized after detailing the strict rules he has imposed on his 15-year-old daughter and revealed he is forcing her to pay rent.
The anonymous man took to Reddit to ask people on the web for advice and revealed that his teenage daughter had been defying the rules recently.
In a thread titled, Am I the idiot? He explained that over the past two years, “she has constantly lied, refused to follow our house rules.”
Some of the father’s rules include going to bed at 9 pm on weekdays and 10 pm on weekends, in addition to daily chores.
In recent weeks, his unnamed daughter has become increasingly “disrespectful” and the father has been wondering what he should do.
After sitting down with her daughter and learning that she wanted to be treated more like an adult, she suggested that she get a job since she would have to start paying rent.
His solution to his daughter’s behavior attracted attention as many people on the web called him a “moron.”
The man captioned the post: “Teen wanted adult freedoms and now he’s dealing with adult consequences.”
A father has been furiously criticized after detailing the strict rules he has imposed on his 15-year-old daughter and revealed he is forcing her to pay rent (file image)
The man explained: ‘I am the father of a teenage daughter. Since he was 13 he has lied constantly, refused to follow the rules of our house (no electronics in the bedrooms, 9:00 pm bedtime, no fights, arguments or petty backstabbing with brothers, etc., complete your daily chores (sweeping the kitchen and cleaning up after the family dog, etc.) I don’t think we are very strict, but I also refuse to give ground in these areas.
‘In return, she has the newest iPhone, tablet and laptop. He can participate in a sport that costs me a couple of thousand dollars a year and he has pocket money whenever he needs it.’
He revealed that things have been getting worse lately and he wasn’t sure what to do.
‘Things have recently come to a head. She has been openly defiant and disrespectful. Completely ignoring his mother, rolling his eyes when asked to do things, and using feigned ignorance as a weapon. She has been caught several times awake at 2 in the morning using her electronic devices, etc.
‘I sat her down a little over a week ago. His reasons are a repeat of what he has said for years.
‘She doesn’t think 9:00pm/10:00pm (weekdays/weekends) is appropriate for her age (15), she doesn’t think she should have to do housework as her grades and workload should exempt her (all students as AP) even though “She recognizes that she has maybe 15 minutes of housework a day,” she added.
The father revealed that he decided to give his daughter what she ‘asked for’.
He explained that he stopped bothering her about her daily tasks and duties and advised her to look for a job because she would have to pay rent.
The anonymous man took to Reddit to ask people on the web for advice and revealed that his teenage daughter had been defying the rules recently.
‘So I decided to give him what he asked for. I let him know that we would not remind him to do his housework, homework, laundry, etc. We wouldn’t send her to bed or impose a bedtime on her most nights, or stop her from using her electronic devices in her room, even if it’s bad for her sleeping habits.
‘But in return, if she didn’t do her chores, follow the rules, etc., she would have to deal with the consequences as an adult.
‘The example I gave her was that if she decided not to follow the rules and not do her chores, she would be expected to get a job and pay rent, bills, etc.’ (The rent money would be kept in a separate account and invested in bonds that will mature while she is in college and that were given to her. She doesn’t know this.) “She agreed,” the father said.
However, after just a week, the teenager began to have difficulty keeping up because she was falling asleep and her father refused to take her to work, causing her to miss some of her classes and fall behind on schoolwork.
At the end of the post, he questioned whether he’s an ‘asshole.’
People online criticized the father for his shocking rules and suggested he reconsider many of his expectations.
People online criticized the father for his shocking rules and suggested he reconsider many of his expectations.
One person said: ‘The problem with having a child with above-average intelligence is that adults, esp. Parents and teachers tend to think of them as adults. They are rarely emotionally or developmentally adults. Your daughter probably talks like a college student, but she’s still 15 years old and has the criteria of a fifteen-year-old.
‘I wouldn’t let this lesson go on too long. Talk to her, give ground on some things, and pick your battles. Explain why: that the habit of doing a few tasks a day strengthens self-discipline, because as an adult that is the difference between success and mediocrity, for example.
Another user added: “You’re smoking if you think you’re not a strict parent.” Your rules are not realistic in any way, shape, or form. Even if you managed to enforce these rules, watch her go off to college and fail miserably at doing the right thing.
Someone else wrote: ‘9 pm for a 15 year old? There is no privacy on your devices. She will interrupt you when she is an adult. Give him some space. No wonder he’s lashing out. I would do it.’