Sara Pascoe admitted she completely abandoned the idea of having children before her husband Steen Raskopoulos urged her to go down the IVF route.
The comedian, 43, who has been open about her fertility issues, welcomed her sons Theodore, two, and Albie, 13 months, via IVF.
But Sara said there was a time when she completely gave up on the idea of becoming a mother – until her hopeful husband Steen insisted they try one more route – IVF.
Talking about Sophie Ellis-BextorTurntable Podcastsaid: “I had given up on having kids, I honestly thought that once I turned 40, that was my ‘okay, now I’m just not going to have kids’ thing.
“My mother considers it a medical miracle that I can have children at 40 through IVF.”
Sara Pascoe, 43, admitted she completely abandoned the idea of having children before her husband Steen Raskopoulos urged her to go down the IVF route.
The comedian, who has been open about her fertility issues, welcomed her sons Theodore, two, and Albie, 13 months, through IVF.
She added: “My husband was the person who really wanted to try it, because I kind of said, ‘I’m done.’ And he just said, ‘Well, can we try even harder?'”
‘I think he was worried about a space of sadness in our lives, where I was very convinced that we could adopt and foster.
‘I desperately wanted to be generative and be part of the community. I felt like I could fit it in with those things.
‘I was so convinced that love just grows and I think we would still like to adopt later, it’s very important to me. And I think we would like to have more children.’
The star also revealed why she doesn’t regret having an abortion at 16, despite discovering she would have difficulty conceiving when she was older.
She said: ‘I got pregnant at 16 when I was at university and I knew absolutely then that I didn’t want to have a child. My mother offered to take care of the child but I didn’t want to.
‘I did it (I had a layoff). I remember when I was 36 saying, “Oh wow, they would have been 20 then.”
Speaking on Sophie Ellis-Bextor’s Spinning Plates podcast, she said: “I had given up on having kids, I honestly thought once I turned 40 that was my ‘okay, now I’m just not having kids’ line.
But Sara said there was a point when she completely gave up on the idea of becoming a mother – until her hopeful husband Steen insisted on trying one more route, IVF.
The star also revealed why she doesn’t regret having an abortion at 16, despite discovering she would have difficulty conceiving when she was older (Sara’s husband pictured with their two children).
“I was absolutely convinced that that was what I wanted to do. It wasn’t an easy experience but it was definitely an easy decision.
‘And in fact, when I was going through that infertility process, I really questioned whether that was my opportunity to be a mother. But my answer is always yes, that was the right decision (to abort).
“I didn’t think, ‘Oh God, I’ve made the wrong decision.'”
Last year, Sara opened up about her fertility issues affecting her comedy and her fear of turning down work after the birth of her baby.
Before giving birth, she had struggled to conceive and focused much of her comedy around her infertility.
After having her baby, she changed her material to reflect being a mother, admitting to being “complex.”
Talking to him radio timesSara explained: ‘As human beings, we are all inconsistent. Something may be true at one point in your life or career, but not true later.
‘When I did Out of Her Mind (the BBC2 sitcom in 2020), I was at a stage in my life where I understood the fact that I was infertile and I really leaned into that on the show.
Sara revealed the news in 2023 that she was pregnant after experiencing fertility issues while trying to have a baby (pictured in September 2023).
Sara described how not being able to conceive had a negative impact on her, exacerbated by the ease with which other couples around her became pregnant.
‘Then a year later I had a baby (via IVF). People who felt close to my narrative said, ‘Who are you then?’ And it was like, ‘I’m sorry, people are so complex!’
‘When I was infertile, I was very defensive and now I’m a mom, I make mom jokes. I’m an oversharer; I’m comfortable with that and the discussion that comes afterward.’
opening up to Women’s health UKHe said: ‘What bothered me when I was thirty was not knowing if I was going to have children.
“My concern was: My life is really great now, but I don’t want to regret (not being a mother) when I’m 50.
‘It was like making a hypothetical decision based on a sadness I hadn’t yet felt. The way society links women’s success to marriage and babies weighed heavily on me; “I think women are complicit in reinforcing it.”
Sara described how not being able to conceive had a negative impact on her, exacerbated by the ease with which other couples around her became pregnant.
