A former childcare educator has branded some parents “giant pains in the arse” and revealed why she and other carers dread phone calls from many.
In a clip posted to TikTok last week, Kobe “the controversial educator” said that certain parents tend to push educators’ buttons, saying that most workers are tired of their “shit.”
“Of course your educators aren’t going to tell you that you’re a giant pain in the ass, but I’m here to do just that because I have no loyalty to anyone and it doesn’t work for anyone,” he said.
Kobe said parents expect caregivers, who often care for large groups of young children, to spend their days following their own children.
‘Parents who complain about everything: missing socks, losing things that aren’t labeled, how much they ate, how much they didn’t eat, the fact that their hat isn’t sitting properly on their head, they don’t smile in photos. “Not getting updates every minute of the day or individual posts every day,” he said.
‘Basically, the level of care these parents expect is that of a nanny. If you want personalized, individualized attention, that’s what a nanny is.’
Kobe said parents should “definitely” be able to tell if their caregiver likes them.
He added that parents should lower their expectations about the feedback they receive at the end of the day.
Former child care educator Kobe said parents go crazy when they expect too much from daycares.
‘When they tell you (the children) had a good day, that means they had a good day. There is nothing more to report,’ he said.
‘When their behavior is questionable or goes against their usual line of behavior, that’s when you may receive more feedback depending on your reaction.
“If you want honest feedback from your educators, don’t be a jerk.”
Kobe then unleashed on parents who expect their caregivers to do their own work during the day.
‘Believe it or not, you, as a parent, are the authority around your child. “Your child learns boundaries and how to be a decent human being based on what you do,” she said.
‘Educators simply report on their behavior or how their day has gone and hope that you, as a parent, can step up and take charge of raising your child.
‘If you say “my child wouldn’t do that,” you are part of the problem and you are one of the parents that educators don’t want around.
‘Also, your educators are not going to be honest with you, they will tell you “they had a good day”, even if they didn’t, because you can’t be reasoned with and you literally won.’ Do not accept any negative comments about your child at all.
Kobe said babysitters are not babysitters and blame parents for children’s development (file image)
“Being a good parent is understanding that there will be good days and bad days at home and at school.”
However, some disgruntled parents were quick to respond in the comments on Kobe’s video.
“Paying as much as we pay for childcare, we expect feedback and results,” one said.
“Considering the fees I pay for daycare, it’s not difficult to make sure their things are packed and their faces and hands are clean,” another parent agreed.
‘I’m sorry, why do we pay so much if it’s not nice to have peace of mind?’ asked a third.
Other daycare workers said they agreed with Kobe’s video.
‘My goodness, people who say they pay a lot for fees, we get it! But why take it out on the staff? “We don’t decide how much you pay in fees,” said one woman.
Some parents made it clear that they were not picky, as long as their children returned home safely.
‘As long as my son comes home from daycare, I’m happy. Everything else? “I couldn’t care less,” one parent said.
‘If my son is alive and happy at the end of the day, everything is fine. “I don’t complain and buy a good Christmas gift at the end of the year,” added another.