The most common reasons why people cheat on their partners are revealed after hundreds of people reveal their motives for wandering Reddit.
Some of the common themes were unhappy and boredom, while others demonstrated the need to increase their self-confidence or to take revenge after their partner was the first to cheat.
FEMAIL elaborates on how some men and women have justified their decisions to cheat others.
The most common reasons why people cheat on their partners are revealed after hundreds of people reveal their motives for wandering
& # 39; I was unhappy & # 39;
Accident was the most common cause of a stray eye, according to self-known cheaters.
Many responses detailed unhappy, unloving relationships that led a person to cheat.
A man said he just didn't have the guts to end a terrible relationship or the will to improve it, but I still had sexual and emotional needs.
& # 39; I was the man who said that I would never cheat, but I think I am not that man now & # 39 ;, confessed another.
& # 39; I was stupid … The only time I did that was when I was already on the road with my current girlfriend. I had mutual confused feelings for another girl and she was also on the road with her boyfriend.
& # 39; Too many drinks later and we hit it against a wall. I woke up the next day and broke up with my girlfriend. & # 39;
He further said that that error would haunt him forever, but it had taught him a valuable lesson as he went on with other, healthier relationships.
& # 39; To increase my self-confidence & # 39;
Other answers were more complex than bored or unhappy.
Surprisingly, they said they felt the need to cheat to increase their self-confidence after they began to feel neglected in their own relationships.
A man in particular explained that it was an unashamed remark about his attractiveness during sex with his partner that eventually led him astray.
& # 39; She had taken away my self-confidence and self-confidence for over a year and broke up and made it up to me when it suited her … presumably to talk to other guys she liked.
& # 39; So I proved her wrong and regained some of my self-confidence and self-confidence in the process, as pathetic as that sounds, & # 39; he said.
A woman agreed with him and said that she too felt worthless in her long-term relationship after having worked for years to lose weight, only for her partner to show her little affection anyway.
& # 39; I thought cheating was necessary to get my sex life back.
& # 39; It wasn't. I recently told my friend what I did and despite my efforts I am pretty sure this will end our relationship.
& # 39; I can only say that I never do it. You don't want to be the reason to see who likes to hurt you and afterwards you will just be full of self-hatred. It's not worth it, & she said.
Some of the common themes were unhappiness and boredom, while others demonstrated the need to increase their confidence or to take revenge after their partner first cheated
& # 39; I was bored & # 39;
A brutal reality of long-term relationships is that in some cases sex falls aside as life gets in the way.
And one man was enough.
& # 39; I haven't had sex in a year … what can I say? I was bored, & he said.
Most important signs that you are the other woman or man
* Dates are spontaneous and there are no long-term plans
* Most of your calls are made during the day
* Evening correspondence takes place via sms and there are delayed answers
* You have probably never been to their house or have met family or friends
* You do not go to locations near their house
* They will probably pay in cash most of the time
* They will respond defensively if you question them too much
Although the words sound loud and can be pricked to hear, the anonymous figure said that he told his story as honestly as possible.
He said that boredom – and women – often went astray, but often they refused to admit that that was the real reason.
& # 39; When we had sex, she just lay there. It was not fun for both of us.
& # 39; On the night in question we were both separate. I tried to call her after a woman approached me, but she refused my calls or they rang.
& # 39; So I went back to the other woman. Although I was not happy, I still have great regrets, & he said.
Similarly, others said that their long-distance relationships had meant that they felt physically isolated from their significant others and were generally bored, causing them to explore other options.
In another brutal confession, a man said he cheated on his girlfriend in high school because she abstained.
& # 39; I was young, horny and stupid. I didn't realize how much emotional pain it would cause for my girlfriend at the time, and looking back, this is something I deeply regret, "he said.
& # 39; My partner was the first to cheat & # 39;
Perhaps the most bizarre of all is the number of people who justified cheating because their other half did it first.
& # 39; She first had an affair and lied to me about it, & # 39; a man said. & # 39; I then met a willing and sexually adventurous woman and things happened. & # 39;
Another said he knew he was wrong because he and his partner entered the relationship under the guise of cheating and lying … she left her five-year-old fiancé for me & # 39 ;.
Meanwhile, another said he hoped by cheating on his partner – who had already cheated on him – that they would even play the playing field.
& # 39; I was too weak to admit that the relationship had failed. I was determined to make it work and thought that if I cheated, we would be right and I could go beyond her unfaithfulness.
& # 39; But I was wrong. She actually broke up not long afterwards. & # 39;
& # 39; She first had an affair and lied to me about it, & # 39; a man said. & # 39; I then met a willing and sexually adventurous woman and things happened & # 39;
& # 39; My partner asked me to & # 39;
Another excuse for cheating – and one that is rarely published – was doubted by some as to whether it should be considered cheating.
But the man involved insisted that he still found it that way, given that he had been in a monogamous marriage for 30 years.
& # 39; She urged me. We are older and she is now in transition and has lost her desire.
& # 39; I am at the end of my life with multiple brain tumors and just want to enjoy life, so I have the green light of her.
& # 39; But she is my love and leisure sex is an oxymoron for me. It is a frustrating situation to be in & # 39 ;, he said.
All in all, most cheaters who contributed had one thing in common: regret.
Whether 24 hours later or five years later, most said they wished they had never made the mistake of starting, or just left their unloving relationships instead of hurting their other half by cheating.
& # 39; I think it's important, & # 39; said one person, & # 39; that we are not all scum. Things are not always black and white. & # 39;
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