Cage fighter who gets spayed at age 28 becomes fertility sex guru advising couples trying to conceive
A cage fighter who was sterilized at 28 for never wanting children has become a sex and relationship guru for couples trying to conceive.
Faith Roswell, 34, from London, believes her bohemian way of life – living on a canal boat and traveling the world for years as a model, influencer and speaker on female empowerment – makes her the perfect pain aunt for those with fertility issues.
Currently single, Faith, who has always “hated the idea of having a baby,” recently landed a role as a sex and relationship expert for Best Fertility Now, an online magazine devoted to fertility issues.
Faith Roswell, 34, from London, has always “hate the idea of having a baby” herself, but now works as a sex expert for Best Fertility Now, a magazine devoted to fertility issues
She said: ‘I understand that people may find it a little strange at first to be a sore aunt on this subject, but I would encourage them to read my advice before sending me away.
‘I offer a different perspective and I have a lot of life experience that I can offer.’
She was just 18 when she first approached her doctor and said she wanted to be spayed. It wasn’t until she was 28 that Faith finally got her wish granted by the NHS.
She said, ‘I never wanted children. Even as a kid, I hated the idea of having a baby.
‘I never had a motherly wish. Every time I saw people having children, I knew it wasn’t for me.
“I think it should be a conscious decision and choice to have a child. If it’s not an enthusiastic “yes”, then it should be a no.
The cage fighter was just 18 when she first approached her doctor saying she wanted to be spayed and after 10 years of constant requests she had her tubes tied up at the NHS at 28
“When I was younger, we played palm games and when it came to the rules that predicted how many children you would have, I always hoped mine wouldn’t be one.
“It never changed and the older I got, the more certain I was that it just wasn’t the path for me.
“So when I was 18, I started asking if I was going to be spayed. I was refused, because doctors said I would change my mind, so I insisted that my request be added to my notes and asked every six months from then on.
‘It took a while to get the approval but the NHS finally approved the surgery in June 2016 when I was 28 and my fallopian tubes were tied.
“It’s the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m so happy.’
Despite never wanting children, Faith believes her romantic history and life experience allow her to provide “painful auntie style” sex tips for couples dealing with fertility issues.
While Faith believes her romantic history, including several long-term relationships, makes her ideally suited to give aunty-style sex tips, she also believes her interesting background will help women who cannot conceive. realize they can still have sex. a wonderful life without children.
With her modeling career leading her to gigs and then training as a cage fighter, Faith said, “I have a great life.
‘As a model and speaker I have traveled all over the world. I live on a tour boat and just before Covid I made a documentary about abandoned buildings.
“I have to travel to some amazing places. The most incredible place I’ve ever been is Iceland. I also traveled alone through California on public transportation to visit the Salvation Mountains. It was great and I made fantastic friends.
She said she has empathy for couples and also thinks her interesting background will help women who can’t conceive realize that they can still have a great life without children.
“I had nothing to hold me back. In addition to modeling, I am a performer, cage fighter and writer and as a self-employed person I choose my hours.
‘I am currently single. I would like to meet someone, but it is not a life goal. I guess I have other things in life to focus on and I’m not much of a fan of the online dating scene.
“My life is busy, but it is so fulfilling. I think I’m showing women that if their dreams of having children don’t come true, it’s not the end for them as a woman. There is another side to a child-free life.’
When online magazine Best Fertility Now offered her a job as a sex and relationship expert in March, Faith was delighted.
She said, ‘I was surprised at first, if I’m honest. But I love it.
“People always say there’s a big gap between child-free women and women who have children. I don’t think there is in real life.
Faith said she doesn’t give medical advice because her role is to help couples emotionally through the process and provide tips to make things more exciting and keep their love lives adventurous.
“I love helping couples. But my advice isn’t just for couples trying to conceive, it’s for anyone struggling with these issues. I think the magazine wants to expand and help as many women as possible.
“I think I’m showing women that kids aren’t everything. There are other options, and unfortunately if your toad doesn’t have children, it doesn’t mean your life is over.
“I hope I’m showing them that no matter what happens, it’s going to be okay.”
Despite never wanting children, Faith believes she still has empathy for couples who fear the families they want so much are out of reach.
Faith’s four frisky tips for couples trying for a baby
1. Think outside the box
Get out of the house and change it. Go on a mini break and don’t always have sex in the same place. Make it interesting.
2. Date like a teenager
Buy a McDonalds, sit in a field and see where it leads you. Have a date and make it something really fun.
3. Take a break
If trying to conceive becomes too much and you don’t feel like it, take a break. Leave the schedule for a moment and talk about what you want.
If it doesn’t happen and you lose your sex drive, pushing yourself isn’t the answer.
4. You don’t have to have a baby through sex
There are other ways to have a baby. Think of other options.
Take the pressure off, consider the different options for having a baby like adoption or surrogacy.
“I don’t give medical advice,” she said. ‘I only focus on sex and relationships.
“I’m there to help them emotionally through the process. I can really empathize with the stress it causes for the couples I work with and I’m here to help them form healthy communication.
“From friends who have been trying to have a baby for a long time, I know it can be very difficult, even monotonous.
“I think I can help couples spice things up and provide a perspective on their relationship beyond making a baby.
“As a tormenting aunt, you don’t have to go through everything you write about to give good advice.
“What I’m offering is a different perspective outside the baby-centered world.”
And Faith believes she is eminently qualified to advise people on how to keep their love life adventurous.
She said: ‘My first advice to couples who are a little bored in the sex department and trying to conceive is becoming too much is to make love as teenagers.
“Go to McDonalds, grab a burger, then drive to a field and try something else.
“Get in a car, drive to the middle of nowhere. Do it somewhere else, somewhere exciting. Change it from being in the bedroom at a specific time on a specific day.
‘Even book a mini-vacation. Just get out of the house, I think you should take a break from the routine. If you always do it in the same position in the same position, you will get bored.’
Faith also reminds readers not to be too demanding when it comes to trying for a baby.
She said, “Don’t insist on trying if the other person isn’t in the mood.
“Even if you’re trying to conceive, sex should still be about the same thing and having fun.”
And while she likes to be childfree, she would never try to force her own choices on others.
She said, ‘I don’t try to convince people to make the same choice as me.
‘Sometimes people think that childfree women have an agenda, but I just want to help.
“I’ve had breakups, long-term relationships and I’ve been single and had fun.
“So I may be childfree by choice, but that doesn’t mean I can’t help couples trying to have a baby.”